Chapter 7: communicating in social and professional relationships Flashcards

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Why do relationships matter?

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The need to belong theory

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The need to belong theory

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a psychological theory proposing a fundamental human inclination to bond with others
a. “Innate”
b. We Need relationships - emotionally close relationships + need to belong

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4 Relationship types

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  • Virtual
  • Pinocchio
  • Cyber-emigrant
  • Real worlders
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Virtual

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meeting online, relationship stays online

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Pinocchio

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relationships starts online, then meet in person

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Cyber-emigrant

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from face to face relationship to online relationship
Ex: moved to another state, use FaceTime to communicate now instead of face-to-face

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Real worlders

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met face to face, primarily communicate face to face

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What types of rewards do relationships bring?

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  • emotional
  • material
  • health
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Emotional rewards

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Two types of emotional rewards:
- Emotional support
- happiness

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Material rewards

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relationships help us meet our material needs
- “social capital”: resources we have as a result of our social relationships

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social capital

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resources we have as a result of our social relationships

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Health rewards

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positive social relationships provide good health

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Why form relationships?

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Attraction theory

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Attraction theory

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theory that explains why individuals are drawn to others

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Interpersonal attraction

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force that draws people together

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Physical attraction

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attraction to someone’s appearance (appears physically healthy)

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Social attraction

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attraction to someone’s personality

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Task-oriented attraction

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attraction to someone’s abilities, dependability (EX: you’re ambitious, want someone equally as ambitious)

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Appearance

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physical (evolution)

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Proximity

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how close someone is to you (distance)

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Similarity

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how much you have in common

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Complementarity

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complement each other (opposite attracts)
a) What one lacks, other provides
b) Ex: short person gets with tall person

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Culture’s effect on attractiveness

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Culture can influence our perception of attractiveness
- Different cultures have different standards for attractiveness

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Berger and Calabrese’s uncertainty reduction theory

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theory suggesting that people find uncertainty to be unpleasant, so they are motivated to reduce their uncertainty by getting to know others.

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Uncertainty
the more you learn about someone, the more you’ll like them
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Sunnafrank's predicted outcome value theory
When you dislike the information you learn about others, that information can cause us to like them less, not more
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Social exchange theory
theory suggesting that people seek to maintain relationships in which the benefits outweigh their costs - Benefits > costs
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Comparison level
A realistic expectation of what one wants or thinks they deserve from a relationship - Determines how happy you will be in a relationship based on what you know/expected
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Comparison level: alternatives
An assessment/comparison of how much better the current relationship is than other options - Leaving costs you more than staying - Considers the costs
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Equity theory
theory suggesting that a good relationship is one in which one's ratio of costs and benefits is equal to the partner's EX: costs your time, compromising
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Over-benefited
A state in which one's relational benefits outweigh one's costs
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Under-benefited
A state in which one's relational costs outweigh one's benefits
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Relational maintenance behaviors theory
theory specifying the primary behaviors people use to maintain their relationships
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5 primary relational maintenance behaviors
- Positivity - Openness - Assurances - Social networks - Sharing tasks
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Positivity
includes behaviors such as acting friendly and cheerful EX: smile, express affection and appreciation for others
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Openness
describes a person's willingness to discuss his or her relationship with a friend or other relational partner EX: disclosing thoughts and feelings, asking how their friend feels about the relationship
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Assurances
verbal and nonverbal behaviors that people use to stress their faithfulness and commitment to others Ex: assuring statements (of course I'll help you, you're my friend)
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Social networks
includes all the friendships and family relationships you have, whether those relationships are maintained online or face to face EX: sharing social networks with another
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Social Convergence theory
when your social networks and your friend's social networks are intertwined/connected
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Sharing tasks
performing your fair share of the work in a friendship EX: your friend drives you somewhere, you give her your Netflix password - Scratching each other's backs
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Self-disclosure
act of intentionally giving others information about oneself that one believes is true but thinks others don't already have - Intentional (directly telling someone) + truthful (no lies) information
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Breadth
the range of topics we self-disclose to various people
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Depth
the degree of personal/intimacy of our self-disclosures
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More breadth, less depth ?
range of topics to talk about, but you don’t know anything about the person you're talking to
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More depth, less breadth ?
focused on one topic (ex: always talking about their drama at home)
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Risks of self-disclosure:
- Rejection
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Benefits of self-disclosure
- Emotional release
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Cultural disclosure
- Some cultures keep things to themselves
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Social penetration theory
theory suggesting that the depth and breadth of self-disclosure help us learn about a person we are getting to know
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Norm of reciprocity
the social expectation that favors should be reciprocated - “Give something, get something” - Applies to disclosure (the more you share with someone, the more someone will share about themselves)
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Friendship
Voluntary - Relationships between peers - Cannot truly be friends with someone who is a higher power than you
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Peers
someone similar to us in status or power - cannot be your teacher or professor because they hold a higher power over you - ex: teacher cannot be your friend because they hold grading power over you