Relatioships Flashcards
What is social exchange theory by Thibault and Kelly
Claimed behaviour in a relationship reflects the economic assumptions of exchange, they say we try to minimise losses and maximise gains, we judge our satisfaction with a relationship in terms of profit if yields, defined as rewards minus the costs
how is social exchange theory subjective
what may be considered a big reward for someone may be seen as less valuable to another person
what is an example of social exchange theory being subjective
you may consider recieving praise from your partner as valuavble but it may not bother your partner to be praised
what may haapen to value of rewards and costs over a relationship
they may change over time
in social exchange theory was is a reward
beneficial things like companionship, sex, emotional support
in social exchange theory was is a cost
relationships can involve negative emotions and includes time, stress, energy, compromise, and there may also be econmoic costs to relationships
what are the 2 ways social exchange theory measures profit in a romantic relationship
the comparison level and the comparison level for alternatives
what is the comparison level
the amount of reward you believe you deserve to get, it develops from our experiences from previous relationships which feed into our current one, its also influenced by social norms within a culture (reflected in books, TV, films), our comparison level develops as we get more data to set in by
when do we consider a relationship worth pursuing in comparison level
if our comparison level is high, due to links with self-esteem. someone with low self esteem is happy with small profits, someone w high self esteem will was large profits to continue a relationship
what is comparison for alternatives
provides a wider context for our current relationship, we only stay in a relationship if we believe we can’t get greater rewards and fewer costs elsewhere
what did Duck say about comparison level for alternatives
comparison level for alternatives we adopt depends on the state of our current relationship, if the cost of our relationship outweighs rewards then alternatives become more attractive
What was the final feature of Thibault and Kelly social exchange theory
4 stages to which relationship develops
according to Thibault and Kelly what were 4 stages of relationship development
sampling stage, bargaining stage, commitment stage, institutionalisation stage
what is sampling stage according to Thibault and Kelly
we explore rewards and costs of social exchange by experimenting with them in our own relationship, or by observing others doing so
what is the bargaining stage according to Thibault and Kelly
marks beginning of a relationship, when romantic partners start exchanging various rewards and costs, negotiating and identifying what’s most profitable
what is the commitment stage according to Thibault and Kelly
as time goes on, sources of cost and rewards become more predictable and relationships becomes more stable as rewards increase and costs lessen
what is the institutionalisation stage according to Thibault and Kelly
partners now settled down as the norms of the relationship, in terms of cost and rewards, is established
what is a strength of social exchange theory
support for aspects of SET from research studies. Kurdek asked gay, lesbian and heterosexual couples to complete a questionaire measuring relationship commitment and SET variables. He found those who were most commited percieved the most rewards and fewest costs and viewed alternatives as relatively unattractive. These findings match predicitions from SET, strongly confirming the validity of the theory in gay and lesbian couples as well as heterosexual couples.
what is a counterpoint of social exchange theory
Studies into SET ignore a crucial factor that may be an over-whelming consideration for romantic partners which is equity. Equity theory may be a better explanation for romantic relationship instead of SET. There is alot of researching supporting the role of equity in relationships. What matters is not just rewards v costs but the partners preception of that is fair. The neglect of equity means SET is a limited explanation for reomantic relationships.
what is a limitation of social exchange theory
SET claims that dissatisfaction arises only after a relationship stops being profitable. According to SET, we become dissatified when we conclude costs outweigh rewards of a relationship. But Argyle argued we don’t monitor costs and rewards or consider alternatives until we’re dissatisfied. When were statified we don’t even notic other alternatives. This suggests that considering costs/alternatives is caussed by dissatification rather than the opposite.
what is another limitation of social exchange theory
SET deals in concepts that are vague and hard to quantify. Rewards and costs have been defined superficially in research in order to measure them. But realm world rewards and costs are subjective and hard to define. For example, having loyality is a rewards for most people but not for everyone. It is unclear what the values of comparison level or comparison level for alternatives must be before dissatification threatens a relationship. This means the theory is difficult to test in a valid way.
What is equity theory
Another economic theory which developed in response to a significant criticism of social exchange theory. Maximising rewards and minimising costs are important, but SET fails to take into account the need most people have for balance rather than profit in a relationship
According to Walster et al what matters most with equity
Both partners level of profit (rewards minus cost) is almost the same.
What happens when there is a lack of equity
1 partner overbenefits and other underbenefits from the relationship and this causes dissatisfaction and unhappiness according to equity theory
What feeling may the under benefiting partner have in equity theory
Anger, hostility, resentment, humiliation
What feeling may the over benefiting partner have in equity theory
Guilt, discomfort, shame. So satification is about perceived fairness
According to equity theory instead of the size/amount of rewards and costs what is important
The ratio the rewards and costs to each other, so if one partner puts a lot into the relationship but at the same time gets a lot out, are then likely to be satisfied
What are satisfying relationships marked by
Negotiations to ensure equality, that rewards are distributed fairly between partners. This inevitably involves making trade-offs
When do problems arise in a relationship in equity theory
When they put a great deal in the relationship but gets little out of it, partner who perceives inequality will be dissatisfied and distressed if it continues for a long time
What does the greater perceived inequity
Greater dissatfiicajton, equality theory predicts a strong correlation between the 2, applies to both over and under benefitters
what makes us most dissatfied in a relationship according to equity theory
a change in percieved equality as time goes on
what is an examples of a change in percieved equity as time goes on
at start it may feel normal to contribute more than you receive, but if relationship continues with you putting in lots and getting little back it will lead to dissatification
how do underbenefiting partners deal with relationship according to equity theory in a behavioural way
they try and make relationships more equitable as long as its possible to do so, more unfair a relationship feels the harder they will work