23/03/2023 Flashcards
I took Jay from being mildly triggered/bothered to very triggered, stressed, exhausted, ALL ME.
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve what?
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only what?
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own what?
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own:
1. Thoughts/feelings
2. Reality
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to …?
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more, because …?
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more, because he doesn’t know the answer
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more, because he doesn’t know the answer.
So, I wasn’t even …?
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more, because he doesn’t know the answer.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but what?
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination
If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to do what?
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify:
1. What has happened
2. That there isn’t a bad reason for it
If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he what?
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know
If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s …?
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it
If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it.
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but what?
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but the logical part of him would be hoping I would put his mind at ease
If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it.
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but the logical part of him would be hoping I would put his mind at ease.
He may not trust me, but he trusts me enough to do what?
He may not trust me, but he trusts me enough to:
1. Ask me
2. Hope I give him the honest answer
If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it.
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but the logical part of him would be hoping I would put his mind at ease.
He may not trust me, but he trusts me enough to ask me and hope I give him the honest answer, and if I am honest and not fake, then the honest answer will …?
He may not trust me, but he trusts me enough to:
1. Ask me
2. Hope I give him the honest answer
,and if I am honest and not fake, then the honest answer will explain anything that seems contradictory
If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it.
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but the logical part of him would be hoping I would put his mind at ease.
He has been through this with me, so many times.
If he is asking me a question, this is what?
If he is asking me a question, this is GOOD
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was …?
I missed what was obvious
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I … the answer?
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid …?
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, why?
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason, because of what?
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason, because of how I:
1. Interpreted what Jay said
,rather than
2. Focusing on the actual words he has said, only
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason, because of how I interpreted what Jay said, rather than focusing on the actual words he has said, only.
I remembered every detail about the picture, but not …?
I remembered every detail about the picture, but not wanting to look nicer
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason, because of how I interpreted what Jay said, rather than focusing on the actual words he has said, only.
I remembered every detail about the picture, but not wanting to look nicer.
I avoided …?
I avoided talking about it
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when what?
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t …)?
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay)
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).
I spoke of … things?
I spoke irrelevant things
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to do what?
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to:
1. Reassure him
2. Make him feel better
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even do what?
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to:
1. Reassure him
2. Make him feel better
,but I didn’t even address the problem
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
What is this the same as?
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t …?
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t do it
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t do it.
Focus on what?
Focus on what Jay is actually saying
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t do it.
Focus on what Jay is actually saying.
If I didn’t understand, I can say I’m not sure but I know based on myself that it wasn’t for a bad reason, let’s explore it further.
I don’t do what a triggered person needs from me and instead do everything to make it so much worse, such as by appearing guilty by only doing what?
I don’t do what a triggered person needs from me and instead do everything to make it so much worse, such as by appearing guilty by only holding onto what I know
I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.
I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.
I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.
I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).
I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t do it.
Focus on what Jay is actually saying.
If I didn’t understand, I can say I’m not sure but I know based on myself that it wasn’t for a bad reason, let’s explore it further.
I don’t do what a triggered person needs from me and instead do everything to make it so much worse, such as by appearing guilty by only holding onto what I know, which is me not doing what?
I don’t do what a triggered person needs from me and instead do everything to make it so much worse, such as by appearing guilty by only holding onto what I know, which is me not actually:
1. Listening to Jay
2. Focusing only on his words
