Chapter 7: communicating in social and professional relationships Flashcards
Why do relationships matter?
The need to belong theory
The need to belong theory
a psychological theory proposing a fundamental human inclination to bond with others
a. “Innate”
b. We Need relationships - emotionally close relationships + need to belong
4 Relationship types
- Virtual
- Pinocchio
- Cyber-emigrant
- Real worlders
Virtual
meeting online, relationship stays online
Pinocchio
relationships starts online, then meet in person
Cyber-emigrant
from face to face relationship to online relationship
Ex: moved to another state, use FaceTime to communicate now instead of face-to-face
Real worlders
met face to face, primarily communicate face to face
What types of rewards do relationships bring?
- emotional
- material
- health
Emotional rewards
Two types of emotional rewards:
- Emotional support
- happiness
Material rewards
relationships help us meet our material needs
- “social capital”: resources we have as a result of our social relationships
social capital
resources we have as a result of our social relationships
Health rewards
positive social relationships provide good health
Why form relationships?
Attraction theory
Attraction theory
theory that explains why individuals are drawn to others
Interpersonal attraction
force that draws people together
Physical attraction
attraction to someone’s appearance (appears physically healthy)
Social attraction
attraction to someone’s personality
Task-oriented attraction
attraction to someone’s abilities, dependability (EX: you’re ambitious, want someone equally as ambitious)
Appearance
physical (evolution)
Proximity
how close someone is to you (distance)
Similarity
how much you have in common
Complementarity
complement each other (opposite attracts)
a) What one lacks, other provides
b) Ex: short person gets with tall person
Culture’s effect on attractiveness
Culture can influence our perception of attractiveness
- Different cultures have different standards for attractiveness
Berger and Calabrese’s uncertainty reduction theory
theory suggesting that people find uncertainty to be unpleasant, so they are motivated to reduce their uncertainty by getting to know others.