Exam #1 Review Flashcards
Gender in Relationships
- men and women are more similar than different in their communication and relationships
- substantial similarities, not differences, were found in the values both sexes place on supportive communication skills, such as comforting and listening
- regardless of similarities, gender differences of interview parties may be critical in establishing and refining relationships.
- men’s talk tends to be directive and goal oriented with statements that tend to press compliance, agreement or belief.
- women’s talk may be more polite and expressive, containing less intense words, qualifiers (perhaps), and disclaimers (maybe I’m wrong, but..) (I may not fully understand the situation, but…)
- women use communication as a primary way of establishing relationships, while men communicate to exert control, preserve independence, and enhance status.
- women give more praise and compliments and are reluctant to criticize directly in the workplace while men remain silent when a coworker is doing something well and take criticism straight.
- women report greater satisfaction with their interactions than do men.
- women are more likely to betray and be betrayed by other women.
- men are more likely to be betrayed by other men with whom they are competing with
Global Relationships:
- in intercultural conflict situations, when we are experiencing high anxieties with unfamiliar behavior (for ex., accents, gestures, facial expressions), we may automatically withhold trust.
- some anxiety already exists in the early stages of relationships.
- this anxiety stems from fears about possible negative consequences of our actions. we may be afraid that we will look stupid or will offend someone because we’re unfamiliar with that person’s language or culture.
Global Relationships: relationships develop differently in different cultures.
- in the US we tend to have many friendly, informal relationships and tend to place importance on how a person looks, particularly early on in the relationship.
- we create and discard friendships frequently, while Australians make deeper and longer-lasting commitments.
- Arabs also develop friendships quickly like Americans, but unlike Americans who dislike taking advantage of friendships by asking for favors, Arabs believe friends should do favors for one another and have a duty to help one another.
- Chinese develop long-term relationships that tend to be strong, and, like the Arabs, see friendships as involving obligations.
- In Mexico, trust in relationships develops very slowly, is given sparingly, and must be earned.
- Germans develop relationships slowly because they seem them as very important, and using first names before a relationship is well-established is considered rude behavior.
- Japanese prefer not to interact with strangers, want background information on parties before establishing relationships, prefer doing business with people they’ve known for years, and take time establishing relationships.
Directive Approach:
- a directive approach allows the interviewer to maintain control.
- the interviewer establishes the purpose of the interview and attempts to control the pacing, climate and formality of the interview.
- questions are likely to be closed with brief, direct answers.
- although an aggressive interviewee may assume some control as the interview progresses, the interviewer intends to control the interview.
- typical directive interviews are information giving, surveys and opinion polls, employee recruiting, and persuasive interviews such as a sales.
- it’s easy to learn, takes less time, enables you to maintain control, and is easy to replicate.
Nondirective Approach:
- the interviewee has significant control over subject matter, length of answers, interview climate, and formality.
- q’s are likely to be open-ended and neutral to give the interviewee maximum opportunity and freedom to respond.
- typically nondirective interviews are journalistic, oral history, investigations, counseling, and performance review.
- this approach allows for greater flexibility and adaptability, encourages probing questions, and invites the interviewee to volunteer information.
- enables the interviewee to share control.
- nondirective allows the interviewee to become more involved in the process and more active in changing the flow or direction of the discussion.
Combination of Approaches
- be flexible and adaptable when selecting approaches
- the roles we play should guide but not dictate approaches
- you can select a combination of the two approaches.
- you may choose the nondirective approach at first to relax the interviewee and then switch to a directive approach when giving information about the organization and position, and return to the nondirective approach when answering the applicant’s questions.
- often the choice of interview approach is governed by societal and organizational rules and expectations.
- adherence to societal roles and expectations may lead to an ineffective interview.
Each party enters the interview setting with perceptions of self and the other party. They play a major role in the interaction and dynamics of the interview. There are four critical perceptions in the process:
- perception of self
- perception of the other party
- how the other party us
- how the other party perceives self
- Perceptions of Self:
self-concept
our self-perception - self concept - emerges from our experiences, activities, attitudes, accomplishments and failures, interactions, and the superior and subordinate roles we play.
- it is a demanding and assertive personal view of who we are and how we want to be seen and taken, of the kind of persons we feel ourselves to be or the kind of person we think we out to be.
- our self-concept is a mutual creation of interpretations - how we interpret and think others interpret who we have been, are and will be
- it’s through these interpretations that we create our self-identity.
- Perceptions of Self:
self-identity
- our self-concept is a mutual creation of interpretations - how we interpret and think others interpret who we have been, are, and will be
- it’s through these interpretations that we create our self-identity.
- we come to each encounter with an identifiable “self” built through past interactions, and as we talk, we adapt ourself to fit the topics we are discussing and the people we are talking with, and we are changed by what happens to us as we communicate.
- our self-concept and self-identity are affected by the expectations of our family, society, professions, and organizations place upon us.
- we may experience different self-concepts as we move from one situation or role to another.
- Perceptions of Self:
self-esteem
- self-esteem is how we perceive our self-worth.
- it’s a critical element of self-concept and self-identity
- we exert a great deal of mental and communicative energy attempting to gain and maintain recognition and approval from family members, friends, peers, and others because we have a “persistent and compelling” need to give an accounting of ourselves
- if we feel respected and taken seriously - have high self-esteem - we may be more perceptive, confident, and likely to express attitudes and ideas that are unpopular.
- low self-esteem can lead to us not correctly interpreting the behavior and communication of others.
- we may succeed or fail because we convince ourself that we will - the self-fulfilling prophecy that influence messages sent and received, risks taken, confident and self-disclosure.
- self-esteem is closely related to self-worth.
- Perceptions of Self:
self-fulfilling prophecy
- if we feel respected and taken seriously - have high self-esteem - we may be more perceptive, confident, and likely to express attitudes and ideas that are unpopular.
- low self-esteem can lead to us not correctly interpreting the behavior and communication of others.
- we may succeed or fail because we convince ourself that we will - a self-fulfilling prophecy that influences messages sent and received, risks taken, confident and self-disclosure.
Gender/Cultural Differences:
- self-concept, self-identity and self-esteem are central in American and Western cultures because they emphasize the individual.
- not central in Eastern cultures or South American countries.
- Japanese, Chinese and Indians are collectivist cultures, not individualists - they are more concerned with the image, esteem and achievement of the GROUP.
- China would consider focusing on the individual as egotistical, self-advancing, and disrespectful. Success is attributed to the GROUP or TEAM
- failure to appreciate cultural differences has led to many communication problems for American interviewers and interviewees.
- many citizens of the global village are less concerned with self than with the group.
Gender/Cultural Differences:
- gender matters in self-concepts because gender roles are socially constructed ideas about how women and men should think and behave.
- men are expected to be more assertive and in charge, and self-sufficient while women are taught to be feminine, submissive, and to show empathy and emotional expressiveness.
- not all men and women act this way but we can’t ignore the role of society on gender and self-concept and it’s potential impact on an interview.
- Perceptions of the Other Party
- perceptions are a two-way process
- allow interactions to alter or reinforce perceptions
- how you perceive the other affects how you approach an interview and how you react during it.
- previous encounters with a party may lead you to look forward to or dread an interview.
- your perceptions may be influence by the other’s age, gender, race, ethnic group, size and physical attractiveness - particularly if the person differs significantly from you.
- a positive endorsement of a third party may influence how you perceive a person.
- if you are flexible and adaptable, these perceptions may change as an interview progresses by how the interview begins, the other party’s manner, dress, appearance, listening and feedback, verbal and nonverbal interactions, questions and answers, etc.
- warmth, understanding, and cooperation on the part of both parties can enhance perceptions of each.
There are three communication levels that differ in relational distance, self-disclosure, risk encountered, perceived meaning, and amount and type of context exchanged.
- level 1
- level 2
- level 3
Level 1 Interactions
- interactions on this level avoid judgements, attitudes, and feelings
- interactions are safe and superficial
- relatively safe, nonthreatening interactions about such topics as hometowns, professions, sporting events, college courses, families, etc.
- they generate safe, socially acceptable, comfortable and ambiguous answers such as “pretty good” “not bad” “can’t complain” that do not reveal judgments, attitudes, or feelings.
- each level is a metaphorical door, with the door being slightly open in level 1 interactions.
- general ideas, surface feelings, and simple information pass through, but either party may close the door quicly and safely if necessary
- the thickness of the arrow in the figure means that level 1 communication exchanges are most common in interviews, and the length of the arrow symbolizes the relational distance
- level 1 interactions dominate interviews in which there is no relational history, trust, the issue is controversial, or the role relationship is between high-status and low-status parties.
Level 2 Interactions
- this level requires trust and risk-taking
- this level deals with personal or controversial topics and probe into beliefs, attitudes, values and positions.
- responses tend to be half-safe, half-revealing, as parties seek to cooperate without revealing too much.
- the metaphorical door is half open (the optimist view) or half closed ( the pessimist’s view) - as more specific and revealing ideas, feelings and information pass through
- through willing to take more risk, parties retain the option to close the door quickly if needed.
- thickness of the arrow signifies that level 2 interactions are less common than level 1, and the length of the arrows shows hat a close relationship between parties is necessary to move from superficial to more revealing exchanges (level 1 to level 2)
Level 3 Interactions
- this involves full disclosure
- deal with more personal and controversial topics/levels of inquiry
- Respondents fully disclose their feelings, beliefs, attitudes, and perceptions
- little is withheld and sometimes questioners get more than they bargained for.
- the metaphorical door is fully and wide open.
- risk and benefits are considerable for both parties.
- the thin, short arrow indicates that level 3 interactions are the most uncommon, particularly in initial contacts, and the relationship between the parties must be trusting with a sharing of control.
- a positive relationship is essential for level 3 interactions.
Self Disclosure:
- in most interviews, you must move beyond level 1 to level 2 to level 3 to obtain information, detect feelings, discover insights, attain commitments, etc.
- this requires varying degrees of self-disclosure, and this may not be easy to do.
- unlike being a member of a group or audience into which you can blend or hide, the interview often places your social, professional, financial or physical welfare on the line.
- interviews deal with your behavior, your performance, your reputation, your decisions, your weaknesses, your feelings, your money or your future.
Self Disclosure:
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- Self Disclosing can carry a degree of risk
- suggestions for reducing risk: be aware of the nature of your relationship with the other party, begin with a safe level of disclosure, be sure disclosure is relevant and appropriate, be sensitive to the effect your disclosure will have on the other party and persons not involved with the interview, continue to disclose at a level at which the other party reciprocates.
- we tend to have few inhibitions when interacting online and may disclose to much info , what some refer to as “hyperpersonal’” revelations - and this info may come earlier in online interactions.
Self Disclosure: (Gender)
- women disclose more freely than men, except for anger and are allowed to express emotions (fear, sadness, empathy) more than men.
- bc women are perceived to be better listeners and more responsive than men, disclosure is often highest between woman-to-woman parties, about equal in woman-to-man parties, and lowest among man-to-man parties
Self Disclosure: (culture)
- culture may dictate what we disclose and to whom
- Americans of European descent may disclose a wider range of topics, including personal info than Chinese or Japanese.
- Asians disclose more to those with expertise and ability to exhibit honest and positive attitudes than to those who like to talk and show more emotional feelings.
- High context and collectivist cultures (Japan and China) where they are expected to work for the good of the group and to know/follow the cultural norms - disclose less than those in low-context, individualist countries (US and Great Britain)
- in individualist cultures like the US and Great Britain, people strive to succeed as individuals and cultural norms are less known and more flexible.
- conflict can occur if we over-disclose, under-disclose or disclose to the wrong person in differing cultures.
Verbal Interactions consist of:
- multiple meanings
- sound alikes
- ambiguities
- connotations (words have positive and negative connotations. ex. a suit is “inexpensive” or “cheap”)
- jargon
- slang
- euphemisms ( substitution of a better-sounding word for a more common word. ex. powder room instead of bathroom, associate rather than clerk)
- naming (you can label a person, place or thing to alter how you and the other party see reality. ex. you may experience a downturn rather than a recession)
- power words
- role and regional differences
- gender differences
- global differences
Verbal Interactions: Region and Role Differences
- most american’s speak english but there are regional and role differences
- people in new jersey go to the shore, while those is cali go to the beach
- a person in New England asks for soda and a person in the midwest for pop, and a person from the south says a coke
- social security has different meanings for a 24 year old than a 64 year old.
- employees and management view downsizing and outsourcing differently