Chapter 19

Question 1

intimacy versus isolation

Answer 1

the sixth of erikson’s eight stages of development, adults seek someone with whom to share their lives in an enduring and self-sacrificing commitment. without such commitment, they risk profound aloneness and isolation

Question 2

linked lives

Answer 2

lives in which the success, health, and wellbeing of each family member are connected to those of other members, including those of another generation, as in the relationship between parents and children

Question 3

helicopter parent

Answer 3

the label used for parents who hover (like a helicopter) over their emerging adult children. the term is pejorative, but parental involvement is sometimes helpful

Question 4

snowplow parent

Answer 4

parents who try to remove any impediments in the way of their children. this term is pejorative; it implies that parents do not allow children to learn how to overcome obstacles on their own

Question 5

hookup

Answer 5

a sexual encounter between two people who are not in a romantic relationship neither intimate nor commitment is expected

Question 6

choice overload

Answer 6

having so many possibilities that a thoughtful choice becomes difficult. this is particularly apparent when social networking and other technology make many potential romantic partners available

Question 7

cohabituation

Answer 7

an arrangement in which a couple lives together in a committed romantic relationship but are not formally married

Question 8

situational couple violence

Answer 8

fighting between romantic partners that is brought on more by the situation than by the deep personality problems of the individuals. both partners are typically victims and abusers

Question 9

intimate terrorism

Answer 9

a violent and demeaning form of abuse in a romantic relationship, in which the victim (usually female) is frightened to fight back; seek help or withdraw. in this case, the victim is in danger of physical as well as psychological harm