Chapter 9: Emotions in Social Relationships Flashcards
Week 5: Emotions in Communication
Stephanie Coontz
outlines the historical evolution of marriage
principles of sexual love
the initiation of romantic partnerships is influenced by two primary emotions:
- sexual desire
- romantic love
sexual desire
characterized by sexual interest and ideation, is initially responsive to cues of physical attractiveness and signals of youth, strength, and power
uniqueness of desire
emerges as a crucial factor in the early stages of romantic attraction, fostering long-term bonds
romantic love
as partners spend more time together, sexual desire can transition into romantic love, characterized by deep intimacy, devotion, and commitment
gender differences in sexual desire
- women desire is related to intimacy
- men desire is related to sexual intercourse
responsiveness
being attentive to each other’s emotions
resolution
collaborating to address stress
maintenance
finding ways to build affection and commitment
toxic emotional behaviors predict divorce
“the four horsemen of the apocalypse:
- criticism
- defensiveness
- stonewalling
- contempt
couples exhibiting these behaviors are more likely to divorce
cooperation
plays a crucial role in human evolution
gratitude
identified as a moral emotion that binds people together in cooperative social living
3 functions of gratitude
- acts as a barometer, helping individuals keep track of cooperative and non-cooperative friends
- gratitude motivates altruistic behavior by fostering generosity, favors, and expressions of appreciation, critical for maintaining long-term commitments among friends
- expression of gratitude, whether verbal or nonverbal, serves as a reward, reinforcing cooperative behavior and increasing the likelihood of future collaboration
emotional mimicry
the unconscious imitation of others facial expressions, postural movements, tones of voice, and gait, is a significant aspect of social interactions, particularly in forming and strengthening friendships
power
defined as the capacity to influence others, considered a fundamental element that shapes our interpersonal interactions in various relationships