Conflict Flashcards
Conflict
Disagreements, opposing viewpoints or struggles for power between people
Types of Conflict
-Interpersonal
-Intrapersonal
Interpersonal conflict
Conflict among two or more people
Intrapersonal
Conflict within the individual
Types of intrapersonal conflict
-Approach conflict
-Avoidance conflict
-Approach-avoidance conflict
Approach conflict
An individual must choose among alternatives, each of which is expected to have a positive outcome
Avoidance conflict
-An individual must choose among alternatives, each of which is expected to have a negative outcome
Approach-avoidance conflict
An individual must decide whether to do something that has both positive and negative outcomes
Strategies for resolving conflict
-Be assertive- don’t be aggressive but state your problem
-Use I- statements: Let the other person know how you feel and use I- statements
-Don’t accuse- Try not to blame the other person. Accept the conflict and deal with it
-Move on when the conflict is over, move on and don’t refer to the previous conflict
Stages in a relationship
-Initiating
-Building
-Sustaining
Initiating positive relationships
-Establish trust, be open and talk about what is important to you and let the other person get to know who you are
-Be honest, express yourself and discuss your thoughts and feelings sincerely
-Be attentive and listen attentively and be genuinely interested in what the other person has to say
-Take time to know each other
Building
-Treat each other with respect and appreciate each other’s uniqueness. Respect the rights of everyone and understand each other’s emotions
-Behave appropriately, be kind and generous and accept responsibility for your actions , support each other and display commitment
-Communicate with honesty, develop empathy and control your emotions
Sustain
-Share what is important to you and show that you trust and appreciate the other person and share your feelings, ideas and opinion
-Be compassionate, allow one to understand and support
-Trust each other and be honest
-Accept the views, beliefs or behaviours of others different from in which you will both feel accepted and appreciated in the relationship
Effective communication
A two-way information-sharing process which involves one party sending a message that is easily understood by the receiving party
-Its about understanding the emotion and intentions behind the information given as well as being able to clearly convey a message
Factors that influence effective communication
-Personality
-Attitudes and values
-Acceptance of responsibility
-Appropriate expression of views and feelings
-Respect the feelings of others
Personality meaning
The way you act, behave and react and your attitudes all form part of your personality
Attitudes and values
Attitudes affect communication.
If you think that only your ideas, beliefs and values are right and you do not show respect, you will not be a good listener and will not allow others to freely express their views. This will block communication between you and other people and can lead to conflict
Acceptance of responsibility
Effective communication can only happen where there is trust, reliability and responsibility
Responsibility
You are accountable of your actions and do your duty
Appropriate expression of views and feelings
You say what you think and feel but in a way that does not hurt or offend others
Respect the feelings of others
When you show respect for the feelings of others they will show respect for you and you feelings