Love Matters Flashcards
Chapter 14
What advantages does being attractive has ?
- getting better grades
- being seen as more just
- having an advantage in court
Meta analysis
- analysis of several studies related to the same topic
evolutionary social psychology
- relationships can only be understood in terms of evolution.
What is the good genes theory ?
- fertility –> when women are about to ovulate they prefer men that are competitive . For langterm they look after a good father and care taker, with financial success.
- seeing red–> red is sexual appealing to men , signals redyness for pairing in nature.
- hourglass figure –> favourite figure of males on women , signals good health
good genes theory: we look for partners with a healthy appearance that indicate good genes.
Average effect
- Humans like average faces more than those that are more unusual
What are the main factors when it comes to choosing a partner ?
- warmth - trustworthiness and showing that they care and like to be intimate
- attractiveness and health
- being liked by others and being financially sound
What increases liking ?
- Proximity , Familiarity and Attitude Similarity, personality , cultural stereotypes , assortative mating , self disclosure and trust ,
How do you call it if an attitude is quite similar to yours and that makes the other person attractive ?
- similarity of attitudes
What the hell is assortative mating?
- people choose their partner because of having several characteristics in common.
What personal characteristics play a role in attraction and forming friendships?
- having a desirable personality
- self disclosure = opening up to someone about intimate topics .
How much do cultural stereotypes have an influence on attractiveness?
- in North America people prefer the strong , assertive and dominant personalities - individualistic
- in eastern cultures they prefer the traits: honest, sensitive , trustworthy
–> there is a general consent about some traits that are appealing to most of the cultures
How is there a connection to Pavlovs dogs and the reinforcement approach?
- same principle
- we tend to like people more if we associate and connect a positive event , feeling with them . If we feel something positive and they are around we tend to like them .
need to affiliate
- the urge to make contact and to form connection with other people .
Instinct
- innate drive genetically inherited
Isolation and anxiety - social comparison theory
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Hospitalism
- a stated of depression and apathy that was discovered from infants that were not allowed to have close contact to any caregivers.
Attachement behaviour
the tendency of an infant to favor close contact to a caregiver
Attachement style characteristics P. 604
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Social exchange
- describes the tendency of people to weigh up to do ( costs and rewards) before deciding what to do.
cost - reward ration
- belonging to the social exchange theory
- if you like a person or not is dependent of how much effort that person costs to reinforce you. - calculation.
minimax strategy
- towards others we try to minimise the costs and maximise the rewards.
Profit
- in relationships when the rewards are bigger than the costs.
Equity theory
- a case of the social exchange theory that pictures a relationship as fair if the input of both sides is the same.
Procedural Justice
- fairness of the decision procedure
Big five
- the five characteristics measured to compare different characters with each other.
Emotions in relationship model
- close relationships evoke more strong emotions because in a relationship you tend to get more into conflict with the expectations among each other.
Passionate Love / Companionate love - scale
- intense taking in of another person in combination with physiological arousal
Three factor theory of love 610
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consummate love
- due to Sternberg the ultimate form of love involves, passion, commitment and intimacy.
Sternbergs triangle of love 612
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social support networks
Benefits
Costs
Communal
people that know and care about us and provide back up in times of distress.
factors for an ongoing relationship 617
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Commitment
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ideal standard model
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What are four points that announce the end of a relationship?
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Self regulation - Partner Regulation
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Relationship dissolution model 618
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Phases in the break up of a relationship
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Attachement style
- the way a human develops relationships , due to his/ her early childhood.
