- Loss of vision - Loss of control - Loss of reason - Slows down response

- clouds vision - makes you lose control of the situation - Heightens enemy's resolve

Basics + Law 3 Flashcards by J T

Congenial

Cunning

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Democratic

Devious

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Elegant

Silence and Secrecy

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Fair

Outwitting and thwarting opponents

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Overt force

Seduction, charm and deception

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Coercion

Tactical thinking, planning several moves ahead

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Outright treachery

Subtle strategy, constant vigilance

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What is the single GREATEST barrier to power?

An emotional response to a situation

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Effects of emotion

Loss of vision
Loss of control
Loss of reason
Slows down response

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Effects of anger

clouds vision
makes you lose control of the situation
Heightens enemy’s resolve

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When you let yourself feel love

It blinds you to the self-serving interests of your “lover”

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How do you master your emotions?

One eye to the past, one to the future

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What should you NOT do while looking to the past to master your emotions?

hold a grudge
remember a past hurt
keep holding on to events of the past that haunt you/keep eating at you

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How do you classify events of the past

those that eat away at you – they cloud your reason

- those you can evaluate according to the laws and figure out what you did wrong

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Mastering your emotions basic criteria

One eye to the past (learning from past mistakes based on the laws), one eye to the future (plan for every eventuality)

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What should you avoid doing while looking to the future

Dreaming of your plan’s happy ending

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What should you look out for while looking into the future to master your emotions?

imagine problems before they arise
evaluate EVERY pitfall that can occur
plan to tackle the problem before it arises

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How does looking into the future help with your power?

The further into the future you plan, the more the possible pitfalls you deal with before they arise, the more the steps ahead you can see, the greater your power.

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Maxims of power wrt emotional mastery

Learn to break the patterns of the past, and CONSTANT VIGILANCE.

Weapons of power

Deception
Patience
Differentiating actions from “intentions”
Evaluating things by what they cost you

How do you practice deception?

learn to wear many masks
conceal your intentions
practice luring people into traps

How do you develop patience?

plan and see several steps into the future

- “everything good WILL happen” (Varys and the sorcerer”

Do you judge someone by looking through a set of moral judgments

No, by looking at the effects of their actions

Which one is more desirable from an enemy - good intentions, or politeness?

Politeness

How do you calculate something's value?

What you pay for it, NOT what you attain with it.

What is the currency of power?

Peace of mind; your time.

How do you learn to spend your power currency?

- learn what to NOT do | - learn how hat to NOT let yourself get dragged into

What does understanding other people's hidden motivations help you to do?

It opens up endless possibilities in: - deception - seduction - manipulation

__________ everyone, __________ no one

Study everyone, trust no one.

Indirection

Non-confrontation. Plan and develop your moves in the least obvious way.

What are the steps in seducing someone, according to Ninon de Lenclos?

1. Nonchalance - throw her off the scent 2. Make her jealous - show how desired you are 3. Confuse her - don't show up anywhere, show up everywhere * ** - Never reveal your true intentions Goal: total unpredictability

What is better than announcing your intentions?

Suggestion. Throw them off the scent, scramble your signals.

How do you handle ambition and cunning?

You never show them. Never mislead someone and then tell them about your motives.

What are the advantages of showing complete false sincerity?

You will 1. Deceive everyone 2. Conceal your purpose 3. Attain everything you want

When you have an opinion ("I feel this way about xyz"), or plans and intentions, what do you do?

1. Control your tongue | 2. Monitor what you reveal

Is honesty the best policy?

No.

Instead of being honest, ________

tailor your words, tell them what they want to hear.

What is a red herring?

- an object you SEEM to desire - a goal you SEEM to aim for - an idea or object that is contrary to your own beliefs

What does a red herring do?

Makes people believe what they SEE. Throws them off the scent.

What happens when you close down (to conceal your intentions)?

1. You appear secretive | 2. It makes people suspicious

How do you prevent people from suspecting your intentions?

Talk endlessly about your "desires" and "goals"

What happens when you talk endlessly about your "desires" and "goals"?

1. You appear friendly and open 2. It conceals your intentions 3. You send your rivals on wild goose chases

What are the methods of concealing intentions?

1. Red herring 2. False sincerity 3. Smokescreens a. bland, familiar exterior b. pattern c. seamless blend d. noble gesture e. "honesty", helpfulness and self-abasement to win the skeptic's trust.

What do you use false sincerity primarily for?

To show people how much you believe in honesty and forthrightness.

How do you set yourself up to appear the paragon of honesty and forthrightness?

1. Occasionally divulge a "heartfelt thought" (actually meaningless and irrelevant) 2. "Reveal" some "secret" and take people into your confidence

How do you win over suspicious/wary people?

Win their trust in ONE area. 1. Helpful gesture 2. Apparently honest gesture 3. A gesture that implies the other person's superiority

How does a bland, harmless persona help you?

Lull them into a false sense of security. "How can someone so harmless be doing something cunning on the side?"