7-soften people resistant by confirming their opinion Flashcards
sense of validation
give the sense of self validation to people , play on their self perception and turn them around
go against/along/confirm-steal their inner insecurities, loosen them
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power of influence
power of influence is cultural and better than moral stance that is lazy approach
master persuader:
1-transform yourself into deep listener: make them star of the show
2-infect people with proper mood: give them love
3-confirm their self opinion: let them discover what they own desire but your want/first deny their wisdom then get along and conform/let them be independent and reflect your high opinion of them
4-relive their insecurities by exactly praising them-though but fair mix small criticism with real feeling
5-use their resistance:mental judo , tell them do whatever they are doing and use reverse psychology then they ll change
flexibility
be flexible as a child and experienced as adult
open heart
always do things with open heart and love to get to the depth of them to see what moves you