Chapter 3 - Reading Flashcards
The liars club
Characters mother and character are all totally unregulated
Why control ourselves at all
Get along and get ahead
The need to control oneself
Social exclusion is really bad - triggers immune response
Avoiding exclusion means self-regulating so we do not violate a strongly held group norm
So the great challenge of social actors is to control the performance
Goffman; actors work hard to manage the impressions of others by monitoring themselves
Freud & Merd on self-regulation
Self-regulation depends on the observation of the actor by an audience, be that audience in the real world or the mind. In social life, we watch others and ourselves. We regulate each other and ourselves. In this reflective, observing sense, we regulate ourselves and others.
After 2 - I & Me
Once the I can reflect on the Me, the I can control the presentation of the self on the central stage.
What assists the I to control the me?
Control emotions; embarrassment, shame, pride, guilt
Over time we learn what produces these and become used to working with them or socialized into behaviour that respects them
Being observed and prosocial behaviour
Mirror
Objective self awareness
Leads to prosocial behaviour
Even if the observer is just a mirror
Objective self awareness whereby the actor becomes explicitly aware of the self as an object of perception
Such an awareness is a check on the free expression of impulses, urges and disruptive emotions
Social factors influence the mirror test
Japanese people are less influent by mirrors
Culturally, their social group monitors the individual so the state of objective self-awareness ,ay be more the explicit norm in japan than NA
Metaphorically, the Japanese have mirrors in their heads
Ego depletion
Yeah right
Emotions function
The provide advisory functions
Functional appraisals of self and the world
Give you advice on how things are going
Regulating these into advise is the fx of self regulation
New borns and self-regulation
cannot self-regulate
people sooth and caress them
Cultural norms regarding baseline emotions
Individualistic - high arousal, positive affect
Might even encourage venting negative emotions
Collectivist - Dampen joy as well as anger
Strong emotional expressions threaten the collective harmony
Reinforce low arousal, positive eg joy
Emotion regulation
6 months old
Turn away from unpleasant stimuli
Emotion regulation
12 months
Rock themselves
Move away from upsetting things
2 years
Cope with frustration by talking to companions
Playing with toys
Distracting themselves from sources of -ve
Knit their brows and compress lips to suppress negative emotion
2-3 years
More strategic
Instead of fear/anger - turn to caretaker and look sad
Learned its more successful in recruiting support
Securely attached kids
Healthier patterns of cortisol
Can check with care givers to learn of behaviour is good or bad
Therefore better emotional regulation and behaviour
Internalized working model
Established of attachment relationship
Taken from one situation from another
therefore never on stage alone