Exam study

Question 1

4 facts on divorce

Answer 1

1) Men and women are getting married later (29 - 30)
2) Couples are living together before marriage
3) Higher chance for divorce rate if you get married young or live together before marriage

Current divorce rate 32%-44%

Question 2

What is Sternbergs triangular theory of love

Answer 2

1) Intimacy: Feelings of closeness, connectedness and boundedness
2) Passion: Drives that lead to romance, physical attraction and sex
3) Commitment: In short term, decision that one loves a certain other. In long term, ones committed to maintain that love

Question 3

Intimacy + Passion =
Passion + Commitment =
Intimacy + Commitment =

Answer 3

1) Romantic Love
2) Fatuous Love
3) Companionate Love

Question 4

Intimacy + Passion + Commitment =

Answer 4

Consummate Love

Question 5

Oxytocin is the

Answer 5

Love, cuddle and bonding hormone

Question 6

Testosterone and oestrogen

Answer 6

Development of male and female sexuality
sex desire

Question 7

Epinephrine and norepinephrine

Answer 7

Adrenaline rush
Hert beats faster
Fight or flight
Happens in the presence of potential love partner

Question 8

Dopamine

Answer 8

Associated with pleasure, motivation and concentration

Question 9

What is Iatrogenic risk

Answer 9

• Risk that a person who is not symptomatic will become so during or after therapy

Question 10

Reasons to choose not do do couples therapy

Answer 10

Suspiscions of DV
You know them
Issue is more individual
Extra-marital affairs, child abuse, addictive behaviour?

Question 11

The therapist may lose battle for structure if they

Answer 11

Fail to decide who the client is
Fail to recognise the relationship starts from first client contact
Don’t stay neutral
Fail to address transference and counter transference

Question 12

How does neutrality get maintained when it’s obvious one person is damaging the relationship more than the other, or one person is obviously more committed?

Answer 12

Focus more on the pain and emotion than the behaviour

Question 13

7 forms of DV

Answer 13

Physical: shoving
Sexual: degrading jokes and comments, injury during sex, unwanted touching, coercing consent for sex. Sex is a privilege, not a _____
Verbal: Name calling, berating, put downs
Emotional: Blaming, making women appear unstable, using children, controlling what they wear, mind games
Social: jealousy of other men including – control of who partner can see
Economic: Gives woman all the money and expects her to do everything, the criticises, questions, and checks financial. Deprives woman of all access to money eg no money, no credit cards, no cheque account
Spiritual: Quotes religious books to de-power woman and keep her in a one-down position,

Question 14

Key characteristics of DV

Answer 14

Fear, Control, Power

Question 15

Cycle of abuse

Answer 15

Honeymoon forgive me -> tension increase -> abuse/violence -> honeymoon forgive me etc…
Denial at the centre

Question 16

4 types of DV

Answer 16

Situational violence- triggered by a particular issue (appears to be the most common type)
Intimate terrorism- violence is one-way (often male to female) and is about control
Violent resistance- happens in the context of intimate terrorism- may be about self-protection or about protest
Mutual violent control- struggle for control by both partners

Question 17

What happens to children in divorce?

Answer 17

1) Most children function well after the initial year or two, despite the pain of the divorce

2) young children are often very confused, frightened and may regress in their toileting habits. Reactions are similar to the loss of a loved one.

3) Adolescents less likely to blame themselves than younger children, can be pushed into ‘false maturity’, suffer depression or be pushed into a risk behaviours.

Question 18

Stages in Divorce Counselling - Paul

Answer 18

1) Check for signs of life.
2) Perform CPR
3) If there are no indicators of life, consign body to the morgue.
4) Plan funeral
5) Aftermath

Question 19

What is most important in divorce counselling

Answer 19

Ensuring both partners and children are safe. Safety trumps therapy every time.