quiz 8 Flashcards
research shows as much as _____ of our communication time is spent listening
2/3
phrase the speakers meaning
state in your own words, be objective, confirm
understanding the speakers feelings
echo feelings engage in perception checking, empathy
ask questions
support the speaker, dont stray from topic
leveling
detail reduced, things omitted, loss of complexity
sharpening
items heightened or emphasized
assimilation
interpret something based on your biases, expectations, and needs; the message is reconstructed to reflect your views
attending
2nd step, devoting attention to the information to the information you have received
salience
what was most noticeable/significant
mental bracketing
put irrelevant thoughts aside
receiving
1st step, when seeing and hearing are experienced together
noise pollution
sound in the surrounding environment that obscures or distracts our attention from auditory input
multitasking
using multiple forms of tech at once, try to limit this to elevate attention to improve attending
understanding
3rd step, of interpreting the meaning of another person’s communication by comparing new information with past knowledge
short term memory
temporarily houses information
long term memory
devoted to permanent information storage
responding
4th step, communicating their attention and understanding to you
feedback
positive/negative, timing
back channel cues
verbal/nonverbal cues
paraphrasing
summarizing others comments
recalling
5th stage, remembering information is a crucial part of the listening process
mneemonics
devices to aid memory
eavesdropping
intentionally listening to private convorsations
pseudo listening
behaving as if you are paying attention though you are really not
aggressive listening
ambushing, only listening to someone to attack what they see
narcissistic listening
self-absorbed listening: the perpetrators ignore what others have to say and redirect the consequences to themselves or their own interests
listening to comprehend
accurately interpreting and store the information you recieve
listening to dicern
distinguishing one sound from another, listening to vocal tone
listening to analyze
carefully evaluate the message you are receiving and you judge it
listening to appreciate
simply enjoying the sounds and sights you are experiencing
listening to support
suspend judgment and openly express empathy
task oriented listeners
seeing listening as a transaction, prefer brief, to the point and accurate messages from others
relational listeners
view listening as an opportunity to build and maintain relationships with others
critical listeners
focus on the accuracy and consistency of what another person says; critically consider and evaluate
analytical listeners
withhold judgment until they have considered all the facts and issues
nonverbal communication
uses multiple sensory channels, more ambiguous, has fewer rules, has more meaning (mixed meaning)
_____ nonverbal communication, _____ verbal
93%, 7%
_____ body language, _____ voice, _____ words
55%, 38%, 7%
vocalists
how you say something, vocal and nonverbal - loudness, pitch, tone, and speech rate
haptics
social polite - most common handshake
functional - professional
friendship - warmth
love - intimacy
sexual - arousal
aggressive - hostile
masking
project emotions you don’t feel
intensifying
exaggerating a feeling
deintensifying
underplaying a feeling
neutralizing
no emotion
eye messages
express emotions, monitor feedback, regulate and control, hostility - prolonged staring
civil inattention
things normally done in private - see in public avert your gaze
emblems
translate into words
illitrators
enhance messages
regulators
control conversations
adaptors
self - itch, move hair out of eyes
alter - do onto someone else
object - playing with a pen
immediacy
find someone interesting or attractive
power
influence or control other people
passive
gestures below your waist. lack of eye contact, poor body posture
assertive
gestures between your waist and chest, elbows are moving, strong eye contact
aggressive
gestures above the chest, loud and. demanding voice, intense eye contact
passive aggressive
communicate with a variety of body language movements, muttering, and facial expressions that don’t match words
territorially
the tendency to claim physical spaces as your own and to define certain locations as areas we don’t want others to invade without permission
public territory
have temporary occupancy
primary territory
exclusive to the owner
secondary territory
not exclusive to the you
central marker
reserves your place
boundary marker
divides territories with others