quiz 5 Flashcards
agape love
consists of selflessness, compassion, forgiveness, and giving. Shows high regard for your partner’s welfare and happiness, would endure anything for the person
storage love
consists of a deep feeling of friendship with an emphasis on companionship, trust, and similarity in attitudes and values–start as friends
pragma love
consists of a focus on the partners assets with a lack of sentimental feeling, is practical, similar beliefs, and focuses on finding a relationship that works. Love is a useful relationship, logical, similar background, future goals
ludus love
consists of game playing and fun, but avoids any commitment (exciting), not to be taken seriously
eros love
consists of intense emotions, sentiments, and the idealization of your partner, focus on beauty and physical attractiveness, chemistry
mania love
consists of violent changes in emotion, intense dependency, jealousy (love/hate) elation and depression extreme highs and lows, loving intensely while at the same time worrying about the loss of love, can be obsessive
1st - regret (effective apology)
realize you hurt someone, show empathy
2nd - responsibility (effective apology)
own up to what you did, no excuses, or blaming
3rd - remedy (effective apology)
promise not to repeat; the action you will take to make sure it doesn’t happen again
positivity
cheerful and optimistic, the most important tactic for ensuring happiness
assurances
emphasizes how much a partner means to you, loves you, prioritizes your partner
sharing tasks
mutual responsibility for chores and labor, most frequently practiced
acceptance
accept us for who we are, forgive flaws
self discloser
creates security and trust
relationship talks
discuss status, goals, future
social networks
important members approve
relational dialectics
openness vs protection, autonomy vs connection, novelty vs prediction
mere exposure effect
more you see = more attractive
beautiful is good effect
matching level of attractiveness
birds of a feather effect
attracted to those that we perceive as similar
reciprocal liking
mutual attraction to each other
social exchange theory
profits = rewards - costs
equity
balance of rewards and costs are equal over time
______ adults say they have used a dating app, and ______stated online dating has made dating easier for them
3/10, 40%
initiating
size up a person, within 4 min. have an impression of the person, greeting in person or online
experimenting
small talk, demographic info, most involvements never progress beyond this stage
intensifying
revel previously withheld info, share secrets, terms of endearment, use of “we”
integrating
you and your partners personalities seem to become one, use of “our”, treated as a couple
bonding
public ritual, sharing a commitment
the estimated median age to marry for the first time was _____ for men and _____ for women 2022, up from ages _____ for men and _____ for women in 1947
30.1, 28.2
23.7, 20.5
relationship challenges
romantic betrayal, infidelity, deception, jealousy, wedging
_____ of women and _____ of men experience contact with sexual violence, physical violence, and or stalking by an intimate partner
41%, 26%
Differentiating
beliefs, attitudes, and values that distinguish you from your partner dominate–“we are so different”
circumscribing
restrict the quantity and quality of info, create “safe zones”
stagnating
communication at a standstill, stuck, trapped
avoiding
distancing yourself, communicate this directly or indirectly
terminating
couples discuss the past, present, and future of the relationship, and discuss “being friends”, which can be painful or awkward
