Canfield, Jack - SUCCESS PRINCIPLES Flashcards
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Who is responsible for the quality of the life you live?
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There is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live:
That person is you.
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What is principle 1, the fundamentals of success?
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P R I N C I P L E 1 :
TAKE 100% RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE
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If you want to be successful and you want to take 100% responsibility, what does this include?
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This includes:
- the level of your achievements,
- the results you produce,
- the quality of your relationships,
- the state of your health and physical fitness,
- your income,
- your debts,
- your feelings
—everything!
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What does taking one hundred percent responsibility mean?
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Taking one hundred percent responsibility means:
- you acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you
- you understand that you are the cause of all of your experience.
- you will have to give up blaming and complaining
- you take total responsibility for both:
your successes and your failures.
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How can you take charge of creating the future you want?
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By acknowledging that you have created everything up until now.
You have to take 100% responsibility for your life.
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What do I have to ask if something doesn’t turn out as planned?
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- How did I create that?
- What was I thinking?
- What were my beliefs?
- What did I say or not say?
- What did I do or not do to create that result?
- How did I get the other person to act that way?
- What do I need to do differently next time to get the result I want?
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What does E + R = O stand for?
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Event + Response = Outcome
Every outcome you experience in life is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event or events in your life.
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If you don’t like the outcomes you are currently getting, which are the two basic choices you can make?
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- You can blame the event (E) for your lack of results (O).
- You can change your responses (R) to the events (E)
—the way things are—
until you get the outcomes (O) you want.
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What or who stops you if it is not the external conditions or circumstances that stop you?
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It is me! I stop myself!
I think limiting thoughts and engage in self-defeating behaviors.
I defend my self-destructive habits with indefensible logic.
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How do we limit ourselves?
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We ignore useful feedback,
fail to continuously educate ourselves and learn new skills,
waste time on the trivial aspects of our lives,
engage in idle gossip,
eat unhealthy food,
fail to exercise,
spend more money than we make,
fail to invest in our future,
avoid necessary conflict,
fail to tell the truth,
don’t ask for what we want
—and then wonder why our lives don’t work.
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How can you change your responses (R) to the events (E) until you get the outcomes (O) you want?
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Change your thinking,
change your communication,
change the pictures you hold in your head (your images of yourself and the world)
—and you can change your behavior—the things you do.
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Why don’t we change our behaviour?
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We are run of our habits.
We get stuck in our conditioned responses—to our spouses and our children, to our colleagues at work, to our customers and our clients, to our students, and to the world at large.
We are a bundle of conditioned reflexes that operate outside of our control.
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What do you have to do to regain control of your thoughts, your images, your dreams and daydreams, and your behaviour?
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Everything you think, say, and do needs to become intentional and aligned with your purpose, your values, and your goals.
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Which are the three things in your life that you have control over?
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- The thoughts you think.
- The images you visualise.
- The actions you take (your behavior).
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What do you have to change if you don’t like what you are producing and experiencing?
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You have to change your responses:
Change your negative thoughts to positive ones.
Change what you daydream about.
Change your habits.
Change what you read.
Change your friends.
Change how you talk.
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What truth do you have to acknowledge if you are going to be a winner?
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You took the actions.
You thought the thoughts.
You created the feelings.
You made the choices.
You said the words.
That’s why you are where you are now.
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Why do you complain and why should you stop complaining?
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Complaining means you have a reference point for something better that you would prefer but that you are unwilling to take the risk of creating.
Either accept that you are making the choice to stay where you are, take responsibility for your choice, and stop complaining . . .
or
. . . take the risk of creating your life exactly the way you want it.
Make the decision
to stop complaining,
to stop spending time with complainers,
and get on with creating the life of your dreams.
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What can you do if you find yourself in a situation you don’t like?
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Either work to make it better or leave.
Do something to change it or get the heck out.
It’s up to you to make the change, to do something different.
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Do successful people complain?
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No.
They learn to replace complaining with making requests and taking action that will achieve their desired outcomes.
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To be powerful which position will you take and which the victim?
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To be powerful,
you need to take the position that you create or allow everything that happens to you.
To be the victim
you stand passively by and let it happen.
You don”t say anything.
Make a demand, make a request, say no, try something new, or leave.
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How can you prevent an unwanted outcome?
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Be aware of the external and internal alerts.
Nothing ever just “happens” to you, you almost always receive advance warnings—in the form of telltale signs, comments from others, gut instinct, or intuition—that alert you to the impending danger and give you time to prevent the unwanted outcome.
These alerts give you time to change your response (R) in the E + R = O equation.
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What can you ask to start paying attention to what is happening?
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Ask yourself:
How am I creating or allowing this to happen?
What am I doing that’s working that I need to be doing more of?
What am I doing that’s not working?
What do I need to be doing less of?
What am I not doing that I need to try on to see if it works?
Ask yourself, your family, your friends, your colleagues, your managers, your teachers, your coaches, and your clients for feedback:
Is what I’m doing working?
Could I be doing it better?
Is there something more I should be doing that I am not?
Is there something I am doing that I should stop doing?
How do you see me limiting myself ?
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What is the simple formula to create your life?
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Do more of what is working, do less of what isn’t, and try on new behaviors to see if they produce better results.
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What is principle 2, the fundamentals of success?
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PRINCIPLE 2
BE CLEAR WHY YOU’RE HERE
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What does being “on purpose” mean?
To be “on purpose” means you're doing what you love to do, doing what you're good at and accomplishing what's important to you.
When you truly are on purpose, the people, resources, and opportunities you need naturally gravitate toward you. Everything in life seems to fall into place.
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What should you do, when you know what your life purpose is?
Once you know what your life purpose is, you can organize all of your activities around it.
Everything you do should be an expression of your purpose.
If an activity doesn't fit that formula, you wouldn't work on it.
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How do you know you are in alignment with your purpose?
The things that bring you the greatest joy are in alignment with your purpose.
Make a list of the times you have felt most joyful and alive.
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Explain the life purpose exercise.
1. List two of your unique personal qualities.
2. List one or two ways you enjoy expressing those qualities when interacting with others.
3. Assume the world is perfect right now.
Describe in present tense, the perfect world as you see it and feel it. Remember, a perfect world is a fun place to be.
4. Combine the three prior subdivisions of this paragraph into a single statement.
EXAMPLE:
My purpose is to use my creativity and enthusiasm to support and inspire others to freely express their talents in a harmonious and loving way.
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What is principle 3 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 3
DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT
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Why do most people not get what they want?
One of the main reasons why most people don't get what they want is they haven't decided what they want.
They haven't defined their desires in clear and compelling detail.
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How do you reconnect with your real passion?
You start on the smallest level by honoring your preferences in every situation—no matter how large or small.
When you are confronted with a choice, no matter how small or insignificant, act as if you have a preference. Ask yourself, If I did know, what would it be? If I did care, which would I prefer? If it did matter, what would I rather do?
Not being clear about what you want and making other people's needs and desires more important than your own is simply a habit.
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To create a balanced and successful life, which areas do you need to include?
To create a balanced and successful life, your vision needs to include the following seven areas:
1. work and career,
2. finances,
3. recreation and free time,
4. health and fitness,
5. relationships,
6. personal goals,
7. contribution to the larger community.
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What is principle 3 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
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What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
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Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
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Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
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What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
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What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
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What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
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Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
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What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
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What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
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Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
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HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
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What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
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What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
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What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
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What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
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How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
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EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
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When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
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Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
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What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
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What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
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How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
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How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
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How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
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How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
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What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
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Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
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What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
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Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
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What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
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Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
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Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
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How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
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How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
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Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
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What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
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WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
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HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
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NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
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What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
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Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
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Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
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How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
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What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
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Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
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What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
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What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
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What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
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What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
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Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
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What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
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What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
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Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
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HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
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What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
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What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
89
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
90
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
91
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
92
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
93
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
94
Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
95
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
96
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
97
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
98
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
99
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
100
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
101
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
102
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
103
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
104
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
105
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
106
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
107
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
108
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
109
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
110
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
111
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
112
WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
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HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
114
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
115
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
116
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
117
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
118
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
119
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
120
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
121
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
122
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
123
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
124
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
125
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
126
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
127
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
128
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
129
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
130
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
131
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
132
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
133
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
134
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
135
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
136
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
137
Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
138
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
139
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
140
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
141
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
142
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
143
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
144
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
145
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
146
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
147
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
148
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
149
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
150
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
151
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
152
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
153
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
154
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
155
WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
156
HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
157
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
158
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
159
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
160
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
161
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
162
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
163
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
164
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
165
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
166
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
167
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
168
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
169
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
170
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
171
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
172
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
173
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
174
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
175
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
176
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
177
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
178
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
179
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
180
Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
181
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
182
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
183
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
184
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
185
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
186
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
187
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
188
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
189
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
190
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
191
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
192
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
193
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
194
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
195
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
196
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
197
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
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WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
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HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
200
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
201
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
202
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
203
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
204
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
205
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
206
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
207
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
208
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
209
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
210
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
211
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
212
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
213
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
214
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
215
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
216
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
217
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
218
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
219
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
220
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
221
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
222
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
223
Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
224
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
225
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
226
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
227
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
228
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
229
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
230
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
231
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
232
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
233
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
234
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
235
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
236
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
237
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
238
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
239
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
240
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
241
WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
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HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
243
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
244
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
245
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
246
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
247
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
248
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
249
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
250
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
251
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
252
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
253
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
254
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
255
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
256
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
257
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
258
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
259
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
260
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
261
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
262
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
263
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
264
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
265
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
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Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
267
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
268
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
269
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
270
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
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How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
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How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
273
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
274
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
275
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
276
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
277
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
278
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
279
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
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How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
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How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
282
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
283
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
284
WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
285
HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
286
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
287
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
288
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
289
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
290
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
291
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
292
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
293
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
294
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
295
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
296
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
297
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
298
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
299
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
300
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
301
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
302
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
303
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
304
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
305
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
306
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
307
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
308
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
309
Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
310
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
311
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
312
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
313
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
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How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
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How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
316
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
317
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
318
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
319
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
320
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
321
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
322
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
323
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
324
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
325
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
326
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
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WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
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HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
329
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
330
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
331
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
332
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
333
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
334
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
335
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
336
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
337
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
338
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
339
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
340
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
341
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
342
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
343
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
344
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
345
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
346
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
347
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
348
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
349
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
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EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
351
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
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Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
353
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
354
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
355
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
356
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
357
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
358
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
359
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
360
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
361
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
362
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
363
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
364
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
365
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
366
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
367
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
368
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
369
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
370
WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
371
HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
372
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
373
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
374
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
375
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
376
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
377
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
378
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
379
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
380
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
381
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
382
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
383
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
384
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
385
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
386
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
387
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
388
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
389
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
390
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
391
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
392
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
393
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
394
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
395
Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
396
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
397
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
398
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
399
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
400
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
401
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
402
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
403
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
404
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
405
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
406
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
407
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
408
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
409
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
410
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
411
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
412
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
413
WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
414
HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
415
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
416
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
417
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
418
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
419
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
420
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
421
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
422
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
423
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
424
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
425
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
426
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
427
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
428
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
429
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
430
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
431
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
432
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
433
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
434
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
435
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
436
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
437
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
438
Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
439
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
440
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
441
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
442
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
443
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
444
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
445
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
446
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
447
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
448
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
449
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
450
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
451
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
452
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
453
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
454
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
455
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
456
WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
457
HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
458
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
459
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
460
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
461
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
462
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
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What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
464
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
465
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
466
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
467
What is principle 4 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 4
BELIEVE IT'S POSSIBLE
468
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
469
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
470
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
471
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
472
Why is it so important to hold positive expectations in your mind?
When you replace your old negative expectations with more positive ones— when you begin to believe that what you want is possible—your brain will actually take over the job of accomplishing that possibility for you.
Better than that, your brain will actually expect to achieve that outcome.
473
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
474
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
475
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
476
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
477
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
478
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
479
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
480
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
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Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
482
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
483
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
484
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
485
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
486
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
487
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
488
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
489
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
490
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
491
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
492
What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
493
Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
494
Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
495
How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
496
How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
497
Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
498
What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
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WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
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HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
501
NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
502
What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
503
Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
504
Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
505
How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
506
What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
507
Mirror exercise
Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it.
508
What is principle 5 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 5
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF
509
What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
510
THE VISION EXERCISE:
1. First, focus on the financial area of your life. What is your annual income? What does your cash flow look like? How much money do you have in savings and investments? What is your total net worth? Next . . . what does your home look like? Where is it located? Does it have a view? What kind of yard and landscaping does it have? Is there a pool or a stable for horses? What color are the walls? What does the furniture look like? Are there paintings hanging in the rooms? What do they look like? Walk through your perfect house, filling in all of the details. At this point, don't worry about how you'll get that house. Don't sabotage yourself by saying, “I can't live in Malibu because I don't make enough money.” Once you give your mind's eye the picture, your mind will solve the “not enough money” challenge. Next, visualize what kind of car you are driving and any other important possessions your finances have provided. 2. Next, visualize your ideal job or career. Where are you working? What are you doing? With whom are you working? What kind of clients or customers do you have? What is your compensation like? Is it your own business? 3. Then, focus on your free time, your recreation time. What are you doing with your family and friends in the free time you've created for yourself ? What hobbies are you pursuing? What kinds of vaca-tions do you take? What do you do for fun? 4. Next, what is your ideal vision of your body and your physical health? Are you free of all disease? How long do you live to? Are you open, relaxed, in an ecstatic state of bliss all day long? Are you full of vitality? Are you flexible as well as strong? Do you exercise, eat good food, and drink lots of water? 5. Then move on to your ideal vision of your relationships with your family and friends. What is your relationship with your family like? Who are your friends? What is the quality of your relationships with your friends? What do those friendships feel like? Are they loving, supportive, empowering? What kinds of things do you do together? 6. What about the personal arena of your life? Do you see yourself go-ing back to school, getting training, attending workshops, seeking therapy for a past hurt, or growing spiritually? Do you meditate or go on spiritual retreats with your church? Do you want to learn to play an instrument or write your autobiography? Do you want to run a marathon or take an art class? Do you want to travel to other countries? 7. Finally, focus on the community you live in, the community you've chosen. What does it look like when it is operating perfectly? What kinds of community activities take place there? What about your charitable work? What do you do to help others and make a difference? How often do you participate in these activities? Who are you helping?
511
What do you have to believe, if you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams?
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe:
that you are capable of making it happen,
that you have the right stuff,
that you are able to pull it off.
You have to believe in yourself.
It is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes—the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.
512
Which phrase do you have to give up?
If you are going to be successful, you need to give up the phrase
“I can't”,
And all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”
The words I can't actually disempower you.
Note:
Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it. The words you think and say actually affect your body.
513
What is Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule?
I like Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule:
When you're 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you;
when you're 40, you don't give a darn what anybody thinks of you;
when you're 60, you realize nobody's been thinking about you at all.
514
What is principle 6 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E. 6
BECOME AN INVERSE PARANOID
516
HOW DO I USE THIS EXPERIENCE TO MY ADVANTAGE?
Greet every interaction in your life with the question:
“What's the potential opportunity that this is?”
Everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason—and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, growth, and achievement.
Make a small sign or poster with the words: What's the opportunity that this is? and put it on a place, so you will be constantly reminded to look for the good in every event.
Start each day by repeating the phrase, “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can't wait to see what it is.”
And then look for the opportunities and the miracles.
517
What is principle 7 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 7
UNLEASH THE POWER OF GOAL-SETTING
518
What is the difference between a good idea and a goal?
When there are no criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, a good idea.
To make sure a goal unleashes the power of your subconscious mind, it must meet two criteria:
1) How much? It must be stated in a way that you and anybody else could measure it (some measurable quantity such as pages, pounds, dollars, square feet, or points)
2) By when (a specific time and date).
Be as specific as possible with all aspects of your goals—include the make, model, color, year, and features . . . the size, weight, shape, and form . . . and any other details.
519
What is one of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goal?
One of the best ways to get clarity and specificity on your goals is to write them out in detail—as if you were writing specifications for a work order.
When you create your goals, be sure to write down some big ones that will stretch you.
Include every possible detail.
If it's an ideal fantasy, take the time to close your eyes and fill in all of the details.
Then provide a date by which you expect to own it.
Note:
When you write it all down, your subconscious mind will know what to work on.
520
What is a breakthrough goal?
A breakthrough goal would represent a quantum leap for you and your career.
The achievement of that one goal would change everything.
Something that changes your life, brings you new opportunities, gets you in front of the right people, and takes every activity, relationship, or group you're involved in to a higher level.
521
How do you close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal?
And what's the name for it?
Psychologists refer to it as “structural tension” in your brain.
Your brain wants to close the gap between your current reality and the vision of your goal.
By constantly repeating and visualizing your goal as already achieved, you will be increasing this structural tension.
This will increase your motivation, stimulate your creativity, and heighten your awareness of resources that can help you achieve your goal.
522
EX:
How often should I review my goals?
Make sure to review your goals at least twice a day—in the morning upon awakening, and again at night before going to bed.
Write each on a 3" × 5" index card.
Keep the pack of cards next to your bed and then go through the cards one at a time in the morning and again at night.
When you travel, take them with you.
Put a list of your goals in your daily planner or your calendar system.
You can also create a pop-up or screen saver on your computer that lists your goals.
The objective is to constantly keep your goals in front of you.
523
When you set a goal, which three things are going to emerge that stop most people?
These three obstacles to success are:
CONSIDERATIONS
(all the reasons why you shouldn't attempt the goal—all the reasons why it is impossible.)
FEARS
(are feelings. You may experience a fear of rejec-tion, a fear of failure, or a fear of making a fool of yourself.)
ROADBLOCKS
(These are purely external circumstances—well beyond just thoughts and feelings in your head.)
524
Ex.:
Make a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Make sure you have measurable (how much, by when) goals for every aspect of your vision.
Then decide on a breakthrough goal, write it on the back of a business card, and put it in your wallet.
And then create a list of 101 goals you want to achieve before you die.
Being clear about your purpose, vision, and goals will put you in the top 3% of the world's achievers.
To move into the top 1% of achievers, all you have to do is write down some specific action steps that will help you accomplish your goals on your daily to-do list. Then make sure to take those actions.
525
What is principle 8 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 8
CHUNK IT DOWN
526
What is the secret of getting ahead?
The secret of getting ahead is getting started.
The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks,
and then starting on the first one.
MARK T WAIN
527
How do you chunk your goal down?
There are several ways to figure out the action steps you will need to take to accomplish any goal.
One is to consult with people who have already done what you want to do and ask what steps they took. From their experience, they can give you all of the necessary steps as well as advice on what pitfalls to avoid.
Another way is to purchase a book or manual that outlines the process.
Yet another way is to start from the end and look backward. You simply close your eyes and imagine that it is now the future and you have already achieved your goal. Then just look back and see what you had to do to get to where you now are. What was the last thing you did? And then the thing before that, and then the thing before that, until you arrive at the first action you had to start with.
528
How do you use Mind Mapping for creating a detailed to-do list for achieving your goal?
Use mind mapping to help “chunk down” the goal into all the individual tasks you need to complete it.
To mind-map your own goals, follow these steps:
1. Center circle:
In the center circle, jot down the name of your stated goal.
2. Outside circles:
Divide the goal into the major categories of tasks you'll need to accomplish to achieve the greater goal.
3. Spokes:
Then, draw spokes radiating outward from each minicircle and label each one.
On a separate line connected to the minicircle, write every single step you'll need to take.
Break down each one of the more detailed task spokes with action items to help you create your master to-do list.
529
How do I create a To-Do-List?
Convert all of the to-do items into daily action items by listing each one on your daily to-do lists and committing to a completion date for each one.
Then schedule them in the appropriate order into your calendar and do whatever it takes to stay on schedule.
530
How do you stay on schedule and complete the most important item first?
Identify the one to five things you must accomplish on any given day,
and then pick the one you absolutely must do first.
Accomplish that task first and, by so doing, make the rest of your day much, much easier.
However, when you accomplish your toughest task early in the day, it sets the tone for the rest of your day. It creates momentum and builds your confidence, both of which move you farther and faster toward your goal.
531
What is one of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity?
One of the most powerful tools high achievers use for chunking things down, gaining control over their life, and increasing their productivity is to plan their next day the night before.
532
Which are two major reasons why planning the night before is such a powerful strategy for success?
1. If you plan your day the night before—making a to-do list and spending a few minutes visualizing exactly how you want the day to go—your subconscious mind will work on these tasks all night long.
It will think of creative ways to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve your desired outcomes.
And if we can believe some of the newer theories of quantum physics, it will also send out waves of energy that will attract the people and resources to you that you need to help accomplish your goals.
2. By creating your to-do list the night before, you can start your day running.
You know exactly what you're going to do and in what order, and you've already pulled together any materials you need.
533
What is principle 9 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 9
SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES
534
Which are 3 ways you can begin to seek out clues for getting what you want?
1. Seek out a teacher, coach, mentor; a manual, book, or audio program; or an Internet resource to help you achieve one of your major goals.
2. Seek out someone who has already done what you want to do, and ask the person if you can interview him or her for a half hour on how you should best proceed.
3. Ask someone if you can shadow them for a day and watch them work. Or offer to be a volunteer, assistant, or intern for someone you think you can learn from.
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What is principle 10 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 10
RELEASE THE BRAKES
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Which are 3 different ways to change your comfort zone?
1. You can use affirmations and positive self-talk to affirm already having what you want, doing what you want, and being the way you want.
2. You can create powerful and compelling new internal images of having, doing, and being what you want.
3. You can simply change your behavior.
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Why are we stuck in an endless loop of reinforcing behavior, which keeps us stuck in a constant downward spiral?
You keep re-creating the same experience over and over by:
thinking the same thoughts,
maintaining the same beliefs,
speaking the same words,
and doing the same things.
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How does the Self-Talk Endless Loop work?
My Self-Talk
(What I say to myself about my performance)
which forms and reinforces
My Self-Image
(My subconscious picture of myself)
which determines
My Performance
(How I behave or perform)
which stimulates
My Self-Talk...
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How do you change this Self-Talk Endless Loop?
To change this cycle, you must focus instead on:
thinking,
talking,
and writing
about the reality you want to create.
You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.
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Which is one way to stretch your comfort zone?
One way to stretch your comfort zone is to bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images
—of a big bank account, a trim and healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends, memorable vacations—
of all your goals as already complete.
The technique you use to do this is called affirmations.
An affirmation is a statement that describes a goal in its already completed state.
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What are
| THE NINE GUIDELINES FOR CREATING EFFECTIVE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Start with the words I am.
2. Use the present tense.
3. State it in the positive.
4. Keep it brief.
5. Make it specific.
6. Include an action word ending with -ing. "I am ...-ing."
7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.
9. Add: or something better.
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WHAT IS A SIMPLE WAY TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS?
1. Visualize what you would like to create. See things just as you would like them to be. Place yourself inside the picture and see things through your eyes. If you want a car, see the world from in-side the car as you are driving it.
2. Hear the sounds you would be hearing if you had already achieved your vision.
3. Feel the feeling you want to feel when you have created what you want.
4. Describe what you are experiencing in a brief statement, including what you are feeling.
5. If necessary, edit your affirmation to make it meet all of the above guidelines.
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HOW DO YOU USE AFFIRMATIONS AND VISUALIZATION
1. Review your affirmations one to three times a day.
The best times are first thing in the morning, in the middle of the day to refocus yourself, and around bedtime.
2. If appropriate, read each affirmation out loud.
3. Close your eyes and visualize yourself as the affirmation describes. See it as if you were looking out at the scene from inside of your-self; see the scene as if you were actually living it.
4. Hear any sounds you might hear when you successfully achieve what your affirmation describes. Include other important people in your life congratulating you and telling you how pleased they are with your success.
5. Feel the feelings that you will feel when you achieve that success. The stronger the feelings, the more powerful the process.
6. Say your affirmation again, and then repeat this process with the next affirmation.
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NAME SOME OTHER WAYS TO USE AFFIRMATIONS
1. Post 3" × 5" cards with your affirmations around your home.
2. Hang pictures of the things you want around your house or your room. You can put a picture of yourself in the picture.
3. Repeat your affirmations during “ wasted time” such as waiting in line, exercising, and driving. You can repeat them silently or out loud.
4. Record your affirmations and listen to them while you work, drive, or fall asleep. You can use endless loop tapes, an MP3 player, or an iPod.
5. Have one of your parents record a tape of encouraging things you would like to have heard from them or words of encouragement and permission you would currently like to hear.
6. Repeat your affirmations in the first person (“I am . . .”), second person (“ You are . . .”), and third person (“He/she is . . .”).
7. Put your affirmations on your screen saver on your computer, so you'll see them every time you use your computer.
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What is principle 11 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 11
SEE WHAT YOU WANT, GET WHAT YOU SEE
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Which are three powerful ways to accelerate the achievement of any success?
1. Visualization activates the creative powers of your subconscious mind.
2. Visualization focuses your brain by programming its reticular acti-vating system (RAS) to notice available resources that were always there but were previously unnoticed.
3. Visualization magnetizes and attracts to you the people, resources, and opportunities you need to achieve your goal.
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Which are three things that constant visualization, actually causes to happen?
1. It programs your brain's RAS to start letting into your awareness anything that will help you achieve your goals.
2. It activates your subconscious mind to create solutions for getting the goals you want.
3. It creates new levels of motivation.
You'll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that take you to your goal.
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How to visualize?
Close your eyes and see your goals as already complete.
Fill in all of the details. Make the images as clear and bright as possible.
Write down each of your goals and objectives, then review them, affirm them, and visualize them every day.
Each morning when you awake and each night before you go to bed, read through the list of goals out loud, pausing after each one to close your eyes and re-create the visual image of that completed goal in your mind. Continue through the list until you have visualized each goal as complete and fulfilled. The whole process will take between 10 and 15 minutes, depending on how many goals you have.
To multiply the effect many times over, add sound, smells, tastes, and feelings to your pictures.
Bring emotional intensity to your own visualizations by adding inspiring music, real-life smells, deeply felt passion, even loudly shouting your affirmations with exaggerated enthusiasm. The more passion, excitement, and energy you can muster, the more powerful will be the ulti-mate result.
If you have trouble seeing your goals, use pictures, images, and symbols you collect to keep your conscious and subconscious mind focused on your goals.
Set aside time each and every day to visualize every one of your goals as al-ready complete.
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What is principle 12 of the fundamentals of success?
P R I N C I P L E 12
ACT AS IF
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What is an inverse paranoid?
Instead of believing the world was plotting to do harm, choose to believe the world is plotting to do good.
Instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as a negative, see it for what it could be—something that was meant
to enrich you,
empower you,
or advance your causes.
Ask yourself “Where's the greater benefit in this event?”
