Chapter 13 - Sexual Communication

Question 1

Four horsemen behaviours

Answer 1

• Strongly predict relationship dissatisfaction
• Criticism
• Defensiveness
• Contempt
• Stonewalling

Question 2

Criticism

Answer 2

• Can be hurtful because it involves attacking a person’s character or personality rather than addressing a particular issue at hand
• Based on your character
• “What did your mother teach you?”

Question 3

Contempt

Answer 3

• Goes one step further than criticism and involves putting down and being disrespectful toward one’s partner
• Based on a feeling of superiority
• Verbal or non verbal
• Eye rolling, name calling, mean humour

Question 4

Defensiveness

Answer 4

• OCcurs when one partners feels that he or she is being attacked and must protect themselves by denying responsibility
• Related to insecurity and criticism doesn’t help that
• “Well you don’t the dishes as much as I do”

Question 5

Stonewalling

Answer 5

• Occurs when someone simply refuses to engage in the discussion at hand
• Not a good pattern
• Ex: Silent treatment or shutting down