Power, Influence & Violence Flashcards
What is power
ability to exert influence on the other partner to obtain desired outcomes, and being able to resist their influence
What are the 2 dimensions of influence strategies
valence (positive vs. negative)
directness (direct vs. indirect)
What are examples of negative direct strategies
Coercion (criticism, threaten punishment, yelling, cursing)
Autocracy (clear demands from position of authority, superiority, invalidation, patrozing, sarcasm, condescending…)
what are examples of negative indirect strategies?
manipulation
negative affect without explanation (silent treatment, sulking, poutinh)
what are examples of positive direct
-use logic and rational reasoning
-suggest solutions, weigh pros and cons
what are examples of positive indirect
-“soft positive”, it’s not that big of a deal but I would appreciate if…
-be charming and express positive affect
social power theory
six places where power comes from
what are the 6 sources
- reward power
- coercive power (punishment)
- legitimate power
- referent power (when admire)
- expert power (valuable knowledge)
- informational power (agent has specific information that is useful to you)
principle of lesser interest
partner who is less dependent on the relationship has more power
happy couples more liekly rely on behavioural control rather than fate control. what does it mean
“if we go see that movie, i’ll do that other thing for you”
draws on reward power.
result of study of power, giving participants either fancy or crappy chair
“power doesn’t corrupt, it reveals.”
when participants had cool chair,
if are communally-oriented: performed most of the task
if are exchange-oriented: did least, let other person to do more.
participant that did not have cool chair (low power) did not show difference in behaviours
agression
physical or verbal behaviour intended to harm a person who does not want to be harmed
3 types of violence
-situational couple violence (often mutual, reactive to argument, absence of intent to dominate and control the other)
-coercive, controlling violence (intimate terrorism, partner uses extreme forms of aggression to dominate the other, proactive)
-violent resistance
characteristics and signs of coercive controlling violence
- feelings of fear and confusion
- invalidating & belittling
- attempts at control
- threats & agression
cycle of coercive controlling violence
- tension building phase
- explosive, acute battering phase
- contrition phase (apologizes, promises to change, tries to convince that abuse will never happen again)
but then tension builds up again and cycle starts over