Chapter 9: Love & Sexuality Flashcards
6 Reasons for dating:
(1) Recreation
(2) Learning
(3) Status
(4) Companionship
(5) Intimacy
(6) Courtship
Top 3 reasons that adolescents like to date (IN THAT ORDER)
#1: Recreation #2: Intimacy #3: Status
Top 3 reasons that College students like to date (IN THAT ORDER)
#1: Intimacy #2: Companionship #3: Recreation
The males on the date are _____ while the females are _____.
Proactive; Reactive
- People like to find in others an agreement, or consensus, with their own characteristics
- Finding this consensus supports, or validates, their own way of looking at the world.
Consensual Validation
People of all ages tend to have romantic relationships with people who are similar to them in characteristics such as:
- Intelligence
- Social class
- Ethnic background
- Religious beliefs
- Physical attractiveness
Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love: Initiation phase
First tentative explorations of love; usually superficial, brief and often fraught with anxiety, fear, and excitement
FRIEND ROLE: opinion (approval/disapproval)
Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love: Status phase
Begin to gain confidence in their interaction skills with potential romantic partners
Remain acutely aware of the evaluations of their friends and peers
FRIEND ROLE: friend becomes the messenger to protect my status.
Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love: Affection phase:
Adolescents come to know each other better and express deeper feelings for each other
Beginning to engage in more extensive sexual activity
FRIEND ROLE: “monitor” the person to make sure they’re not messing around also need a mediator.
Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love: Bonding phase:
(usually occurs in emerging adulthood)
The romantic relationship becomes more enduring and serious – partners begin to discuss the possibility of a lifelong commitment
FRIEND ROLE: confidant. someone to complain/talk to.
Different types of love involve combining three fundamental qualities of love in different ways
These three qualities are:
(1) PASSION -
Involves physical attraction and sexual desire
(2) INTIMACY -
Feelings of closeness and emotional attachment
(3) COMMITMENT -
The pledge to love someone long term
Sternberg’s Theory of Love: What are the two main types of adolescent love?
Infatuation (the passion alone) and romantic love. Both have passion in common but are missing commitment
In the U.S. cohabitation tends to be _____ and ____.
brief and unstable
Types of Cohabiting Relationships: Alternative to marriage:
Couples who live together for an extended period of time with no plans to marry (ex: don’t believe in the institution of marriage)
Outcome: tend to be as successful as any other married couple (successful longer term)
Types of Cohabiting Relationships: Prelude to marriage:
Engaged Cohabitation: couples who become engaged before moving in together
Outcome: equally successful to the non-cohabiting
Pre-Engaged Cohabitation: couples who become engaged after moving in together
Outcome: likely to have a less successful marriage
Types of Cohabiting Relationships: Alternative to being single.
Individuals who live together because neither wants to be alone (without a relationship)
outcome: less successful marriage . Don’t last long and may not even make it to marriage.
Why is cohabitation before marraige related to HIGHER rather than lower likelihood of later divorce?
We are lacking the marital commitment. and we are lacking the marital commitment because we are trying this out (test/trial).
The psychology word for “Break up”…
Romantic termination
Most common reason emerging adults give for breaking up:
#1 Lack of common interests and #2 communication
Sexual Self is comprised of these three dimensions:
(1) Sexual self-esteem
(2) Sexual self-efficacy
(3) Sexual self-image
Perception of their worth as sexual beings:
Sexual self-esteem;
Sexual appeal
Example: Am I sexually attractive?
Sexual adequacy
Example: In intimate situations do I know what I am doing sexually?
Perception of control over sexual desires
Sexual self-efficacy;
Communication
Example: Being able to say yes/no and communicate your sexual desires.
Beliefs about sexual needs
Sexual self-image;
Sexual experimentation
Example: Simple or complicated
Level of commitment needed
Example: From barely met to I need to be married before anything happens
have little confidence in sexual attractiveness, feel no control over sexual situations
Example: virgins
Student Population: Younger HS students.
Sexually naiive
