OC Ch. 2 Flashcards
What is the Wise Choice Process?
The Wise Choice Process is a 6 step decision making model that empowers you take full responsibility for creating the life you want.
What are the wise choice Steps
Step 1: What is my present situation?
Step 2: How would I like my situation to be?
Step 3: What are my possible choices?
Step 4: What is the likely outcome of each possible choice?
Step 5: Which choice(s) will I commit to doing?
Step 6: When and how will I evaluate my plan?
What is a Victim?
Blaming
Complaining
Excusing
Repeating Behavior
What is a Creator?
Seeking solutions
Taking action
Trying something new
Inner Critic
The Inner Critic is the internal voice that judges us as inadequate, blames us for whatever is wrong in life, and can find fault with anything about us.
“I’ll never be able to do it”
“I’m fat. I’m ugly”
“Nobody loves me.”
Inner Defender
The Inner Defender judges, blames, complains, accuses, criticizes and condemns others.
“It’s my mom’s fault.”
“It wasn’t my fault because…”
“She’s stupid.”
Inner Guide
The Inner Guide seeks to make the best of any situation and knows that judgments do not improve difficult situations.
“Keep going, you’ll get it.”
“That didn’t work, let’s try it a different way.”
“Don’t let her negative attitude keep you from success.”
Victim Language
Focuses on weakness Makes excuses Complains Compares oneself unfavorably to others sees problem as permanent Repeats ineffective behaviors Tries Predicts defeat and gives up
Creator Language
Focuses on improvement Seeks solutions Turns complaints into request Seeks help from those more skilled Accepts responsibility Treats problems as temporary Does something new Does Thinks positively and looks for a better choice
Disputing Irrational Beliefs
Offer evidence that your judgements are wrong
Offer a positive explanation of the problem
question the importance of the problem
Offer a plan to improve the situation
Stereotype Threat:
A stereotype is a generalization about members of a particular group.
