23/03/2023

Question 1

I took Jay from being mildly triggered/bothered to very triggered, stressed, exhausted, ALL ME.

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve what?

Answer 1

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes

Question 2

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only what?

Answer 2

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said

Question 3

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own what?

Answer 3

‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own:
1. Thoughts/feelings
2. Reality

Question 4

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to …?

Answer 4

‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more

Question 5

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more, because …?

Answer 5

‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more, because he doesn’t know the answer

Question 6

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more, because he doesn’t know the answer.

So, I wasn’t even …?

Answer 6

So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words

Question 7

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words when he doesn’t speak in code and means only exactly what he has said.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality, because he is only asking to find out more, because he doesn’t know the answer.

So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but what?

Answer 7

So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination

Question 8

If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to do what?

Answer 8

Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify:
1. What has happened
2. That there isn’t a bad reason for it

Question 9

If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he what?

Answer 9

He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know

Question 10

If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s …?

Answer 10

He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it

Question 11

If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it.
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but what?

Answer 11

Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but the logical part of him would be hoping I would put his mind at ease

Question 12

If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it.
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but the logical part of him would be hoping I would put his mind at ease.
He may not trust me, but he trusts me enough to do what?

Answer 12

He may not trust me, but he trusts me enough to:
1. Ask me
2. Hope I give him the honest answer

Question 13

If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it.
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but the logical part of him would be hoping I would put his mind at ease.
He may not trust me, but he trusts me enough to ask me and hope I give him the honest answer, and if I am honest and not fake, then the honest answer will …?

Answer 13

He may not trust me, but he trusts me enough to:
1. Ask me
2. Hope I give him the honest answer
,and if I am honest and not fake, then the honest answer will explain anything that seems contradictory

Question 14

If he already believed I was trying to look nicer for a bad reason, he would be accusing me.
He wouldn’t be asking me.
Him asking me is him giving me the opportunity to clarify what’s happened and that there isn’t a bad reason for it.
He is asking me to find out, because he doesn’t know, and that’s it.
Part of him would fear it’s something bad, but the logical part of him would be hoping I would put his mind at ease.
He has been through this with me, so many times.
If he is asking me a question, this is what?

Answer 14

If he is asking me a question, this is GOOD

Question 15

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was …?

Answer 15

I missed what was obvious

Question 16

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I … the answer?

Answer 16

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer

Question 17

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid …?

Answer 17

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer

Question 18

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, why?

Answer 18

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason

Question 19

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason, because of what?

Answer 19

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason, because of how I:
1. Interpreted what Jay said
,rather than
2. Focusing on the actual words he has said, only

Question 20

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason, because of how I interpreted what Jay said, rather than focusing on the actual words he has said, only.

I remembered every detail about the picture, but not …?

Answer 20

I remembered every detail about the picture, but not wanting to look nicer

Question 21

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I was less stressed than usual but was stressed from the question because of my reality and so because I interpreted the question and what Jay thinks/is feeling/will feel, I suppressed the answer to avoid having to admit I wanted to look nicer, because I thought it meant admitting to wanting to look nicer for a bad reason, because of how I interpreted what Jay said, rather than focusing on the actual words he has said, only.

I remembered every detail about the picture, but not wanting to look nicer.

I avoided …?

Answer 21

I avoided talking about it

Question 22

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when what?

Answer 22

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things

Question 23

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t …)?

Answer 23

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay)

Question 24

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).

I spoke of … things?

Answer 24

I spoke irrelevant things

Question 25

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to do what?

Answer 25

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to:
1. Reassure him
2. Make him feel better

Question 26

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even do what?

Answer 26

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to:
1. Reassure him
2. Make him feel better
,but I didn’t even address the problem

Question 27

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
What is this the same as?

Answer 27

This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse

Question 28

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t …?

Answer 28

This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t do it

Question 29

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t do it.
Focus on what?

Answer 29

Focus on what Jay is actually saying

Question 30

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t do it.
Focus on what Jay is actually saying.

If I didn’t understand, I can say I’m not sure but I know based on myself that it wasn’t for a bad reason, let’s explore it further.

I don’t do what a triggered person needs from me and instead do everything to make it so much worse, such as by appearing guilty by only doing what?

Answer 30

I don’t do what a triggered person needs from me and instead do everything to make it so much worse, such as by appearing guilty by only holding onto what I know

Question 31

I caused the problem myself, and made it into a massive problem when it could’ve been solved in 5 minutes.

I interpreted what he said and attached meaning onto his words.
‘Why did you want to look nicer?’ I took it as him thinking I wanted to do it for a bad reason and so I acted on this, my own thoughts/feelings and reality, that aren’t reality or his reality.
So, I wasn’t even responding to him and his words, but figments of my imagination.

I missed what was obvious and clutched at straws.

I avoided talking about it, including when I started telling him reassurance in regards to other things (that wasn’t relevant at all to the problem and what had bothered Jay).

I spoke of irrelevant things, trying to reassure him and make him feel better, but I didn’t even address the problem.
This is the same as me cramming on text when he has been triggered and I have been making him feel worse, don’t do it.
Focus on what Jay is actually saying.

If I didn’t understand, I can say I’m not sure but I know based on myself that it wasn’t for a bad reason, let’s explore it further.

I don’t do what a triggered person needs from me and instead do everything to make it so much worse, such as by appearing guilty by only holding onto what I know, which is me not doing what?

Answer 31

I don’t do what a triggered person needs from me and instead do everything to make it so much worse, such as by appearing guilty by only holding onto what I know, which is me not actually:
1. Listening to Jay
2. Focusing only on his words