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LECUTRE 8: RELATIONAL MAINTENANCE Flashcards

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Relational Maintenance

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  • Keeping relationship going & satisfied
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Relational Maintenance refers to what part of the relational pyramid?

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Integrating > bonding > Differentiating > circumscribing

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7 Relational Maintenance Strategies

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Positivity 
Openness
Assurances
Social Networks 
Sharing Tasks
Conflict Management 
Joint Activities
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Relational Maintenance Strategies: Positivity

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Refers to the kinds of behaviors that we engage in that let’s our partner know we’re excited/happy etc. to see them/be around them

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Positivity has a ____ correlation with high relational satisfaction

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STRONG

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Relational Maintenance Strategies: Openness

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Basically self-disclosure

Sharing what you’re thinking/feeling about life with your partner

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Openness has a _____ relationship with satisfaction

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Curvilinear

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Relational Maintenance Strategies: Assurances

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The things we say/do that communicate to our partners that we are not going anywhere
- Communicating that we’re committed

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9
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Assurances has a _____ _____ correlation relational commitment

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Strong POSITIVE

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Relational Maintenance Strategies: Social Networks

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Willing to invest and spend time with your partner’s social networks

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Relational Maintenance Strategies: Sharing Tasks

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Willing to help people out when needed, like favors

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Relational Maintenance Strategies: Conflict Management

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Willing to engage in the conflict

Try to work out the conflict in the best way possible

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Relational Maintenance Strategies: Joint Activities

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Doing/spending time together

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14
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Primary Love STYLES (2)

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Passionate

Companionate

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Passionate Love

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State of extreme absorption
Intense feelings all over
Usually comes on quickly….but also can fade just as fast

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Companionate Love

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Friendly/deep affect
Less intense
Endures after passion evaporates

17
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Primary Love TYPES (3)

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Eros
Storge
Ludus

18
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Eros

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Similar to passionate love
Tend to have > relational satisfaction
- Passion, Chemistry, Excitement

19
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Storge

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Friendship Love
Compatibility
Can be boring

20
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Ludus

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Those who enjoy the chase over the conquest

Game players

21
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Secondary Love TYPES (3)

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Mania
Agape
Pragma

22
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Mania

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Eros + Ludus

  • High passion and game playing put together
  • Think of a roller coaster
  • A lot of distrust
  • High degree of jealousy/possessiveness
23
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Agape

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Storge & Eros

  • Unconditional Love
  • Agape love = Jesus love (1 Corinthians 13)
  • Putting other’s love before your own
  • Can be bad –> pedestal effect
24
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Pragma

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Storge & Ludus

  • Thought out on what you want
  • Thing of the checklist in Ugly Truth
  • High degree of companionability
  • Can be boring if no sign passion is on the list
25
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Relational Dialectics Theory

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  • The concept of contradiction
  • Things exist in opposition
  • Tensions exist in our relationships pulling us apart
26
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Dialectics (Tensions) (3)

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Autonomy > Togetherness
Novelty > Predictability
Expressive > Protective

27
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Autonomy vs. Togetherness

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Autonomy = sense of self
Togetherness = everything you do, you do as a couple
You and your partner = in different places –> Must negotiate

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Novelty

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Everything is new
Don’t know what’ll happen next
Behaving differently than you’re used to

29
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Two ways you can RESPOND to dialectical tensions (don’t always work)

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Destructively

Constructively

30
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Responding DESTRUCTIVELY to dialectical tensions

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Denial

Disorientation

31
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Destructive response to dialectical tensions: Denial

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The inability to see that there is a problem present

Ignoring the issue

32
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Destructive response to dialectical tensions: Disorientation

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Freaking the fuck out
Lashing out
Fleeing the relationship
Incapable of dealing with the issue

33
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Responding CONSTRUCTIVELY to dialectical tensions

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Spiraling Alteration
Segmentation
Balance
- All suggest how we are willing to make the relationship work

34
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Constructive response to dialectical tensions: Spiraling Alteration

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Moving back and forth between autonomy and togetherness as a way to keep the relationship going

35
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Constructive response to dialectical tensions: Segmentation

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Compartmentalizing the relationship

Carve out things in the relationship to meet needs

36
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Constructive response to dialectical tensions: Balance

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How do we find our happy place?

What do we need to do & how do we adjust?

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