Chapter 7: communicating in social and professional relationships Flashcards

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Why do relationships matter?

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The need to belong theory

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The need to belong theory

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a psychological theory proposing a fundamental human inclination to bond with others
a. “Innate”
b. We Need relationships - emotionally close relationships + need to belong

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4 Relationship types

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  • Virtual
  • Pinocchio
  • Cyber-emigrant
  • Real worlders
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Virtual

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meeting online, relationship stays online

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Pinocchio

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relationships starts online, then meet in person

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Cyber-emigrant

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from face to face relationship to online relationship
Ex: moved to another state, use FaceTime to communicate now instead of face-to-face

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Real worlders

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met face to face, primarily communicate face to face

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8
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What types of rewards do relationships bring?

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  • emotional
  • material
  • health
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Emotional rewards

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Two types of emotional rewards:
- Emotional support
- happiness

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Material rewards

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relationships help us meet our material needs
- “social capital”: resources we have as a result of our social relationships

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11
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social capital

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resources we have as a result of our social relationships

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12
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Health rewards

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positive social relationships provide good health

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13
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Why form relationships?

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Attraction theory

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Attraction theory

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theory that explains why individuals are drawn to others

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Interpersonal attraction

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force that draws people together

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Physical attraction

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attraction to someone’s appearance (appears physically healthy)

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Social attraction

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attraction to someone’s personality

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Task-oriented attraction

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attraction to someone’s abilities, dependability (EX: you’re ambitious, want someone equally as ambitious)

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Appearance

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physical (evolution)

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20
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Proximity

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how close someone is to you (distance)

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Similarity

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how much you have in common

22
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Complementarity

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complement each other (opposite attracts)
a) What one lacks, other provides
b) Ex: short person gets with tall person

23
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Culture’s effect on attractiveness

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Culture can influence our perception of attractiveness
- Different cultures have different standards for attractiveness

24
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Berger and Calabrese’s uncertainty reduction theory

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theory suggesting that people find uncertainty to be unpleasant, so they are motivated to reduce their uncertainty by getting to know others.

25
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Uncertainty

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the more you learn about someone, the more you’ll like them

26
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Sunnafrank’s predicted outcome value theory

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When you dislike the information you learn about others, that information can cause us to like them less, not more

27
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Social exchange theory

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theory suggesting that people seek to maintain relationships in which the benefits outweigh their costs
- Benefits > costs

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Comparison level

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A realistic expectation of what one wants or thinks they deserve from a relationship
- Determines how happy you will be in a relationship based on what you know/expected

29
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Comparison level: alternatives

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An assessment/comparison of how much better the current relationship is than other options
- Leaving costs you more than staying
- Considers the costs

30
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Equity theory

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theory suggesting that a good relationship is one in which one’s ratio of costs and benefits is equal to the partner’s
EX: costs your time, compromising

31
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Over-benefited

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A state in which one’s relational benefits outweigh one’s costs

32
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Under-benefited

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A state in which one’s relational costs outweigh one’s benefits

33
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Relational maintenance behaviors theory

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theory specifying the primary behaviors people use to maintain their relationships

34
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5 primary relational maintenance behaviors

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  • Positivity
  • Openness
  • Assurances
  • Social networks
  • Sharing tasks
35
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Positivity

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includes behaviors such as acting friendly and cheerful
EX: smile, express affection and appreciation for others

36
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Openness

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describes a person’s willingness to discuss his or her relationship with a friend or other relational partner
EX: disclosing thoughts and feelings, asking how their friend feels about the relationship

37
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Assurances

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verbal and nonverbal behaviors that people use to stress their faithfulness and commitment to others
Ex: assuring statements (of course I’ll help you, you’re my friend)

38
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Social networks

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includes all the friendships and family relationships you have, whether those relationships are maintained online or face to face
EX: sharing social networks with another

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Social Convergence theory

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when your social networks and your friend’s social networks are intertwined/connected

40
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Sharing tasks

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performing your fair share of the work in a friendship
EX: your friend drives you somewhere, you give her your Netflix password
- Scratching each other’s backs

41
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Self-disclosure

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act of intentionally giving others information about oneself that one believes is true but thinks others don’t already have
- Intentional (directly telling someone) + truthful (no lies) information

42
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Breadth

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the range of topics we self-disclose to various people

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Depth

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the degree of personal/intimacy of our self-disclosures

44
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More breadth, less depth ?

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range of topics to talk about, but you don’t know anything about the person you’re talking to

45
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More depth, less breadth ?

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focused on one topic (ex: always talking about their drama at home)

46
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Risks of self-disclosure:

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  • Rejection
47
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Benefits of self-disclosure

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  • Emotional release
48
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Cultural disclosure

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  • Some cultures keep things to themselves
49
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Social penetration theory

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theory suggesting that the depth and breadth of self-disclosure help us learn about a person we are getting to know

50
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Norm of reciprocity

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the social expectation that favors should be reciprocated
- “Give something, get something”
- Applies to disclosure (the more you share with someone, the more someone will share about themselves)

51
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Friendship

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Voluntary
- Relationships between peers
- Cannot truly be friends with someone who is a higher power than you

52
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Peers

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someone similar to us in status or power
- cannot be your teacher or professor because they hold a higher power over you
- ex: teacher cannot be your friend because they hold grading power over you