Lesson 7: Conflict in Relationship pt. 1 Flashcards
1
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3 R’s stages in relationship
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- romantic
- reality
- resolve
2
Q
romantic
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- “honeymoon” stage
- all on best behaviour, building oxytocin
3
Q
signs of the romantic stage
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- talking abt them
- dismissing friends
- can’t sleep
- lose appetite
- putting on sweet voice
4
Q
reality
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- conflict
- flaws appear
- less tolerance of negative behaviour
- discover communication style (silent treatment/anger, etc)
5
Q
what conflicts may arise during reality stage
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- bad habits (drinking/smoking/skipping)
- person’s past
- setting boundaries
- talking to ppl
6
Q
resolve
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- break up or work it out
-negotiate*, compromise, flexible
7
Q
why do some couples break up at the resolve stage
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oxytocin not built up enough
8
Q
what are the 3 R’s like in an unhealthy relationship
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a cycle
9
Q
sources of conflict (7)
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- money
- chores
- parenting style/kids
- spending time
- habits
- intimacy
- in-laws
10
Q
type of crises
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- normative: predictable/common
- non-normative: unpredictable
11
Q
normative crisis examples
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- kids
- chores
- money
- midlife crisis
12
Q
non-normative crisis examples
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- unplanned pregnancy
- pets
- new job
- death
- cheating
13
Q
why is it hard to resolve conflict in relationships?
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- communication diffs: how we express, listen, and interpret
- role expectations: from media, culture, gender, our family
14
Q
how do men and women differ rearding communication
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- women: want ppl to relate, validate emotions
- men: fix problem, compete
