Unit 7: Friendship & Love Flashcards
Friendship
a voluntary, personal relationship, typically providing intimacy and assistance, in which the two parties like one another and seek each other’s company
Capitalization
we feel closer to those who excitedly enhance our happiness than to those who respond to our good fortune with apathy or indifference
Invisible Support
subtly provided without fanfare and actually goes unnoticed by the recipient
Perceived Partner Responsiveness
the judgement that someone is attentive, respectful, caring, and supportive with respect to our needs and aspirations
is powerfully rewarding
we are drawn to those who lead us to feel valued, protected and understood
Rules for Relationships
shared, cultural beliefs about what behaviors friends should (and should not) perform
Dyadic Withdrawal
as people see more and more of a lover, they see less and less of their friends
Socioemotional Selectivity Theory
elderly people have smaller social networks and fewer friends than younger people do because seniors have different interpersonal goals than younger people do
Emotional Sharing
woman’s friendships are usually characterized by emotional sharing and self-disclosure
Shared Activities
men’s friendships revolve around shared activities, companionship, and competition
Relational Self-Construals
describe the extent to which we think of ourselves as interdependent, rather than independent, beings
Dark Triad
narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy are often collectively termed the Dark Triad because they have features in common - they all involve low levels of agreeableness and humility - and they all tend to result in behavior toward others that is disadvantageous, being arrogant, manipulative, exploitative, cold, and hostile
Shyness
the syndrome that combines social reticence and inhibited behavior with nervous discomfort in social settings
Loneliness
occur when there is an unhappy discrepancy between the number and quality of partnerships we want and those we have
Social Loneliness
being dissatisfied because we lack a social network of friends and acquaintances
Emotional Loneliness
being lonely because we lack affection and emotional support from at least one intimate relationship
Intimacy
includes the feelings of warmth, understanding, trust, support, and sharing that often characterize loving relationships
Passion
characterized by physical arousal and desire, excitement and need
Commitment
includes feelings of permanence, stability, and the decisions to devote oneself to a relationship and work to maintain it
Romantic Love
passionate attraction is rooted in two factors:
1. physiological arousal such as a fast heart beat that is coupled with
2. the belief that another person is the cause of your arousal
Compassionate Love
because it does not depend on passion, it is a more settled state than romantic love is
a type of love that combines the trust and understanding of intimacy with compassion and caring that involves empathy, selflessness, and sacrifice on behalf of the beloved
Eros
has a strong physical component, and erotic lovers are likely to be heavily influenced by physical appearance and to believe in love at first sight
Ludus
treats love as an uncommitted game
ludic lovers are often fickle and (try to) have several different partners at once
Storge
leads people to de-emphasize strong emotion and to seek genuine friendships that gradually lead to real commitment
Mania
is demanding and possessive and feel vivid fantasy and obsession
