Chapter 10- Interpersonal Attraction: From First Impressions to Close Relationships Flashcards
self-expansion
- desire to blend with another person, so that you have access to that person’s knowledge, insights, and experience
- broadens your own experience
propinquity effect
- the more we see and interact with people, the more likely they are to become our friends
- b/c of familiarity
- relationships develop b/c “at the right place at the right time”
what determines attraction and propinquity
- ) physical distance
2. ) functional distance- how often paths cross
familiarity
- mere exposure effect
- more exposure to stimulus, the more we like it
- typically associate positive feelings with familiar things
- breeds attraction
similarity
- match between our demographics, interests, attitudes, values, background, experiences, looks or personality
- more similar -> more attracted
perceived similarity
- degree on how much one believes to be similar to another
- attraction as long as FEEL similar
reciprocal liking
- we like to be liked
- powerful enough to outweigh dissimilar aspects
What determines who we like
- ) propinquity
- ) similarity
- ) reciprocal liking
- ) physical appearance
- ) familiarity
what is attractive
- symmetrical faces
- big eyes
- prominent cheekbones (maturity)
- similar views across cultures
familiarity and propinquity
-people we see frequently become familiar
familiarity and similarity
-people who are more similar to us seem more familiar
familiarity and reciprocal liking
-people who like each other get to know and become familiar with each other
beauty matters proof
- ) more attractive infant is healthier
- ) more attractive candidate wins
- ) more sociable and extroverted
- ) more assertive
self-fulfilling prophecy
-the way we treat people affects how they behave and ultimately perceive themselves
evolutionary approach to make selection
- fitness measured by reproductive success
- symmetrical faces = better genes
- females focus on investment
- males focs on # of mates
definition of love
- includes passionate, giddy feelings
- includes deep, long-term devotion
- both compassionate and passionate
compassionate love
- feelings of intimacy and affection we have for someone
- not accompanied by passion
- experienced in sexual and nonsexual relationships
passionate love
- intense longing for another person
- experience physiological arousal
- strong, uncontrollable thoughts of affection
romantic love across cultures
- we all love, but not in the same way
- individualistic societies make it personal experience
- collectivist societies consider wishes of family/society
attachment styles
- expectations people develop about relationships with others based on relationships they had with primary caregiver
- serve as schemas for future relationships
1. ) secure
2. ) avoidant
3. ) anxious
secure attachment
- caregivers responsive to needs
- positive interactions
- trust
- not worried about abandonment
- more likely to develop lasting relationships
avoidant attachment
- caregivers aloof and distant
- attempt to establish intimacy
- desire to be close to caregiver
- difficult to trust
- hard time developing lasting relationships
- hesitant to rely on others for support
anxious attachment
- caregiver inconsistent w/ affection
- hard to predict when they will respond to needs
- want to be close, but worry of no reciprocation in affection
- find others unpredictable
- fear of rejection
- very difficult to establish long term relationships
social exchange theory
- how people feel about relationship depends on
1. ) perception of rewards
2. ) perceptions of costs
3. ) beliefs on what they think they deserve
4. ) beliefs on whether or not they could do better
rewards of relationship
- gratifying aspects that make relationship worthwhile
- personal characteristics/behaviors
- external resources- money, friends, etc
outcome of relationship
- costs minus rewards
- needs to be positive to last