LECTURE 13: FAMILY COMMUNICATION Flashcards
Attachment Theory
Explores type of bond children form with their primary caregivers and the impact the attachment has on their relationships in adulthood
Attachment Styles (3)
- Secure
- Avoidant
- Anxious
Secure Attachment (study example)
Children = visibly upset when caregiver left Caregiver = consistent and prompt emotional and physical support
Avoidant Attachment (study example)
Children = expressed little/no sign of being upset when caregiver left Caregiver = Encouraged children to be independent
Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment (study example)
Children = quite upset when caregiver left, and when returned showed resentment towards them Caregiver = Children received inconsistent emotional and physical support; Child doesn't know what to expect
Attachment Style & Communication: Secure
- Compromising and integrative conflit strats
- Tend to be Eros (Passion and chemistry) and Agape lovers
- Less likely to experience Ludus love (game playing)
- Tend to date and marry other secures
When relationships end, secure attachment style people are likely to use ____ ___ ___.
Social Coping Strategies
Social Coping Strategies
Reaching out to your social network to fill that relational “hole”
Attachment Style & Communication: Anxious/Ambivalent & Avoidant
- Tend to use dominating conflict strats
- More obliging to communication to partners
- More inclined to experience Mania Love (Rollercoaster)
When relationships ends, more likely to use ___ ___ ____ as a coping strategy
Drugs and Alcohol
Definition of Family
Networks of people who share their lives over long periods of time bound by the ties of marriage, blood, or commitment, legal or otherwise, who consider themselves as family
- Share a significant history and anticipated future of function in a family relationship
Family’s co-create meanings
Use their own special type of language
- EX. using “mixed” in place of “black”
Family meanings are shared and created through….
- Family Stories
- Family Secrets
Dysfunctional Communication Patterns (4)
- Placater
- Blamer
- Computer
- Distracter
Placater
- The pleaser
- The first to apologize
- The peacemaker
- Probably doesn’t stand up for self/speak up
Blamer
- Dictator/boss
- Quick to criticize
- See themselves as above others
Computer
- Rational/Reasonable
- The thinker
Distracter
- Watches what goes on
- When things get uncomfortable they tend to try and change the subject
Functional Communication Pattern (1)
Leveler
Leveler
- Straightforward
- Honest/Open
- Verbal cues are consistent with Nonverbal cues
Circumplex Model of Family Systems
- Dimension of Cohesion
- Dimension of Flexibility
Dimension of Cohesion
Emotional bonding of family members
- Disengaged
- Separated
- Connected
- Enmeshed
Dimension of Flexibility
How families manage change
- Rigid
- Structured
- Flexible
- Chaotic
Disengaged
- Significant lack of closeness and loyalty
- EACH member = SIGNIFICANT independent
- Emotionally disconnected
- Fully autonomous
Separated
- Sense of loyalty when needed
- Doesn’t really ask for help
Connected
- High level of engagement
- still autonomous, but still have some sort of belonging
- strong sense of connection
Enmeshed
- Very little independence
- No boundaries
- High degree of loyalty
- Identity comes form the members of the family you’re apart of
- So connected you lose your sense of self
Rigid
- High level of control
- Dictatorship
- tends to be the father, but not always
Structured
Clear leader in the family
- Some room for negotiation
Flexible
- Leadership is shared
- Two adult figures who share leadership
- Children have some influence decisions
- Not quite a democracy though
Chaotic
- No one is in charge
- No rules
- No norms
- Free for all
- Considered TOXIC
