Module 3

Question 1

What are the metaphorical argumentative stances?

Answer 1

1. Rape. Take power for themselves. We can submit or fight back. (bullhorn)
2. Seduction. Uses charms or lies to steer the situation, trick into assent. We can submit or trick back. (magic hat)
3. Lover. Works together to solve the problem and treat other person equally as a person. No one feels like a victim (happy team)

Question 2

You cannot have an argument with: (three words)

Answer 2

1. inanimate (unable or unwilling to communicate)
2. illogical (out of control emotionally)
3. immoral (no principles, no rules)

Question 3

What is the difference between unilateral communication and bilateral communication?

Answer 3

Unilateral is one way and bilateral is two way. Rape & seduction are unilateral because it all about what they want. Lover is bilateral because they want to bring someone to their way of thinking but have them fully onboard.

Question 4

3 main types family environment for conflicts

Answer 4

1. Avoidant - avoid most conflicts
2. Collaborative - deal with issues directly.
3. Aggressive. Survival of the fittest - brutally honest.
   [I avoid collaborating with the aggressor]

Question 5

8 misconceptions of conflict

Answer 5

1. Harmony is normal and conflict is abnormal
2. Conflict constitutes a breakdown of communication
3. Communication and disagreements are the same thing
4. Conflict is a result of personal pathology.
5. Conflict should never be escalated
6. Conflict interaction should be polite and orderly.
7. Anger is the only emotion in conflict interaction.
8. A correct method for resolving differences can be prescribed.

Question 6

Name some positive and negative conflict metaphors

Answer 6

1. A garden, musical improv, an adventure

2. Explosive, warlike, a trial, a mess

Question 7

What are some positive views of conflict?

Answer 7

Conflict can be exciting, strengthening, helpful, clarifying, and enriching.

Question 8

What is the lens model of conflict

Answer 8

Any conflict can be viewed through 1) communication behaviors 2) perceptions of those behaviors. Our views of ourselves and others are always distorted with filters.

Question 9

What filters distort our views of ourselves and others?

Answer 9

Gender
culture
environment you were raised in.

Question 10

What are the three lenses

Answer 10

self, others, relationship.