Stresses & Strains Flashcards
Relational value
degree to which other people value us & our relationship
hurt arises when we perceive that another person does not regard our relationship as valuable & important as we wish they did
Relationship devaluation
decreases in perceived relational value. Particularily hurtful to go from acceptance to rejection that to experience consistently high levels of rejection
ostracism
act of excluding or ignoring someone
in interpersonal relationships: giving someone the “cold shoulder” or “silent treatment”, not speaking to them, avoiding eye contact
why is ostracism not productive
-lacks causal clarity
-psychological distress
-reduces likelihood that the target will engage in restorative actions
difference between jealousy and envy
jealousy: emotional state evoked by the perception that a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival
envy: desire for another’s possessions
study of jealousy
-4 yo display more jealousy when mother’s attention is diverted to a similarly aged peer rather than an infant
-younger children jealousy is not influenced by rival’s age
which scenarios are more threatening to men and women, sexual infidelity or emotional infidelity
men: sexual
women: emotional