Lecture 10: Social Development 2

Question 1

filter theories

Answer 1

people put on all sorts of filters to choose a partner, such as ethnicity, education, SES etc…

Question 2

homogamy

Answer 2

we want partner who is the same as us

Question 3

complementarity

Answer 3

we look for people who are different from us, but who give us strengths that compensate for our weaknesses

Question 4

triangulation theory of love (sterngerg)

Answer 4

passion: sexual attraction, romantic feelings and joy
intimacy: feelings of warmth, care, closeness, trust and respect
commitment: you love the other person and dedicate yourself to a long-term relationship

Question 5

perfect love

Answer 5

when a person experiences a lot of passion, intimacy and commitment. often commitment grows and passion diminishes

Question 6

companion love

Answer 6

a close friendship, where intimacy and commitment are strong, but passion declines

Question 7

attachment types

Answer 7

quality is more important not quantity

Question 8

parental imperative

Answer 8

when people become parents, they fall into traditional roles

Question 9

spillover effect

Answer 9

the positive or negative effects of events are work affect your family life

Question 10

empty nest

Answer 10

describes the family after the last child has left home

Question 11

boomerang effect

Answer 11

when a child returns to live at home

Question 12

3 ways of grandparenting

Answer 12

distant: about 30% of grandparents are only symbolic figure who see their grandchildren only occasionally
companion: this is the most frequent style of grandparenting. see their grandchildren frequently and enjoy doing things with them
involved: 15% of grandparents also have a parental role. they see their grandchildren often and play with them a lot, but also take care of them

Question 13

role reversal

Answer 13

when parent takes role of child and child takes role of parent. often when parent is too old to take care of themselves

Question 14

middle generation squeeze

Answer 14

used to describe the situation of a middle-aged adult who feels pressure from both the older and younger generations

Question 15

reasons for living together without marrying

Answer 15

• convenience: they are in a romantic relationship and want to live affordably, or they are tired of having to come to each other all the time
• test marriage: they live together to see if a marriage will work
• alternative to marriage: they have no intention of getting married

Question 16

adequate financial support

Answer 16

families do better when the parent with the main income pays child support and when the family is financially well of

Question 17

good parenting by a caring parent

Answer 17

if the caring parent can manage to maintain a warm and sensitive parenting style, the children are less likely to experience problems

Question 18

good parenting by non-custodial parent

Answer 18

children suffer when they lose contact with the non-custodial parent

Question 19

minimal conflicts between parents

Answer 19

children should be protected from marital conflicts and attempts by parents to undermine each other

Question 20

additional social support

Answer 20

adults who divorce become less depressed if they have close friendships. children also experience support from friends

Question 21

minimal changes

Answer 21

in general, families do better when there are as few changes as possible

Question 22

personal resources

Answer 22

resources such as intelligence, emotional stability and good coping skills make people experience divorce more positively