Chapter 14: Maintaining and repairing relationships Flashcards

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What traditional expectations may hinder the effectiveness of men as long-term partners?

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Traditional expectations of assertiveness and self-reliance in men may hinder their effectiveness in long-term relationships.

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How do physical looks matter in attracting potential partners?

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  • Physical looks matter in attracting potential partners.
  • Men’s deficiency in nonverbal communication is correlated with dissatisfaction in close relationships.
  • Partners often misinterpret each other’s messages, and negative interactions have a more significant impact than positive ones.
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What challenges exist in intimate relationships?

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  • Physical looks matter in attracting potential partners.
  • Men’s deficiency in nonverbal communication is correlated with dissatisfaction in close relationships.
  • Partners often misinterpret each other’s messages, and negative interactions have a more significant impact than positive ones.
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What are some optimistic factors in relationships?

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  • About one-third of men can be warm, tender, sensitive, and kind, challenging traditional stereotypes.
  • Happy partners perceive each other generously, using positive illusions and considering their relationships superior.
  • Interdependence and affectionate friendship replace passion in maintaining relationships over time.
  • Authentic forgiveness in satisfying relationships benefits both partners.
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How do committed individuals maintain their relationships cognitively?

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  • Committed individuals perceive themselves as part of a greater whole, demonstrating cognitive interdependence.
  • Positive illusions and idealization help partners overlook faults and maintain positive evaluations of each other.
  • Committed partners believe their relationships are better than most, reducing the likelihood of seeking alternatives.
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How do committed individuals maintain their relationships behaviorally?

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  • Committed individuals make personal sacrifices to promote partner well-being, from trivial costs to substantial sacrifices.
  • Prayer for partner success and well-being correlates with increased satisfaction and commitment in relationships.
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What role does hope and effort play in relationships?

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  • Despite challenges, wisdom and effort can lead to lasting, thriving relationships.
  • Knowledge about close relationships empowers individuals to prevent and overcome problems.
  • Mechanisms for protecting and maintaining satisfaction in relationships exist, allowing for the resolution of difficulties.
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What does the Michelangelo phenomenon refer to?

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  • Partners supporting each other’s personal development enhances both relationships and individual well-being.
  • The Michelangelo phenomenon refers to partners helping each other become the individuals they aspire to be.
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What is accommodation, and what role does self-control play in relationships?

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  • Accommodation involves tolerating minor mistreatment from partners without responding in kind.
  • Self-control plays a crucial role in relationship maintenance by refraining from negative responses, promoting sacrifice, and aiding forgiveness.
  • Self-control is associated with fewer instances of intimate partner violence and more sacrifices that benefit partners.
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How do play and novelty contribute to relationship satisfaction?

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  • Engaging in novel, challenging, exciting, and pleasant activities together enhances relationship satisfaction.
  • Couples who play together are more content, and maintaining a sense of novelty in activities is beneficial for relationships.
  • Rituals and playful activities contribute to relationship satisfaction.
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What strategies do contented partners use to maintain relationships?

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  • Contented partners employ various strategies to foster positivity, encourage openness, provide assurances of love and commitment, share social networks, share household tasks equitably, and spend quality time together.
  • These strategies enhance intimacy and promote fondness and commitment in relationships.
  • Positivity, assurances, and sharing tasks are identified as the most crucial predictors of relationship happiness.
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How do maintenance mechanisms require ongoing effort for long-term relationship satisfaction?

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  • The Michelangelo phenomenon, accommodation, and self-control require ongoing effort for long-term relationship satisfaction.
  • Couples need to consistently engage in relationship maintenance activities to sustain contentment.
  • Acts of kindness and positive behaviors lose their effectiveness if not consistently maintained.
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What cautionary notes are there for maintaining relationships?

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  • Acts of kindness on special occasions have short-lived effects if not consistently practiced.
  • Long-term relationship satisfaction requires continuous effort, and occasional breaks from positive behaviors can lead to a decline in contentment.
  • The importance of self-control in maintaining routine positive behaviors and sustaining relationship well-being.
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How is repairing relationships compared to car care?

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  • Comparison of relationship maintenance to car care.
  • DIY approach: Solving relationship problems independently.
  • Professional help: Analogous to seeking professional car repair.
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What are some issues with popular relationship advice?

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  • Caution about popular relationship advice.
  • Issues with unqualified advice givers.
  • Example: Critique of “The Rules” book.
  • Importance of evidence-based advice.
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What are some considerations for DIY solutions in relationships?

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  • Abundance of relationship advice sources (TV, books, websites, podcasts).
  • Potential benefits of self-help materials.
  • Caution about the credibility of advice sources.
  • Acknowledgment of credible self-help resources.
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How is preventative maintenance in relationships compared to car maintenance?

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  • Analogies to car maintenance in relationships.
  • Comparison with timing belt replacement.
  • Importance of premarital counseling.
  • Mention of the Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP).
  • Emphasis on fine-tuning expectations and communication skills.
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What are the different types of marital therapy, and what are common features?

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  • Introduction to intensive interventions for real problems.
  • Three broad types: Behavioural Approaches, Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT), Insight-Oriented Therapy (IOCT).
  • Overview of Behavioural Approaches: Traditional Behavioural Couple Therapy (TBCT), Cognitive-Behavioural Couple Therapy (CBCT), Integrative Behavioural Couple Therapy (IBCT).
  • Overview of EFCT: Focus on emotions and attachment security.
  • Overview of IOCT: Insight into past relationships and personal vulnerabilities.
  • Shared elements among various therapeutic approaches.
  • Importance of therapist selection.
  • Optimism and positive expectations in therapy.
  • Encouragement to choose the therapy that resonates personally.
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What are some issues related to the underutilization of marital therapy?

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  • Regrettable underutilization of marital therapy.
  • Gender differences in seeking therapy.
  • Encouragement to seek therapy promptly.
  • Consideration of possibilities: resolving issues or deciding to dissolve the marriage.