Lesson 3: What is Love Flashcards
list the love styles
- romantic
- pragmatic
- manic
- companionate
- egoistic
- altruistic
who made the love triangle theory
robert sternburg
who came up with the love styles
john lee
love triangle theory
3 ingredients to love:
- passion
- intimacy
- committment
love triangle theory: passion
- intense, romance, attraction
- dopamine (pleasure chemical/reward nd risk) overrides prefrontal cortex+decision making
love triangle theory: intimacy
- closeness, bond, mature, companionate, trust
- oxytocin (bonding chemical) = physical attachment
- takes time
love triangle theory: commitment
- decision to be in relationship
- serotonin (happy chemical) = mood stabilizer
- use prefrontal cortex for decision (pros/cons)
which “ingredient” in the love triange theory occurs the fastest?
passion
example of issues tht can occur at each “ingredient” of the love triangle theory
- passion: can’t get over ex
- intimacy: trust issues
- commitment: staying in toxic relationship
chemicals released in the brain
- dopamine
- serotonin
- oxytocin
- endorphins
dopamine
why does it increase
- passion, pleasure, risk, excitement
- reward and risk-taking
- increases bc love is new/pleasurable
- reinforcing/addicting
serotonin
- happy, anxiety, sad, satisfied
- impacts mood
- increases when happy and vice-verse
oxytocin
when does it increase
- attachment, intimacy, security, safety
- love/bond
- increases when close connection felt
endorphins + example
- lower stress/relaxation
- pain killer
- i.e. working out w/ partner/kissing
diff btween serotonin and endorphins
- serotonin: emotiona
- endorphins: physical
why do we make bad decisions when dopamine levels increase?
bc. it blocks prefrontal cortex from working
romantic
loving ideal person
pragmatic
realistic and logical
manic
- high anxiety/need reassurance
- love is a game
companionate
love as friendship
egoistic
love is a game
altruistic
selfless love
