Romantic Relationships Flashcards
Physical Attraction
High arousal, passion & sex.
Love
Includes emotional intimacy, affection & fulfillment of psychological needs.
What are the three types of attachments?
- Secure
- Avoidant
- Anxious Ambivalent
Attatchment
The process of becoming emotionally attached to a romantic partner.
What is secure attachment?
Feel comfortable getting close to and depending on others.
What is avoidant?
Feel uncomfortable getting close to or depending on others.
What is anxious ambivalent?
Strong desire to get close to others, but a strong fear of abandonment & rejection.
Development of Early Adult Romantic Relationships
Early experiences in family of origin affect the way people approach & understand relationships.
What are the 3 premises on Development of Early Adult Romantic Relationships?
- People develop models from observing family (e.g: model for what a romantic relationship is supposed to be)
- People develop habits from interacting with family of origin (e.g: communication style)
- Family experiences can facilitate or constrain effective relationship processes.
Matching principle
Tendency for people to get into relationship w/ those of similar attractiveness.
Hard to get effect
Tendency to prefer people who are highly selective in their social choice over those who are readily available
Proximity
Geographic nearness or functional distance is associated with increased liking
Miscommunication & Flirting (henningsen, 2014)
- Results: Men more likely to attribute any form of flirting as sexually motivated.
- Women more likely to attribute flirting to a desire to advance the relationship or have fun.
What are some irrational relationship beliefs?
- Partners can’t change
- Any disagreement is destructive
- Partners should be able to read mind
- Sexual perfection for every sexual experience
Romantic fantasies & women’s interest in power (Rudman & Heppen, 2003)
- Results: Implicit endorsement of normative romantic fantasies was associated w/ lower levels of interest in personal power.
- No relationship was found for men.
Rejection expectancies & self-fulfilling prophecy (Downey, 1998)
• Those with significant rejection expectancies were more likely to elicit rejection from their dating partners.
Level match
- to the degree that your partner matches the precise “amounts” you would like of him or her on certain characteristics.
- e.g: on a scale of 1 - 10 on humor your match should have an 8
Pattern match
- How a partner matches on the relative importance of certain characteristics in relation to other characteristics – regardless of precise amounts.
- e.g: wants a 9=honesty & 7=humor, person is 7=honesty, 5=humor.