attachment styles

Question 1

4 attachment styles

Answer 1

1. anxious/preoccupied
2. avoidant/dismissive
3. disorganized/fearful-avoidant
4. secure

Question 2

anxious/preoccupied =

Answer 2

• fear of abandonment
• negative self view, positive view of others
• deem themselves as less worthy of love than others. therefore the thought of living without their partner causes high levels of anxiety
• need for attention, care and responsiveness from partner
• clingly, demanding, preoccupied with relationship, desperate for assurance

Question 3

hoe ontstaat anxious/preoccupied

Answer 3

• inconsistent parenting: soms wel attuned to needs, soms misattunement. these mixed signals confuse the kid, and therefore they dont know what to expect
• emotional hunger of caregivers: caregivers seek emotional/physical closeness to satisfy their own needs, instead of those of others. parents may appear overprotective or intruding. sometimes they try to put themselves in a certain light (of the perfect parent)

Question 4

avoidant/dismissive

Answer 4

• high sense of independence and self-efficiency, especially on an emotional level
• positive self view, negative view of others
• believe they do not need to be in a relationship to be complete, do not want to depend on others, have others depend on them or seek support and approval in social bonds
• avoid intimacy or emotional closeness, may withdraw from a relationship if they feel the other is becoming reliant on them
• hide or suppress feelings in emotional situations
• they will let you be around them, but not let you in. can close themselves off, become annoyed with partner

Question 5

hoe ontstaat avoidant attachment

Answer 5

• caregivers often avoid the display of real emotions and intimacy, and are often misattuned to childs needs
• niet perse neglect, they are present
• but reserved and seem to back off when the child needs support, reassurance or affection
• might become overwhelmed and get out
• disapprove and not tolerate any emotions from their children, whether those are positive or negative
• telling the kid to toughen up

Question 6

symptoms of avoidant attachment in adults

Answer 6

• social, easy going, fun to be around
• might have a lot of friends or sexual partners (generally not alone)
• independent
• high self esteem
• do not rely on others for reassurance or emotional support
• invest in professional development and likely to build up confidence on each personal success
• seem in control

Question 7

symptoms of anxious attachment in adults

Answer 7

• low self esteem
• sensitive, attuned to partners needs, insecure about own worth in relationship
• the loved one rejects them or fails to respond to their needs, they might blame themselves or label themselves as not being worthy of love
• need constant reassurance
• fear of abandoment
• jealous easily, suspicious
• incapable of being alone

Question 8

disorganized/fearful avoidant

Answer 8

• afwisselend anxious vs avoidant
• daardoor heel verwarrend gedrag naar anderen
• partner is beiden desired en feared
• they do want intimacy and closeness, but also have trouble trusting and depending on others
• struggle with identifying emotions
• avoid strong attachments due to the intense fear of getting hurt

Question 9

hoe ontstaat disorganized/fearful-avoidant

Answer 9

• trauma or abuse
• caregivers may have behaved bizarrily or chaotically
• sometimes also aggressive
• contrasting behaviours (soms ergens om lachen, soms voor datzelfde straf geven)

Question 10

glass child symptoms

Answer 10

• Being chronic people pleasers
• Inability or unwillingness to address or express personal needs
• Always saying everything is “fine,” regardless of how they actually feel
• Compromised sense of self-worth, or feeling defined by their special needs sibling
• Feeling isolated
• Development of trauma or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
• Being forced to “grow up” rather than experience childhood