Lesson 2: Roles of Parents Flashcards
father’s role in the past
- breadwinner
- disciplinarian
- decision-maker
- distant
why were fathers distant from kids in the past
- always at work
- socialized to not be emotionally available
- gave advice, not support
fathers roles today
- coparent
- involved in pregnancy from the start (pre-natal health, feeding baby)
fathers: interaction and play (5)
- physical play (more risky/rough)
- competition and risk-takers (men socialize through competition)
- build independence and confidence
- prepare for real-world (relationship prep)
- discipline (fairness/duty)
challenges that fathers have
- bonding w/ child
- time (mom has 9-month headstart)
- financial expectations
- lack of role model (no dad to learn from)
- support (less emotional)
- poor coping mechanisms
what areas do fathers face discrimination in
- mothers v fathers day
- mom + child classes
- gendered parking spots
absent fathers: effect on sons
- want structure/role model so go to: gangs and prison
- drugs
- anger issues
- low self-esteem/lack confidence
- feel lost/no direction
- disregard school/law
absent fathers: effect on daughter
- low self-worth
- low standards
- sexual/unhealthy relationships
- bad w/ boundaries/rejection
similarities between sons and daughters w/ absent fathers (7)
- attahment style (anxious, need reaffirming)
- low self-esteem
- unclear abt identity
- trust issues
- self-destructive behaviour
- need validation from others
- struggle w/ emotional regulation
what do fathers teach their children (5)
- structure/discipline
- how to be father/husband
- how to be outspoken/confident
- financial literacy
- sports/athletics
why are canadian fathers involved than in the US
- parental leave
- less financial stress
- less gender roles
mother’s role in the past
- main caregiver (childcare)
- support husband
- stay at home
- supportive/nurturing
- traditional
mothers role today
- shared responsibility (but not 50-50, more 60-40)
- working
- matriarch (leads to villainization)
- more disciplinarian
have mother’s role become worse or better over time
worse, bc of work + household duties
mommy wars
when moms judge/shame other moms
first topic of mommy war
SAHM vs working moms
topics of mommy wars
- food and diet
- career path
- kids university
- kids clothes
- participation in religion
- breastfeeding v formula
are mommy wars universal?
no:
- in west: based on freedom
- based on religous beliefs
motherload
challenge of working and being a mom
impacts of motherload
- burn out
- lose sleep/unhealthy diet
- less time spent alone relaxing
- generationally spreads message tht work comes first
what is an ideal worker
available all the time
motherhood = _______
poverty
gap between wages of mom and non-moms
12-30%
mother in the workplace
- tech = longer work
- moms take on low-skilled jobs
- maternity leave (less pay, things change while ur away)
- work not flexible
- get passed on for promotions
- viewed as incompetent
