Lesson 3: Dating and Love Flashcards

1
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courting

A
  • purpose: marriage
  • no sexual intimacy
  • familial supervision, v formal, marriage benefits fam
  • men: show off resources to prove they’re good providers
  • women: show desirability (purity/beauty) and nurturing (domestic labour)
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2
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when/why did dating begin

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  • began in 1920s (recent)
  • caused by: industrial revolution, school, tech advancements
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3
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dating

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  • purpose: socialize, fall in love
  • intentions: long-term or short-term relationship, fun (fwb), flings
  • often public, casual dates, no parents
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4
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benefits of courting

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  • no kids out of wedlock
  • more familial support
  • meet partners family
  • clear roles (gender)
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5
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commonalities between dating and courting

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  • plan dates
  • introduce partner to fam
  • buy gifts (provider)
  • clear intentions (promise rings)
  • go out w makeup (desirability)
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6
Q

where do most ppl find mates tdy

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  • school
  • ecs
  • friends
  • work
  • online**
  • bars/clubs*
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7
Q

script theory + where does it come from

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  • unwritten dating rules/norms
  • come from culture, friends, fam, media, life experiences
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8
Q

examples of script theory

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  • when to: kiss, hold hands, say ily, label relationship, meet parents, call someone
  • how to end date/break up
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9
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which tech advancements changed dating

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  • phones
  • cars (status/intimacy)
  • TV (norms)
  • internet (exposure to ppl/safety issues arise)
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10
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what factors changed dating?

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  • school: meet ppl
  • industrial rev: cars, meet ppl at work
  • tech: phone=privacy
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11
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what impacted the shift to dating the most?

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industrial revolution: making money/surviving alone

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12
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pros of online dating (5)

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  • choice*
  • communication (less anxious)
  • preferences
  • lifestyle (24/7 comm’n)
  • free
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13
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cons of online dating (6)

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  • dishonesty*
  • paradox of choice*
  • no physical compatibility
  • catfishes
  • unclear intentions
  • become too picky
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14
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paradox of choice

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too much choice leads to lack of satisfaction

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15
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market experience theory

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dating a lot

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16
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pros of market experience theory

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  • learn likes/dislikes
  • filter out who u don’t want right away
  • increase confidence
17
Q

cons of market experience theory

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  • comparison**
  • increased expectations
  • hard to settle/be satisfied
18
Q

pros of script theory

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  • helpful during dates
  • everyone on same page
19
Q

cons of script theory

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  • friends may impact negatively
  • bad script from fam (patriarchal/ethnocentrism)