Attraction, Love & Relationship, Communication Flashcards
Greek Heritage
the greeks distinguished four concepts related to the modern meaning of love
Storge
is love attachment, deep, friendship, or nonsexual affection
Agape
is similar to generosity and charity
Philia
is closest in meaning to friendship
Eros
is closest in meaning to our concept of passion
Styles of Love
Clyde and Susan Hendrick - 1986
Romantic love (eros)
“my lover fits my ideal”; “my lover and i were attracted to one another immediately”
Game-playing love (ludus)
“I keep my lover up in the air about my commitment”; I get over love affairs pretty easily.”
Friendship (storge, philia)
“the best love grows out of an enduring friendship”
Logical love (pragma)
“I consider a lover’s potential in life before committing myself.”; “I consider whether my lover will be a good parents.”
Possessive, excited love (mania)
“I get so excited about my love that I cannot sleep.”; “When my lover ignores me, I get sick all over.”
Selfless love (agape)
“I would do anything I can to help my lover.”; “My lover’s needs and wishes are more important than my own.”
Application Of Social-Influence Theory
Attractiveness,
Trustworthiness,
Competence
Attractiveness
appearance - character-profession
Trustworthiness
confidentiality, credibility, appropriate. & also is a use of power
Competence
: related to role, reputation, behaviour, accomplishment
Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
Intimacy, Passion, Decision/Commitment
Intimacy
the experience of warmth toward another person that arises from feelings of closeness, bondedness, and connectedness to the other
Passion
an intense romantic or sexual desire for another person, which is accompanied by physiological arousal.
Decision/Commitment
a component of love that involves both short-term and long-term issues.
There’s 8 kinds of Love Relationships
- non-love: nothing
- liking: intimacy
- infatuation: passion
- empty love: commitment
- romantic love: intimacy & passion
- fatuous love: commitment & passion
- companionate love: commitment & intimacy
- consummate love: commitment, intimacy & passion
ABC(DE)s of Romantic Relationships
A’s Attraction B’s Building C’s Continuation D’s Deterioration E’s Ending
Types of Love
Passionate Love, Compassionate Love
Passionate Love
- Emotionally very intense
- The focus of one’s life
- Highly sexualized feelings
- Sexual activity may be present or absent
- Fear of rejection
- Relationship feels unstable
