Chapter 2 "Master my Stories" Flashcards
What sets the tone for everything that follows during the initial interaction?
The persons behavior in the first few seconds
How many sentences do you have to establish the climate of the interaction?
1 or 2
If leaders start out with strong emotions and believe that they are on the moral high ground the interactions is likely to….
turn out bad for everyone involved.
What is the “Hazardous Half Minute”?
The first 30 seconds of an accountability discussion.
The climate becomes “visible” when?
The first 30 seconds
We “establish a climate” the moment we?
assume the other person is guilty and begin to feel angry or morally superior
The path of why someone did something in our head looks like this:
See & Hear > Tell a Story > Feel > Act
See and Hear > Tell a Story > Feel > Act – Breakdown
We SEE what the person did
Tell ourselves a STORY about WHY they did it
Which leads to a FEELING
Which leads to our own ACTIONS
What was the name of the studies performed in the 1950’s and 1960’s to determine how normal people would determine the cause of a problem?
Attribution Studies
What was the chief error people made when determining the cause of a problem?
We assume people do what they do because of personality factors ALONE.
Most of the time human beings employ what type of view of others?
Dispositional (the do things because of uncontrollable personality factors)
When looking at others from a Situational View what factors are being considered?
Forces of the environment.
The Fundamental Attribution Error is:
assuming that others do contrary things because it’s in their makeup or they actually enjoy doing them and then ignoring any other potential motivational forces is a mistake.
In what condition do people more readily make fundamental attribution errors?
Adverse Conditions
What happens when you choose SILENCE over dealing with an issue?
- You give tacit approval for the action
- Other may think you are playing favorites
- Each time the person repeats the offense, you see the new offense as evidence that your story about his or her motives was correct.
It can be easy to jump from silence to _______ if you let problems gnaw at you for too long.
Violence
What can happen due to a lengthy period of tortured silence?
Sudden and Unexpected Emotional Explosion