Chapter 8 Flashcards
Define Interpersonal Attraction
the interest and appeal of other people in a platonic relationship. Also being physically and sexually attracted to someone
What are the factors that influence a relationship?
- Appearance
- Similarity
- complimentary
- Rewards
- Competence
- Disclosure
- Proximity
Define appearance as an influence of a relationship
physical appearance is the first thing we notice about someone.
Define similarity as an influence in a relationship
People are more attracted to people who are similar to them.
Define complimentary as an influence in a relationship
Differences in a relationship can strengthen it when the characteristics satisfy the other’s needs
Define rewards as an influence in a relationship
we are more attracted to relationships that we gain things from
Social Exchange theory
Theory that suggests we seek out people who can give us rewards that are greater or equal in cost.
Define the comparison level
the minimum standard of what behaviour is acceptable from a relationship partner
Define the comparison level of alternatives
The standard is a comparison between the rewards being received and those that can be expected to receive in others.
Define competence as an influence in a relationship.
we like to be around talented people that are also accompanied by some flaws
Define proximity as an influence in a relationship
It is easier to develop relationships with people we interact with frequently.
Define Disclosure as an influence in a relationship
telling others important information about yourself builds a liking both in person and through mediated communication. Forms trust and respect.
what are the forms of intimacy?
- Emotional
- physical
- intellectual
Define Emotional Intimacy
Sharing important information and feelings. Sharing positive emotions supports relationship building because it promotes trust
Define Physical intimacy
Physical touch can be comforting and forms a stronger bond.
Define Intellectual Intimacy
The exchange of important details
What are Knapp’s 10 stages on intimacy
- Initiating
- Experimenting
- Intensifying
- Integrating
- Bonding
- Differentiating
- Circumscribing
- Stagnating
- Avoiding
- Terminating
Define the Initiating stage
Making the first contact with someone. The conversation is brief. We are trying to decide if we want a relationship with this person.
Define the Experimenting stage
Figuring out what you both like and more personal details about each other
Define the intensifying stage
Interactions increase and depth of disclosure increases
Define the integrating Stage
Taking on an identity as a social unit
Define the bonding Stage
partners make symbolic public gestures to show the world that their relationship exists and that a commitment has been made.
Define the differentiating stage
re-establishing who you are as an individual after establishing a committed relationship
Define the circumscribing stage
Contact with each other becomes seldom and shared interests shrink.
Define the stagnating stage
Now growth occurs in the relationship and boredom sets in,
Define the Avoiding Stage
Creating distance between each other through avoidance
Define the terminating stage
The relationship ends.
Define content messages
the subject being discussed
define relational messages
making statements about how the communicators feel about each other
define metacommunication
messages that refer to other messages.
define relational maintenance
communication that keeps relationships running smoothly and satisfactorily
what are the 5 common strategies of relational maintenance?
- openness
- assurance
- joint activities
- positivity
- social networks
Define openness as relational maintenance
disclosing information, being empathetic, talking about the relationship and listening to each other.
Define assurance as relational maintenance
Letting the other person known (verbally and nonverbally) that the relationship is important, comforting each other, and being supportive.
Define joint activities as relational maintenance
spending time with each other
Define positivity as relational maintenance
trying to make interactions pleasant and cheerful, showing affection and avoiding criticism.
Define social networks as relational maintenance
being invested in each other’s friends and family.
What are the different social support types?
- emotional support
- information support
- instrumental support
Define emotional support
Listening with empathy, focusing on the speaker’s emotions and feelings.
Define informative support
Giving advice to the person. This should be at the request of the person.
Define instrumental support
Doing a task as a favour to someone to show that you care. This task should not in any way be for personal gain or out of pity.
Define relaional Trangressions
When one relationship partner violates the explicit or implicit terms of the relationship, thereby letting the other one down.
What are the types of relational transgressions
- Lack of commitment
- Distance
- Disrespect
- Problematic emotions
- Aggression
What relational transgressions are minor? Which ones are large
Small amounts of distance and jealousy are okay, but in large doses can be fatal
