CHAP 15 Flashcards
deal-makers
traits promoting good relations i.e. extraversion and agreeableness
being liked assoc w trust, warmness
predictors of friends
low -ve emotionality, high pos
deal-breakers
traits that undermine relations i.e. untrustworthy, anrgy
dispositional contempt: have contempt for others, cold, arrogant, racist
rejection sensitivty
mating behaviour
mating strats differ b/w men and women
sexy son hypothesis: women pick men w genes to create attractive son w more attractive offspring
- inc spread of genes
evolutionary approach to sex
men value phys attraction and youth, women age and economic stability
thin women = no kids
if culture has equity b/w sexes, less differences in mating behaviour
attraction is MORE than just phys
freud and orientation
said socialization shapes how attraction and gratification is directed
homosexuality in DSM-5 until 1970s
sapiosexuality
attracted to intelligent people
intellect > bio sex
sociosexuality
engage in sex w.o meaningful relation
men > women
john bowlby
saw attachment as basis for love
development of attachment for survival needs
- dev beliefs abt if caregiver is reliable
avoidant attachment
caregivers rebuff attempts for contact
defensive, reject contact in adulthood
dec marriage and inc work hours
secure attachment
confident in caregiver, lack defenses
dec divorce
anxious-avoidant
caregivers inconsistent/chaotic
- become upset when leave
cling to ppl
inc relationships, inc divorce
disorganized attachment
inconsistent behaviour, v small percent kids have this
EFT
emotionally focused therapy
focuses on improving attachment bond
gottman test
predicts breakups 90% acc
4 horsemen of apocolypse: communication styles that result in relation collapse
1. contempt
2. stonewalling
3. defensiveness
4. criticism
integrity tests
employee personality test for C, N, energy, friendliness
also cog ability
