Confrontation & Conflict Management

Question 1

Boundary related attitude towards screaming

Answer 1

Screaming is what children do
And children are the only people that really have to put up with getting screamed at by unhappy parents who didn’t get what they want

Never scream at your partner and never choose to be screamed at. You are not a child, and neither is your partner. There’s no excuse for either of you t either of

Question 2

Guilt Messages v. Genuine Feelings of Guilt

Answer 2

How to tell the difference:
1) examine the person’s intentions. Are they saying these things to you with the attention of helping you improve as a person, or are they saying it to get something they want from you
2) if it feels like an attack, that’s because they are angry and they are trying to hide it and it’s coming out as being past progressive.
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Question 3

Forgiveness v. reconciliation

Answer 3

You can, and should, forgive people you can, and should, forgive people. But that doesn’t mean that you have to reconcile with them. Only reconcile with people who demonstrate to you that they’re not going to repeat the behavior.