Couples Counseling

Question 1

Gottman: Four Horses of the apocalypse

Answer 1

Criticism
Contempt
Defensiveness
Stonewalling

Question 2

Gottman: Four hourses + antidote

Answer 2

Criticism –> soft start
Contempt –> share fondness and admiration
Defensiveness –> accountability
Stonewalling –> self soothing

Question 3

The Sound Relationship House

Answer 3

Create shared meaning
Make life dreams come true
Manage conflict
The positive perspective
Turn towards instead of away
Share fondness and admiration
Build Lovemaps - marital friendship

Question 4

IPV

Answer 4

Always assess for IPV, each partner individually
Begin with general questions > more specific
Ask questions for both perp and victim
Always ask if there are firearms in the home
Always assess for safety of children
If IPV present, possibly end couples therapy
Assess for severity and frequency
Provide resources for victim and create safety plan
Refer perp to group therapy

Question 5

Initial Marital Assessments

Answer 5

IPV
Oral history
Withdrawer/Pursuer loop
Relationship conflict style

Question 6

EFT 5 Basic Moves

Answer 6

1. Reflect what you observe in the couple’s interaction
2. Access deeper emotions
3. Enact with deeper emotion communication
4. Process enactment (how does it feel to hear this)
5. Summarize (validation)

Question 7

LGBTQ+

Answer 7

Minority stress
Assess circle of support, encourage friendships with other LGBT couples if isolated