The Big Leap

Question 1

First initial parts of the upper limit mindset

Answer 1

people tend to be afraid that when they become the best that they can be, there will run out of excuses to make their dreams come true.

Question 2

Second initial upper limit problem

Answer 2

they think that once they realize their dreams, there will be nothing left to strive for.

Question 3

The Second Barrier name

Answer 3

Disloyalty & Abandonment

Question 4

Second Hidden Barrier explained

Answer 4

“I cannot expand to my full success because it will cause me to end up all alone and will be disloyal to my roots and will cause me to abandon people from my past”

Question 5

Third Hidden Barrier

Answer 5

I can’t expand to my highest potential because I’d be even more of a burden than I am now

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You have a positive event, then immediately believe you are a burden, and other people start to pick up on that belief

Question 6

Third Hidden Barrier Relief

Answer 6

Burden

Question 7

Fourth Hidden Belief

Answer 7

I can’t do X because it would outshine {person or people} and would make them feel bad

Question 8

Money arguments

Answer 8

Never have anything to do with money. They have to do with something deeper

For that one billionaire it was the belief that “when there’s money involved there has to be an argument”

Question 9

Worrying leads to:

Answer 9

You criticizing those around you

Billionaire money wife toilet paper example

Question 10

My procrastination worry?

Answer 10

Maybe I’m worried about being uncomfortable and having my brain be tired from thinking hard

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So what’s wrong with the feeling of discomfort?
Aaaaand doesn’t thinking hard actually make you feel super energetic sometimes? If not often?

Question 11

When you notice a worry and end it

Answer 11

Ask yourself, what new positive thing in my life is trying to come thru

And you’ll start to feel a bodily feeling

Chapter 3, 14:00

Question 12

Common answer people give when ask why they broke up

Answer 12

“I was tired of the constant criticism and blame”

Question 13

I feel like my worrying all comes to one root cause

Answer 13

worry that there won’t be enough. Enough money. If I cancel this date weekend with {person} I won’t have enough dating opportunities in the future.; me getting angry at lotion disapearing -> me getting angry at rj/brian because i’m guessing one of them moved it -> me worrying that my skin won’t be soft enough and my skin won’t be enough for sophie or that my skin won’t be wet enough for sleeping well

Question 14

Benefits of No Complaining about Time Diet

Answer 14

You end up getting more done while feeling less stressed

You grow steadily less busy while getting more done

It like the difference between using your elbows vs hands for driving. When you realize you are the source of both time and time pressure a weight is lifted off you.

I think with every action there is a an element of pain associated (caused by saying thoughts like “it will use X time and therefore X energy!)” but if you stop complaining about time there is no pain associated with that action, and therefore the action takes less energy and you don’t get as tired doing it.

I think a corollary to this is don’t check the time. Just gives you more time pressure and helps you think you don’t control time.