Chapter 2 "Master my Stories" Flashcards

1
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What sets the tone for everything that follows during the initial interaction?

A

The persons behavior in the first few seconds

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2
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How many sentences do you have to establish the climate of the interaction?

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1 or 2

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3
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If leaders start out with strong emotions and believe that they are on the moral high ground the interactions is likely to….

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turn out bad for everyone involved.

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4
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What is the “Hazardous Half Minute”?

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The first 30 seconds of an accountability discussion.

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5
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The climate becomes “visible” when?

A

The first 30 seconds

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6
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We “establish a climate” the moment we?

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assume the other person is guilty and begin to feel angry or morally superior

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7
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The path of why someone did something in our head looks like this:

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See & Hear > Tell a Story > Feel > Act

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8
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See and Hear > Tell a Story > Feel > Act – Breakdown

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We SEE what the person did
Tell ourselves a STORY about WHY they did it
Which leads to a FEELING
Which leads to our own ACTIONS

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9
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What was the name of the studies performed in the 1950’s and 1960’s to determine how normal people would determine the cause of a problem?

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Attribution Studies

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10
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What was the chief error people made when determining the cause of a problem?

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We assume people do what they do because of personality factors ALONE.

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11
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Most of the time human beings employ what type of view of others?

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Dispositional (the do things because of uncontrollable personality factors)

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12
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When looking at others from a Situational View what factors are being considered?

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Forces of the environment.

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13
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The Fundamental Attribution Error is:

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assuming that others do contrary things because it’s in their makeup or they actually enjoy doing them and then ignoring any other potential motivational forces is a mistake.

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14
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In what condition do people more readily make fundamental attribution errors?

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Adverse Conditions

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15
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What happens when you choose SILENCE over dealing with an issue?

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  • You give tacit approval for the action
  • Other may think you are playing favorites
  • Each time the person repeats the offense, you see the new offense as evidence that your story about his or her motives was correct.
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16
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It can be easy to jump from silence to _______ if you let problems gnaw at you for too long.

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Violence

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17
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What can happen due to a lengthy period of tortured silence?

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Sudden and Unexpected Emotional Explosion

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18
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Who once argued “that what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger”

A

Friedrich Nietzsche

19
Q

People don’t _______ to be abused, physically or emotionally.

A

deserve

20
Q

When you switch to Violence you become?

A

Hypocritical, Abusive, and Clinically Stupid

21
Q

How long does it take to transfer goodwill?

A

an instant

22
Q

Does acting unprofessionally ever earn you points?

A

No

23
Q

Stories cause us to see the other person as a?

A

Thing

24
Q

Accountability Experts set a healthy climate by avoiding?

A

Ugly Stories

25
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When a Positive Deviant witnesses an infraction they ask themselves what question?

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Why would a reasonable, rational, and decent person do that?

26
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What type of questions is “Why would a reasonable, rational, and decent person do that?”

A

Humanizing Question

27
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A “humanizing question” allows that individual, that ask it, to gain a?

A

Situational and Dispositional view of people

28
Q

There are 6 Sources of Influence:

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1 - Personal Motivation
2 - Personal Ability 
3 - Social Motivation
4 - Social Ability
5 - Structural Motivation
6 - Structural Ability
29
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There are two types of behavior selections that influence people:

A

Motivation

Ability

30
Q

The Behavior Selections are influenced by?

A

Self (Personal), Others (Social), and Things (Structural)

31
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Personal Motivation:

A

People base their actions on their individual motivation or disposition.

32
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Personal Ability:

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Is the person mentally and physically capable of doing the job.

33
Q

What source of Influence when considered alone makes up the Fundamental Attribution Error?

A

Personal Motivation

34
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Social Motivation:

A

Peer Pressure

35
Q

What is the mother of all stupidity?

A

Social Peer Pressure

36
Q

Social Ability:

A

In order to complete your job others must be willing to provide you with help, information, tools, materials, and sometimes permission.

37
Q

When you fail to recognize the social problem you are causing you are said to have the?

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Eyeballs Problem, your on the wrong side of them to see what your are doing.

38
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Structural Motivation:

A

Formal rewards systems that include money, promotions, job assignments, benefits, bonuses, etc.

39
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Structural Ability:

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“things” can often provide a bridge or barrier.
Gadgets have a profound impact on behavior
Data in the form of informing your employees the cost of things, may cause them to change their behavior

40
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What determines the frequency of human interaction?

A

Proximity (distance between people)

41
Q

An ounce of information might be worth a _______ of accountability decisions.

A

pound

42
Q

When not know for certain what s going on you must replace anger with?

A

Curiosity

43
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A prerequisite to effective accountability is?

A

Understanding what influences others

44
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The Six Sources of Influence when combined make-up the?

A

Six-Source Model, a diagnostic and influence tool.