Chapter 10: Communication in Close Relationships Flashcards
Inclusion of Other in the Self (IOS)
circles diagram – 2 separate circles –> 1 circle
intimacy
a state achieved via intellectual, emotional, and/or physical closeness as well as shared activities
friendship
voluntary relationship that provides social support
types of friendships
- short vs. long term
- task vs. maintenance oriented
- low vs. high disclosure
- low vs. high obligation
- infrequent vs. frequent contact
same sex friendships
closest relationships generally, seek out females when need emotional support
cross-sex friendships
tends to be more online, gives change of pace in communication to each friendship
challenges to cross sex friendships
- mutual romance
- strictly platonic
- desires romance (fears other person doesn’t want relationship)
- rejects romance (fears other person wants relationship)
Friends with Benefits
romantic relationship to friends w benefits removes commitment, friends with benefits to romantic relationships add commitment
expectancy violations
an instance when others don’t behave as we assume they should
expectancy violations
an instance when others don’t behave as we assume they should
family
a system with 2 or more interdependent people who have a common history, a present reality, and who expect to influence each other in the future
system
a group, such as a family, whose member interact with one another to form a whole
effective communication in the family
- manage the connection-autonomy dialectic
- strive for closeness while still respecting boundaries
- encourage confirming messages
characteristics of romantic relationships
think passion, commitment, and intimacy triangle
goal is consummate love (intimacy + passion + commitment)
love languages
methods of expressing affection to a romantic partner
