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Chapter 10- Interpersonal Reatoonships Flashcards

1
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What are the three characteristics of personal relationships?

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Explanatory ability

Predictive ability

Uniqueness

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What is explanatory ability?

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The more we know about a partner the better we can explain their behavior

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Example of explanatory ability?

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“He or she gets like this when he or she is upset”

Or laying low until someone’s emotions subside

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What is predictive ability

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The more we know about a relational partner, the better we can predict their next move

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Example of predictive ability

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He or she will calm down in a few minutes

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What is uniqueness

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The idiosyncratic words that outsiders don’t understand in a relationship

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Example of uniqueness

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There are specific topics in your family that we can talk about, who when and where can talk about them

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How do romantic relationships differ from friendships?

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Intimacy

Passion

Commitment

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The triangle of love is what?

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Intimacy

Passion

Commitment

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What does intimacy involve?

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Tenderness

Connection

Closeness

(Also warm feelings, and affection)

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Does intimacy remain stable over the relationship?

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Yes

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What, out of the love triangle, is the most important during the early stages of relationship development

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Passion

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What is passion

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The fireworks or sparks between people who are attracted to each other

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What else can passion entail?

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Desire for another based on emotional, intellectual, or spiritual attraction.

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What is commitment

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The decision to maintain and sustain a relationship based on love

The intention to stay together despite difficult times

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What is the strongest predictor of relational satisfaction, and the most stable characteristic in the triangle of love?

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Commitment

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17
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Why is it important to study interpersonal relationships?

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Relationships can affect our physical and psychological health, provide us with social support, affect our self concept, and have an impact on our future success and happiness.

It decreases the risk of death

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Example of social change theory

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Are you better off with him or without him

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Who founded the social change theory

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John thibaut

Harold H Kelley

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20
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Define social exchange theory

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Rewards and costs determine whether people develop maintain or terminate relationships

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21
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Define rewards in the social exchange theory

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Positive features of a relationship

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Define costs in the social exchange theory

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Negative features of the relationship

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What do social exchange theorists recommend when trying to decide to stay in a relationship or not

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Cost benefit analysis

Actually make a list of the rewards and costs

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Define comparison level when talking about the social exchange theory

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Enter relationships with the idea based on experiences inpast relationships and relationships we have observed among friends family and media

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The abbreviation for comparison level

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CL

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26
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When would we use comparison level of alternatives

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To compare the rewards we are receiving with those we may receive in alternate relationships

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Abbreviation for comparison level of alternatives

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CLalt

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28
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Who developed the social penetration theory

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Irwin Altman

Dalmas Taylor

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What is social penetration theory

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Relationships develop and change in terms of the type and death of the self disclosure between relational partners

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30
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Define self disclosure

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Act of willingly sharing information about ourselves with others

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When does self disclosure meet self penetration

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When topics move from general talking to fears

More depth

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32
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What is social penetration similar to? Why?

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Onion

We have many different layers

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33
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What is a deeply personal topic

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Do you believe in god

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34
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What is a medium deep topic

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Who did you vote for in the election

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35
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When do we develop intimate relationships with others?

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When we self disclose a wide breadth of topics in an in depth manner

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36
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What questions should we ask ourselves before deciding to engage in self disclosure

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Appropriate amount of info?
(No overwhelming)

Appropriate type of info?
(No frighten)

Embarrassed if disclosure goes to others?

Deal if disclosure is not reciprocated

Will it place an unfair burden on my partner?

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37
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What are the models of relational development?

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Stage models

Process models

Combination models

38
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What do stage models represent

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Classify relationships in distinct developmental phases

39
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What do process models represent?

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Describe relationship based on partners needs and attributions

40
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What do combination models represent?

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Which address the perspectives of both stage and process models

41
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What are the steps in a stage model

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Integration

Maintenance

Termination

42
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Who came up with the stage model

A

Mark knapp

Anita vangelisti

43
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An example of the stage model

A

Stair case model

Ten stage model

44
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What are the five stages of coming together according to knapp and vangelistis stage model

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Initiating
Experimenting
Intensifying
Integrating
Bonding
45
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What stage is known as the couple stage

A

Integrating

46
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What are the five stages of coming apart according to knapp and vangelistis stage model?

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Differentiating
Circumscribing
Stagnating
Avoiding
Terminating
47
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What is an issue with the stage model

A

It assumes that you need the lower steps to reach the higher steps

48
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Who developed the dialectical tension process model?

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Leslie Baxter

49
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What is the dialectical tension model?

A

Relationships evolve and change overtime because partners reassess and redefine their needs

50
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What is the autonomy connection dialectic?

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It reflects The tension between wanting to be independent and wanting to feel connected

51
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Example of autonomy connection

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Sometimes we want to be around ppl, other times we want to be alone to emphasize our individuality

Dressing diff than our friends

52
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What is novelty predictability

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Concerns the tension between wanting predictability and routine in a relationship and desiring novelty and newness

53
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Example of novelty predictability

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Sometimes we like our friends hanging in the same places, but every now and then we’ll switch it up and go to a new restaurant because we bored with the same things

54
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Define openness closeness dialectic

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The tension between wanting to self disclose and engage in open communication and desiring privacy

55
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What is an example of openness closedness dialectic

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A friend wants to date someone that is detrimental to them, but you see the person makes them happy so you bite back your tongue until they get rejected. Then you are there for support

56
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What are the four ways partners can deal with the tension caused by conflicting needs (not necessarily in romantic relations)

A

Neutralization

Selection

Separation

Reframing

57
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What is neutralization

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Giving up some of your wants so the relational partners needs can be partially met

58
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Example of neutralization?

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College kids away from home to be away from parents but can tolerate a phone call or two from mom

59
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What is selection

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Giving priority to a specific dialectic need in certain circumstances and placing emphasis on the opposing dialectic need in others

60
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Example of separation

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WORK VS VAYCAY

61
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What is reframing?

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Engaging in perspective taking to redefine opposing dialectics as no longer threatening a relationship

62
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Example of reframing

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A wife wanting to talk to a busy man after work

He doesn’t want to talk a cause talking requires him to work more

So she helps him relax instead

63
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What does the combination model represent?

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A description of relationship stages and explains that relational meanings change based on partners attributions

64
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What is the initiation stage of a relationship?

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The first words we utter to a potential relationship partner

65
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What is attraction theory

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We initiate relationships with people who are physically attractive, who are in physical proximity to us, and who are similar to us

66
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What is the wrong way to imitate a conversation?

A

Pick up lines

67
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What is the right way to initiate a conversation

A

Hi my name is — and I’ve seen you at — I’d like to get to know you better

68
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What are the characteristics of a direct approach

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Sincere, honest, and gets straight to the point

69
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What strategies follow the initiation strategies

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Bonding strategies

70
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What are two bonding strategies

A

Asking questions

Identification as a couple

71
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Why are asking questions important in the bonding stage

A

Get to know relational partner

72
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What are questions to ask your relational partner

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What do you look for in a friend

Do you like to socialize in groups

How do you like to spend your time

How would you define your personality

What matters to you in life

73
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What do bonding skills include

A

Nicknames
Jargon
“I think you’re a really good friend and I really like you”

74
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Define maintenance skills

A

Sustain the meaning of the relationship held by the relational partners

75
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What are maintenance skills similar to?

A

A flower garden

Gotta keep watering it for it to grow

76
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What are five strategies to maintain a relationship

A 
Positivity 
Openess
Assurances
Social networks
Sharing tasks
77
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What are examples of all five strategies to maintaining relationships?

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Positivity- b cheerful, avoid plagiarism, engage in pro social behaviors such as expressing appreciation

Openness- advice

Assurance- support, comfort, and communicate feelings

Social networks- accept relationships partners friends and fam

Sharing tasks- equally do chores

78
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How do we communicate the maintenance strategy of positivity?

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Appreciation- we feel grateful bout the relationship partner and relationship

79
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How do you communicate appreciation for a relational partner

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Describe the actions that we believe contribute to our wellbeing

Describe the particular need that the partner feels

Describe how we feel when our needs are fulfilled

80
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Example of appreciation

A

You knew I had to leave early(needs)

You finished up the report early (action)

I appreciate you going the extra mile for me (how I feel)

81
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When does appreciation become mundane

A

I appreciate you for doing th laundry

I appreciate

Thank you for
(All of these are without the other two steps)

82
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How do we improve relationships that seem to be in decline

A

Repair strategies

83
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Define relational transgressions

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Violate relational expectations or rules

84
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Examples of relational transgressions

A

Unfaithfulness

Lesser transgressions

Not talking about past relational partners

85
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When trying to repair a relationship, we should focus on

A

Identify a problem with the relationship (meta communication)

Decide which overall strategies and specific skills to use to repair the relationship

86
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What is a bad way to terminate a relationship

A

Manipulation

Withdrawal/Avoidance

87
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What is manipulation

A

Unethical

Entail intentionally provoking a relational partner into a break up

88
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Example of manipulation

A

An email left on the computer saying we are in a relationship with someone else

89
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What is withdraw

A

Indirect tactics such as redirecting the frequency AND or intimacy with a partner to achieve relational termination

90
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Examples of withdraw

A

Not returning phone calls

91
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What is the great way to terminate a relationship

A

Owning up to your feelings
“I don’t want to experience hurt anymore knowing that you continue to date other people. In the long run, it’ll be better if we stood seeing each other”

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