Chapter 6 Section 2 Flashcards
Friendship
relationship based on mutual trust, acceptance, common interests/values
What do people look for in their friends?
honest reactions
encouragement during bad times
understanding when they make mistakes
sense of belonging
What can interacting with friends build?
self-esteem and knowledge about ourselves
What can be more enjoyable?
studying, roller-skating, washing car (something that may seem silly to do along an be fun to do with friends
Name the 3 types of friends
casual, close, opposite-sex
Casual friends
have same school, live in the same neighborhood, have same interests; SHORT TERM offer the chance to have fun, try new things, learn to get along with a variety of people
Tips on making friends
- be yourself; don’t put on act
- join groups that share your values/activities you like
- treat everyone with respect
- take a little time to talk with people you know casually
- ask questions that require more than just a yes or no answer
close friends have similar…
goals, values, interests
Close friend qualities
loyalty, honesty, empathy, reliability
gender roles
behaviors and attitudes that are socially accepted either masculine or feminine
Various emotions amongst friends of opposite sex
tenderness and assertiveness; emotion is appropriate according to type of situation
friends with the opposite sex without romance can…
allow you to feel comfortable with members of the opposite sex and allow you to develop fully as a person
friendship problems
envy, jealousy, cruelty, cliques
When can envy occur? Sources?
occurs when 1 person has something that the other person desires; can be from appearance, talent, possessions, or popularity
When can jealousy occur?
when a “best” friend wants to develop more close friendships and the first friend feels left out
how to solve envy/jealousy feelings?
- I messages for open feelings
- do it in person/by writing
- listen to friend’s POV and try to understand his/her feelings (active listening)
Sources of cruelty
May not be bc of you; friend is facing problems at home, school, elsewhere
clique
narrow, exclusive group of people with similar backgrounds/interests who don’t accept different people
negativity of cliques
- derive a person of forming variety of friendships
- discourages members from thinking/acting independently
- experience PEER PRESSURE (need to conform to the expectations of friends)
health skills helping you avoid negative peer pressure…
decision making, refusal skills, setting goals, being assertive
How to avoid negative peer pressure friends?
Choose friends wisely; people who care about you, share your values, support your goals
