Law 9 - Win Arguments With Action Flashcards
What does the other person feel when you argue with them?
- Ill-will
- Resentment
- Insult to their intelligence
- Insecure
- Inferiority in their beliefs
Can you ever win an argument?
No. They interpret your words differently at different times based on their moods.
What reasoning do you have to fight back when your brain tells you to argue?
- “But I MUST argue!”
- “I’m the best”
- “I KNOW I’m right”
- “Of COURSE they’ll see my logic”
- “I’m neutral”
- “Listen to the reasoning!”
What do you definitely NOT do when someone tries to argue with you?
Use words to express your contrary opinion
What do you establish in your opponent by not arguing?
- Opponents don’t get defensive
- They are more open to persuasion
What are the different techniques you can use to win an argument?
- Change their perspective
- Demonstrate
- Use a symbol
- Make them physically feel it
What do you do first when you’re presented with an argument and you’ve prevented yourself from responding verbally?
You agree with them, and THEN, you ask yourself - “does it matter to you to bring them around to your opinion?”
If NO, then leave it.
If YES, then you pick one technique.
When do you choose not to bother convincing someone of your point of view?
If it doesn’t matter in the long run that they agree with you
From least to most effort, enumerate ways to win an argument
- Time and their own experience
- Symbols
- Change their perspective
- Demonstrate
- Make them physically feel it
How do you change someone’s perspective?
Like michaelangelo, you gently guide them to a different point of view, make them think it was their idea and don’t make them realise that this was the cause for them being wrong
What is the advantage of using symbols to win your argument?
Without saying a word, you can harness the power of a symbol that everyone understands the meaning of
What is the only situation in which you argue?
When you’re caught in a lie or in deception. At this point you argue emotionally and vehemently.
