Chapter 8

Question 1

Define Interpersonal Attraction

Answer 1

the interest and appeal of other people in a platonic relationship. Also being physically and sexually attracted to someone

Question 2

What are the factors that influence a relationship?

Answer 2

• Appearance
• Similarity
• complimentary
• Rewards
• Competence
• Disclosure
• Proximity

Question 3

Define appearance as an influence of a relationship

Answer 3

physical appearance is the first thing we notice about someone.

Question 4

Define similarity as an influence in a relationship

Answer 4

People are more attracted to people who are similar to them.

Question 5

Define complimentary as an influence in a relationship

Answer 5

Differences in a relationship can strengthen it when the characteristics satisfy the other’s needs

Question 6

Define rewards as an influence in a relationship

Answer 6

we are more attracted to relationships that we gain things from

Question 7

Social Exchange theory

Answer 7

Theory that suggests we seek out people who can give us rewards that are greater or equal in cost.

Question 8

Define the comparison level

Answer 8

the minimum standard of what behaviour is acceptable from a relationship partner

Question 9

Define the comparison level of alternatives

Answer 9

The standard is a comparison between the rewards being received and those that can be expected to receive in others.

Question 10

Define competence as an influence in a relationship.

Answer 10

we like to be around talented people that are also accompanied by some flaws

Question 11

Define proximity as an influence in a relationship

Answer 11

It is easier to develop relationships with people we interact with frequently.

Question 12

Define Disclosure as an influence in a relationship

Answer 12

telling others important information about yourself builds a liking both in person and through mediated communication. Forms trust and respect.

Question 13

what are the forms of intimacy?

Answer 13

• Emotional
• physical
• intellectual

Question 14

Define Emotional Intimacy

Answer 14

Sharing important information and feelings. Sharing positive emotions supports relationship building because it promotes trust

Question 15

Define Physical intimacy

Answer 15

Physical touch can be comforting and forms a stronger bond.

Question 16

Define Intellectual Intimacy

Answer 16

The exchange of important details

Question 17

What are Knapp’s 10 stages on intimacy

Answer 17

1. Initiating
2. Experimenting
3. Intensifying
4. Integrating
5. Bonding
6. Differentiating
7. Circumscribing
8. Stagnating
9. Avoiding
10. Terminating

Question 18

Define the Initiating stage

Answer 18

Making the first contact with someone. The conversation is brief. We are trying to decide if we want a relationship with this person.

Question 19

Define the Experimenting stage

Answer 19

Figuring out what you both like and more personal details about each other

Question 20

Define the intensifying stage

Answer 20

Interactions increase and depth of disclosure increases

Question 21

Define the integrating Stage

Answer 21

Taking on an identity as a social unit

Question 22

Define the bonding Stage

Answer 22

partners make symbolic public gestures to show the world that their relationship exists and that a commitment has been made.

Question 23

Define the differentiating stage

Answer 23

re-establishing who you are as an individual after establishing a committed relationship

Question 24

Define the circumscribing stage

Answer 24

Contact with each other becomes seldom and shared interests shrink.

Question 25

Define the stagnating stage

Answer 25

Now growth occurs in the relationship and boredom sets in,

Question 26

Define the Avoiding Stage

Answer 26

Creating distance between each other through avoidance

Question 27

Define the terminating stage

Answer 27

The relationship ends.

Question 28

Define content messages

Answer 28

the subject being discussed

Question 29

define relational messages

Answer 29

making statements about how the communicators feel about each other

Question 30

define metacommunication

Answer 30

messages that refer to other messages.

Question 31

define relational maintenance

Answer 31

communication that keeps relationships running smoothly and satisfactorily

Question 32

what are the 5 common strategies of relational maintenance?

Answer 32

1. openness
2. assurance
3. joint activities
4. positivity
5. social networks

Question 33

Define openness as relational maintenance

Answer 33

disclosing information, being empathetic, talking about the relationship and listening to each other.

Question 34

Define assurance as relational maintenance

Answer 34

Letting the other person known (verbally and nonverbally) that the relationship is important, comforting each other, and being supportive.

Question 35

Define joint activities as relational maintenance

Answer 35

spending time with each other

Question 36

Define positivity as relational maintenance

Answer 36

trying to make interactions pleasant and cheerful, showing affection and avoiding criticism.

Question 37

Define social networks as relational maintenance

Answer 37

being invested in each other’s friends and family.

Question 38

What are the different social support types?

Answer 38

• emotional support
• information support
• instrumental support

Question 39

Define emotional support

Answer 39

Listening with empathy, focusing on the speaker’s emotions and feelings.

Question 40

Define informative support

Answer 40

Giving advice to the person. This should be at the request of the person.

Question 41

Define instrumental support

Answer 41

Doing a task as a favour to someone to show that you care. This task should not in any way be for personal gain or out of pity.

Question 42

Define relaional Trangressions

Answer 42

When one relationship partner violates the explicit or implicit terms of the relationship, thereby letting the other one down.

Question 43

What are the types of relational transgressions

Answer 43

• Lack of commitment
• Distance
• Disrespect
• Problematic emotions
• Aggression

Question 44

What relational transgressions are minor? Which ones are large

Answer 44

Small amounts of distance and jealousy are okay, but in large doses can be fatal