How to talk and listen Flashcards
What to do when child is upset? (4)
Take child one on one: Listen quiet and attentively
Acknowledge feelings: “Oh…Mmm…I see”
Give feeling a name: That sounds frustrating!
Give wishes in fantasy:
let me pull my magic pencil…
I wish I could make the banana ripe for you right now
When and why to empathize with your child? 3/3)
When they demonstrate negative emotions
You should acknowledge their feelings, not necessarily agree with them
People need sb to recognize what they are experiencing
Notice - Name - Nourish
Notice when your child does something positive.
- Name what you notice to your child, and explain the value in what you see.
- Nourish your child with warmth. The tone of your voice conveys as much or more than the words, so make sure you sound sincere.
Here’s an example: “Jared, I see you working very hard at that math problem. I noticed that you tried a few times without quitting. That shows me that you don’t give up easily — good for you!”
How to play game with kids?
Especially not win-loose ones.
Talk to them:
Ask them what strategies they’re using, and what they’ve learned about overcoming obstacles or moving past frustration.
If they think about these things in low-pressure situations, they’ll know how to deal with real-world events that throw them for a loop.
How to talk to kid after they have recovered from getting stuck?
“I noticed yesterday that you got stuck. It was really hard for you, right? You’re probably going to face difficult problems like that again. Let’s talk about what you can do next time. What are some ways I could help you, or what strategies could you use next time to get past that tough spot?”
How to solve conflicts depending on topics?
by father Mike
If it’s principle - show them love by explaining it to them
If it’s preference - give it to them
How to engage in small talk ?
I’am curious ….
Truth to remember about meeting any new person
“Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something.”
the ability to make others feel comfortable - a personality trait is called…..
the affective presence
The study found that each person gives off a certain vibe, an emotional impact they have on others, regardless of how they are feeling.
Noah Eisenkraft and Hillary Anger Elfenbein
The four stages of deep interpersonal connection in conversation ?
listening
hearing
understanding
validating
How to treat Polish macho men?
Play according to their game
Let them win
Praise like Iwona does
What to do with somebody with low confidence?
Reassure and enable them by praising what they are good at
Be dream maker not dream breaker
Accept the person like she is
Jeżeli ktoś może nie wierzyć Twojej pochwale (?sarkastyczne)- co zrobić?
Dodaj gest aprobaty i pochwały
How to use PAUSE to manage unconscious bias? ABOG 2021
Pay attention Acknowledge your assumptions Understand your perspective Seek different perspectives Examine your options and make a decision
Steps for sharing Serious News (4)
SGO 2024 from Vital Talk
ASK what they know
ASK permission to share
TELL information as “Headline”
Expect EMOTION & respond
