The Gift Of Fear Flashcards
Services Offered by Gavin de Becker & Associates :
Th__ Assessment
Pr__ Services
Tr__ Services
threat
protective
training
The Gift of Fear:
Premise:
We have a pretty good system for detecting th__ in our br__.
We constantly talk ourselves o__ of the ca__ messages that system se__ us.
In__ is remarkably ac__ and yet we often ig__ it.
threat, brain
out, cautionary, sends
intuition, accurate, ignore
Forced Teaming:
-Used to foster a perception of common f__
~“bo_ of u_”, “how are w_ going to handle this?”, “now w_ have d__ it”
- Used to reduce social bo__.
- People are hesitant to refuse “pa__”.
fate
both, us,
we,
we, done
boundaries
partnership
Charm:
Designed to “co__ or co__ by al__ or at__”.
Better thought of as a ve__:
So, not “this person is ch__”, but
“This person is tr__ to ch__ me”.
compel, control, allure, attraction
verb
charming
trying, charm
Too Many Details:
When people are being honest, they have little reason to think that people d__ them.
When people are lying, they doubt th__ and will often supply de__ in an attempt to co__.
Details di__; put us out of touch with the actual co__.
doubt
themselves, details, convince
distract, context
Typecasting:
Labeling the victim in a slightly c__ way
“You’re probably too st__ u_ to talk to me.”
Compels victim to prove the critical opinion is n__ ac__
critical
stuck up
not accurate
Loan Sharking:
Offer of as__ or fa__
“Here, let me h__ you with that”.
Or “let me b__ you a drink”.
Sets up need to “r__ favor”
assistance, favor
help
buy
repay
The Unsolicited Promise:
“I’ll just put this stuff d__ and g_. I pr__.”
Promises are used to co__ us of one’s in__, but are not gu__.
Ask yourself, “w__ is this person trying to co__ me?”
down, go, promise
convince, intention, guarantees
why, convince
Di__ the word “No”
Being talked out of a “n_” response is yielding co__.
Opens negotiations for what is o_.
It also signals vu__—exactly what tells a predator to pe__ in the attack.
discounting
no, control
ok
vulnerability, persist
The Messengers of Intuition:
Na\_\_ feelings Pe\_\_thoughts Hu\_\_ Wo\_\_ An\_\_ Cu\_\_
Hu\_\_ Gu_ Feelings Do\_\_ He\_\_ Su\_\_ Ap\_\_ Fe\_\_
nagging persistent humor wonder anxiety curiosity
hunches gut doubt hesitation suspicion apprehension fear
Dark Hu__:
“I’m going back to my office before the bo__ goes off.” (Taylor)
Murray opens the package and it ex__, killing him
The Una__ struck again!
humor
bomb
explodes
unabomber
Bottom Line:
In__ is a highly ev__ su__ mechanism.
You have been given the gift of fe__—Use it!!!
intuition, evolved, survival
fear
