Sexual Behaviors Flashcards
What is sex?
More than one answer…
- Consensual
- Usually between 2 people regardless of gender
- Genital touching
- Anal play
- Penetration
What are the top 3 behaviours that mean to “have sex”?
- P-V Intercourse
- P-A Intercourse
- Oral contact - others genitals
What are the top 2 answers that make someone a sexual partner?
Any oral/penetrative intercourse OR any sexual behaviours
What can count as cheating? What is another type of cheating?
Anything with sexual intentions o Hand holding o Kissing o Sometimes dancing or flirting - Another type: Emotional Cheating
Sex is an important rite…
of passage
Later age of intercourse is linked to…(3)
o Parental disapproval of early sex
o Greater parental control
o Academic achievement
Earlier age of intercourse is linked to…(3)
o Peer pressure to have sex
o Substance use with friends
o Having an older partner
Canadian study of university students found that 72% of men and 61% of women rated their first sexual experience as either…
“perfect”, “very good”, “good”
Men report more pleasure and more orgasms…
their first time
What are 3 way virginity can be perceived as?
- Virginity as a gift
- Virginity as a social stigma – scripts that you create together with another person
- Virginity as a step in a process – your idea of how sex should progress
What is sexual script theory?
says that human sexual behaviors follow a type of social script. For example, a common script is that women are coy or hesitant when it comes to sex, while men are aggressive and go after what they want.
What levels can sexual script theory exist at?
o Cultural
o Interpersonal
o Intrapsychic/individual
What did William Walling say about masturbation?
Said: “Masturbation will be the death of you…”
What is the Anti-Onanism Device? Where did it come from?
Things that prevented people from masturbation. This usually came from the church because masturbation was seen as so harmful and sinful.
What does a sexual fantasy allow people to do?
explore anything you are interested in
What are 3 ways sexual fantasies can happen?
solo, w/ a partner, via computer (sexting)
What are 5 benefits to sexual fantasies?
o Safe sexual outlet o Enhances arousal o Relieves boredom o Treats sexual problems o Relieves sexual anxiety, guilt, and doubt
It is not uncommon for fantasies to be…
taboo (most are, which is what makes them exciting)
Fantasies can be of…
rape and violence
What does Dan Savage say about fears?
They can turn into kins and fantasies
What should we try to do about our sexual fantasies?
embrace them and not feel guilty about them
What were some findings from the NSSHB?
Men maturbated in their life and per month more than women. Men and women were equal in giving and receiving oral.
What are 8 sexual behaviours?
- Kissing
- Touching
- Mutual masturbation
- Oral sex
- Non-penetrative genital rubbing
- P-V intercourse
- Anal stimulation
- Anal intercourse
Cunnilingus and Fellatio is oral sex, but what do they mean?
Cunnilingus (oral sex on vulva)
Fellatio (oral sex on a penis)
Frottage, Tribadism and Interfemerol are all types of? and what do each of them mean?
Non-penetrative genital rubbing: o Frottage (dry humping usually with clothes): partners (clothed or not) rub or thrust any part of the other person's body o Tribadism (scissoring, when two people with vulvas put them together and rub them against each other) o Interfemerol intercourse (a man moves his penis between his partner's thighs without intromission)
An orgasm is not a behaviour but a… and an important component to…
sexual response.
Cultural sexual script ex: mutual orgasms in PVI signal the end of sex
what is often the goal of love making and an indicator of sexual satisfaction?
an orgasm
Why may many women not orgasm during PVI?
Because many people with clitorises require direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm
What 4 things contribute to sexual satisfaction as described in the interpersonal exchange model of sexual satisfaction?
- Relationship satisfaction: correlational but if you’re satisfied in one it usually translates to the other.
- Relative level of Rewards to costs: sexual rewards vs. sexual costs
- Comparison level of rewards and costs: how is the sex you’re having compares to what your expectations are ex: what the movies say
- Equality of Rewards and costs: you’re willing to do things for or with your partner even though you might not love it. So is there equality in the rewards and costs? Are you always giving your partner what they want that you might not want? But they’re not doing that back to you? If so, it actually lowers satisfaction for both parties
What are some 3 individual factors of sexual satisfaction?
- Age(younger age is associated with greater sexual satisfaction (30s))
- Fewer sexual problems(in general, but people can still report high sex satisfaction with a few problems)
- Greater frequency of orgasms(across and within sexual sessions)
What are some 2 relational factors of sexual satisfaction?
- Relationship satisfaction(if your happy in your relationship you tend to report more satisfaction with your sex life – correlational)
- Communication
What are 3 lifestyle factors of sexual satisfaction, and what happens in long term relationships?
- Work schedules(do you work opposite shifts and never see each other? Do you want to have sex at different times?)
- Children in the home
- Stress at work
Sexual satisfaction fluctuates in long term relationships
Monogamy is the…
most common relationship
What are 3 types of causal relationships and explain. also know that casual relationships can be monogamous
o Friends with benefits – can hang out in a non-sexual setting
o Booty call – often late at night usually involved in alcohol, more consistent but not necessarily a friend
o Hook up – more a one-time thing, don’t know the person
What is polyamory?
many loves. In committed, caring relationships with more than one person
What is polygamy? What are 2 specific types?
a type of polyamory but plural marriage. Being married to more than one person, usually happens in terms of a religious framework ex: Mormon.
o Often when we talk about it were talking about Polygyny: 1 man with many wives vs. Polyandry: 1 woman with many husbands.
What is swinging?
- usually couples who go have sexual relationships with other couples. The idea is you go have sex and then go back to your couple. Very often though people form friendships with the other swingers because of swinger parties and clubs.
What is a open relationship
- don’t fit under polyamory, swinging veil. A couple that has agreed to non-monogamous relationships. Could be a don’t ask don’t tell situation.
Infidelity/Pseudomonogamy
Very common, very often people think they are in monogamous relationships but only one person is and knows it.
o Side note: people who have 3-somes often say they are monogamous
What did we learn from the Ethical Slut & Jealousy (6)?
- Jealousy usually represents fear of losing someone
- Envy is wanting what someone else has
- Jealousy can be useful in learning about yourself
- Where is the emotion coming from? What insecurities or absences is it representing?
- Try not to avoid the bad feelings or make someone else fix them for you
- Caveat: Don’t let an abusive partner belittle you for your jealousy. Your partner should not try to make you jealous and then make fun of you for it. Your partner should respect those feelings.
What do all parties need to do for sexual contact?
give their consent
What are 2 key components to consent?
o 1. Clear understanding of what they are consenting to
o 2. Consent must be given freely and not coerced
Some studies indicated that many times people give consent using …
nonverbal cues
When and why should sex education start at a young age?
Consent education should start young (e.g., Don’t make kids hug or kiss people if they don’t want to)
Because it shows children that being polite is more important than their bodily autonomy
Slut-shaming & sexual discomfort interferes with people’s ability to …(2)
give and receive verbal consent
What are some ways we can ask for consent?
- “What would you like to do?”
- “How do you feel about this?”
- “Hey, is this okay?”
- “Should I get a condom?”
“Do you want to have sex?”
How common is sexual assault on campus and what is usually playing a role?
- Common & extremely under-reported
- Alcohol plays a huge role
What do we see a lot of times in fraternities and on sports teams?
Sexual coercion culture
ex: even in many romantic movies is a woman saying no and the man trying to convince her the whole time
What is sexual compliance vs. coercion?
compliance: consenting to sex in a long term relationship when individual does not desire sex at the moment. ex: maybe you’re doing it for your partner, or maybe you know you’ll be into it once you’re more turned on
coercion: is asking again after the person has already said no and is never ok
Describe the 3 Theoretical Perspective on How Media Influences Sexuality” Agenda-setting theory, Cultivation theory, Social Learning theory
Agenda-setting theory – the media influences our thoughts and behaviours by highlighting what we should pay attention to. Ex: a sexual topic that frequently appears in media is sharing sexually explicit photos among young adults (sexting), which becomes more important to consumers and influences their attitudes.
Cultivation theory – media portrayals create a shared set of values and expectations about reality among media consumers. Media depiction help us to develop a shared set of values. Ex: what does good sex look like?
Social learning theory – core psychology theory, individuals model characters seen in media, especially those who receive positive rewards
What are 5 positive and negative influences from the media?
- We are exposed to sexual content from a much earlier age than ever before (Netflix)
- Media may reinforce unrealistic sexual expectations
- Problematic media narratives around consent
- Media can have educational benefits, as well, and encourage open discussion about safer sex, sexual health (can encourage discussion)
- Access to reliable information online
What is soft-core material?
erotically suggestive without showing genitals or sexual penetration
What is hard-core material?
explicitly depicting genitals or penetration
What is phone sex?
sexual activity that rakes place via telephone, either through live conversations or by listening to sexually explicit pre-recorded messages
