maintaining and enhancing relationship Flashcards
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cognitive maintainance strategies
- cognitive interdepence
- positive illusions
- percieved superiority
- inattention to alternatives
- derogation of tempting alternatives
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cognitive interdependence
thinking of themselves as a part of a greater whle that includes the partner (us vs me)
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positive illusions
think their relationship is going better than it is
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percieved superiority
thinking relationship is better than other peoples
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behavioral maintainence mechanisms
- willingness to sacrifice
- prayer
- michelangelo phenomenon - sculpt eachother to be better
- accomodation
- self-control
- play(novelty)
- forgiveness
- recognize when wrong
- apologize appropriately
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canary and stafford relational maintenence strategies
- positivity
- opennes
- relationship talk
- assurances
- understanding
- sharing tasks
- social networks
- joint activities
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positivity as a maintence strategy
strive to make interactions enjoyable
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openness
encourage partner to disclose their wants
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relationship talk
encourages partner to disclose thoughts and feelings
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assurances
try to show partner how much they mean
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understanding
apologize when wrong; strive to be patient w partner
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sharing tasks
help equally w tasks than need to be done
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social networks
do thing w/ partners friends and families
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joint activities
share time; do things together
