love Flashcards
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how did the Greeks view love
- passionate attraction is a form of madness that had nothing to do with marriage
- admired platonic attraction
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what is courtly love (12th century)
- knight seeks love as a noble quest, devoting themselves to a lady of high standing
- usually an unmarried man going for a married woman
- idealistic, elegant and non sexual
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how was love thought about in the middle ages?
- marriage had nothing to do with romance
- serious matter of politics and prosperity
- sex wasn’t condoned even between husband and wife
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why is North America’s view of love different from other regions?
- individualism
- economic prosperity
- lack of caste system
- individual chooses the partner
- emotional connection not economic gain
define:
intimacy
triangular theory of love
feelings of warmth, understanding, trust, support and sharing
emotional
define:
passion
triangular theory of love
physical arousal/ desire, excitement and need; typically sexual feelings but can be any strong emotional need that is satisfied
motive
define:
commitment
triangular theory of love
feelings of permanence, stability, decision to devote oneself to the other and to work and maintain it
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types of love
- nonlove
- liking
- infatuation
- empty love
- romantic love
- companionate love
- fatuous love
- consummate love
define:
non-love
no intimacy, commitment or passion is present
aquaintance not friend
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liking
high intimacy, low passion and commitment
friendship
define
infatuation
high in passion, low in intimacy and commitment
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empty love
high in commitment, low in intimacy and passion
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romantic love
high in intimacy and passion; commitment is irrelevant
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companionate love
high in intimacy and commitment low in passion
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fatuous love
high in passion and commitment low in intimacy
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consummate love
high in intimacy, passion and commitment
true or false
love,commitment and passion share the same brain structure.
false
they are controlled by differnt brain structures.
define:
lust
sex drive, regulated by sex hormones; motivates us to have successful reproduction
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attraction
regulated by dopamine in the reward circuit; promotes pursuit of preferred partner
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attachment
regulated by oxytocin, feelings of comfort, security and connection; keep couples long enough to protect and sustain children
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differences between romantic love and compassionate love
- companionate love is calmer
- romantic love produces dopamine
- companionate love produces oxytocin
define:
compassionate love
combines trust and understanding of intimacy w compassion and caring that involves empathy, self-awareness and sacrifice on behavlf of beloved.
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styles of loving
- eros
- ludus
- mania
- pragma
- Storge
- agape
define:
eros
strong physical component; influenced by physical appearance; beleif in love at 1s sight
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ludus
non commital, many partners at once
define
storge
(store-gay)
deemphasize strong emotion, seek genuine friendship
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mania
demanding and possessive full of vivid fantasy/obsession
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agape
(ah-gah-pay)
giving, altrusitic and selfless; love as a duty
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pragma
practical and pragmatic; look for good logical matches.
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differences between women and men in love
- men possess more romantic attitudes
- women are more discriminating, less accepting of casual sex
- mens satisfaction is based on passion
- women’s satisfaction based on commitment
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What adds excitement to a long-term relationship
novelty
define:
coolidge effect
effect of novelty on arousal
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what does robert Sterberg say love is?
made up of three components
List
Helen Fishers interrelated but distinct biological systems of love
- lust
- attraction
- attachment
true or false
people ignore or reinterpret undesireable information about someone they are interested in
true
define:
heterocentric
assumption of a universal heterosexual orientation
hetero is taken for granted
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what brain structure is different in gay men vs straight men and what is the difference?
the intersitial nucleus in the hypothalamus is smaller in gay men
Answer:
how much more likely are lesbians to be left handed. (Percentage)
91%
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how much more likely are gay men to be left handed? (percentage)
34%
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things more likely to make you gay
- index to ring finger ratio
- penis length (longer)
- diethylstilbestrol exposure
- the big brother effect
define:
big brother effect
the more older brothers, the more likely to be gay.
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How much influence does genetic factors have on being gay
small influence (18-39%)
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how much influence does environmental factors have on being gay?
very little (0-17%)
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how much influence does uterine and childbirth conditons influence being gay
strongest influence (60%)
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common myths about being gay
- gay men have domineering mothers, weak fathers
- gay women have cold rejecting parents
- homosexuals are afraid of other sex
- "”molested as children
- more likely to engage in sex play/ same sex as kids
- more likely to have a gay parent
Answer:
who proposed the idea of “Exotic makes erotic”
Daryl Bem
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what does “exotic becomes erotic”
what is exotic in childhood becomes erotic
Answer
what percentage of highschools teach all 16 components of sex ed as reccommended by the CDC?
middle school?
50% and 20%
Answer:
how many states mandate sex ed?
23
Answer:
how many states require sex ed to be medically accurate
13
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consequences of bad sex ed
- higher rates of STI
- unplanned pregnancy
- problems with consent
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outcomes of American sex ed
compared to dutch sample
- sexually active younger
- more sexual partners
- less likely to use birthcontrol
- more likely to have 1st encounter due to peer pressure
- mom focused on risks and dangers, dad’s made jokes if talked at all.
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outcomes of dutch sex ed
- sexually active older
- fewer sexual partners
- more likely to use birthcontrol
- report 1st encounter was love
- more likely to expect to combine sex and love
- both parents talked from early age about joy and responsibility
list:
rape myths
- women say no but mean yes
- women enjoy being coerced
- women want sex from all men
- women enjoy all sex acts
define:
gonzo pornography
free, easily accessible
list
ways porn affects relationships
- more you watch porn, less you are able to have sex w human being
- perceptions of what your partner might like are off
- sex is something you do to women, not with
define
desensitization
need porn to have adequate arousal
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sexual self-disclosure
revealing private sexual thoughts -desires/backgrounds/fears etc.- to another person
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campsite rule
in any relationship, the partners have a responsibility to leave eachother in a good state (emotionally and physically) as before the relationship. leaving nothing behind
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Good, giving and game
- aim to be good in bed
- by being giving (equal time, equal pleasure)
- and being game (up for anything)
define:
sexual philosophy
through the process of learning who you are, what you want and don’t want, and planning ahead, you will be in charge of sexual situations.
answer:
what is the average age for sexual debut
17
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themes/reasons for sex
- emotional
- physical
- pragmatic
- insecurity
Define
how many women get pregnant before 20
1/4
answer:
how many teenage girls have an STI
more than 1/4
define
extradyadic sex
sex outside the couple/dyad
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which gender is more likely to cheat
men
define
sociosexual orientation
traitlike collections of beliefs and behaviors that describe our feeling about sex
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restricted sociosexual orientation
genrally willing to only have sex in committed relationships
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unrestricted sociosexual orientation
those who don’t seek much closeness or committment before having sex
define
good gene hypothesis
women with less desireable mates can benefit from dual mating strategy
1. pursue long term partners who contribute resources
2. seek good genes from other men
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sperm competition
occurs when sperm from multiple men occupy a womans vagina
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illusion of unique invulnerability
thinking bad things happen to other people not you
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alcohol myopia
reduction of persons abilites to think about an process all information when intoxicated
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pluralistic ignorance
wrongly believing that their feelings and beliefs are different from those of others
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sexual growth beliefs
sexual satisfaction is something you work for
define
sexual destiny beliefs
to have great sex find sexual soulmate.
