lecture 8 - attraction

Question 1

what are the main thing women consider the most desirable attributes men can have?

Answer 1

women tend to look for achievement, job success, athletic ability, intellectuality etc

Question 2

what are the main thing men consider to be the most desirable attributes women can have?

Answer 2

physical attractiveness, homemaking abilities, etc

their lists r usually short n focus on youthfulness n attractiveness

Question 3

why do we prefer the letters of our own name? what is this an example of?

Answer 3

bc its familiar and thus attractive to us

example of the mere exposure effect

Question 4

whats another example of the mere exposure effect?

Answer 4

the “three cheers for pat milligan” incident

pat was running against a popular guy in elections

he never showed his face, did interviews, etc, only thing on the news was “3 cheers for Pat Milligan” over and over again

he won by a landslide bc of exposure and familiarity

Question 5

what contributes to our attraction to others?

Answer 5

proximity
similarity
reciprocal liking
relationship rewards
physical attrativeness

Question 6

state n describe the 4 dimensions of affiliation motivation

Answer 6

1. emotional support
2. attention
3. positive stimulation
4. social comparisons

Question 7

describe a study discussed in class regarding proximity effects

Answer 7

study with police trainees, proximity and alphabetical surname was correlated with the friendships they made

Question 8

what are the most attractive faces? why?

Answer 8

the most average faces (i.e. average nose shape, symmetry etc)

because they are more familiar

Question 9

why is symmetry important for attraction?

Answer 9

bc it means you have good genes, so your kids would have good genes too , which attracts people

Question 10

why is waist-hip ratio attractive?

Answer 10

because of child rearing abilities

Question 11

what is the matching phenomenon?

Answer 11

the tendency for men and women to choose partners who are a good match to their attractiveness and other traits

Question 12

what is the physical attractiveness stereotype

Answer 12

the myth of beauty is that beautiful people are seen as good and smart

Question 13

when ovulating, what are women attracted to?

Answer 13

guys with big muscles lol

this was seen in the study with the t-shirt and sweat

Question 14

do opposites attract?

Answer 14

they do but they don’t stay together.

similarity is actually what leads to a long lasting relationship

Question 15

what is the reward theory of attraction

Answer 15

i like those who meet my needs and take care of me (we dont actually want this tho but its what we think?)

Question 16

describe passionate love

Answer 16

‘Eros’

attraction, erotica, etc

Question 17

describe the love style called ‘game for mutual enjoyment’

Answer 17

‘Ludus’

thrill of the chase

Question 18

describe friendship love

Answer 18

‘Storge’

care and concern but not lust

Question 19

describe possessive love

Answer 19

‘Mania’

fear of rejecting, love bombing, etc. this love is scary and can lead to domestic violence

Question 20

describe practical love

Answer 20

‘Pragma’

arranged marriage is an example

Question 21

describe selfless love

Answer 21

‘Agape’

“ill do anything to make you happy”

Question 22

describe sternberg’s love triangle (the 3 components and what they relate to)

Answer 22

1. passion (this is motivational, can be addictive)
2. intimacy (this is based on emotions and affect)
3. commitment (this is cognitive)

Question 23

if you only had one of the components of sternberg’s love triangle, what would it be called? label what each love style is when you only have one of the components.

Answer 23

intimacy alone = friendship
passion alone = infatuation
commitment alone = empty love

Question 24

what components of sternberg’s triangle are in romantic love?

Answer 24

intimacy and passion

Question 25

what components of sternberg’s triangle are in hollywood love

Answer 25

passion and commitment

Question 26

what components of sternberg’s triangle are in companionate love

Answer 26

intimacy and commitment

Question 27

what components of sternberg’s triangle are in consumate love

Answer 27

all 3; passion intimacy and commitment

Question 28

men are more distressed about _______ infidelity than _________ infidelity. fill in the blanks and also answer why this is the case

Answer 28

1.sexual 2.emotional

2 doesnt impact a mans reproductive success, but 1 does, so they care about it

Question 29

women are more distressed about _______ infidelity than _________ infidelity. fill in the blanks and also answer why this is the case

Answer 29

1. emotional 2. sexual

if the other girl gets pregnant it doesnt make a difference to us, but if the other girl gets all the money, time, and attention, it matters to us bc itll impact the reproductive success of me n my child etc

Question 30

how do men and women express jealousy differently?

Answer 30

men w anger
women w depression

Question 31

state and describe the 3 attachment styles

Answer 31

secure (trusting)

avoidant (no trust, distances self, fear of intimacy)

anxious/ambivalent (clingy, jealousy, obsession)